Karma

[librabean1]

I have a question about Karma. I have a friend who is also going into nursing school after getting her Bachlor's in communacations but hated it. She listened to me after having two kids and no college degree, talk up nursing and decided to try it too. I started year's before her picking off one class at a time and advised her to do the same b/c I stressed everyday to do well. Telling her that even though her englishs and social sciences were done these sciences (A&P ect.) where really tough. She said no she'd be fine she didn't have kids and she'd already had the full time college experience so she felt prepared. Anyways my question is..now she's in her first semester and has already called me to go over A&p with her to help us both out. Me to reveiw and her to learn. I just feel that she knows how hard I worked and wants someone whose already been there to help her out. But now I'm taking nursing classes and I really don't have time to help. Am I going to get bad Karma or what?

[Jules A, MSN]

Well even though you told her so, if you had the time I think it would be nice if you helped her, however if I read correctly and you are actually in nursing school I wouldn't feel bad about declining her request. I've always believed in being helpful to others. I shared my notes and sources but that didn't include taking time away from my own studies. I think you get a pass this time. :)

[suni, BSN, RN]

i think you need to concentrate on passing yourself and she needs to buckle down and do her work.

[AtomicWoman]

I don't think her request reflects badly on her. In fact, it shows she wants to succeed and is willing to seek out help to do well. However, you are already in nursing school and you have more than a full plate! Just politely tell her that you really don't have the time and if you did review with her, it would increase YOUR stress level because it would be taking time away from your nursing studies. If she doesn't understand or gets huffy, that's her problem.

You can always direct her to this website, to the pre-nursing forum, to get help. :)

[Daytonite, BSN, RN]

The thing about Karma is that you can't know which end it's coming from without inner reflection and meditation. Did you consider that what's happening to you now could be Karma you're getting back for something you did in a past lifetime or something you did years ago?

[Bicster]

Am I going to get bad Karma or what?

Yes but as long as no black cats cross your path and you dont walk under any ladders......you should be ok.

[Tharem]

I think you'll get more bad Karma by subjugating your decisions based on good/bad karmic outcomes rather than on the true needs of your life and personality in its relationship with others and the world, equally honoring your own needs as well as those of others.

If a decision that you make as a result of those considerations leads to bad karma, then you will learn from it.

Trying to determine the outcome beforehand so you can avoid your lessons is cheating!!

[bekindtokittens]

I'm not sure I even believe in karma, but I do believe in helping my friends. It makes them, and me, feel good.

Go ahead and give her your notes. And if she's a friend, you spend time with her occasionally, right? There's no reason why you couldn't spend an hour or so once or twice a month having a coffee and talking about A&P.

Of course, do not do anything to jeopardize your schooling. While I care about my friends and want to see them do their best, I do not put their goals ahead of mine. Give her a bit of your time only if you can spare it.

[Nursetastic]

A friend and I were in the same type of situation. I explained to her that I do not have the time to sit and tutor her because of my class and clinical loads. I did, however, offer her my notes. I'm an extremely organized student so I loaned her my notebooks (with the understanding that she return them promptly at the end of the semester) but before doing so I removed all of my own original research papers and any quizzes or exams given by the instructor so that no academic integrity was violated. Since she had the same instructor as I did I also cleared it with him before giving her my notes. He was ok with it and she ended up passing the class with a B and credits my notes with helping her. She is now a semester behind me in the program and has developed some study buddies and is doing wonderfully.

As far as Karma...I am a strong believer. As someone said before, Karma (positive or negative) could be the result of something from yesterday or many years ago, or possibly in another life. Best advice is to live an honest and caring life, do what you can when you can. Then you'll never have to worry about negative Karma.

For now, you need to focus on passing nursing school. Your friend should understand! Good luck!:icon_hug: