had job offer but NM had "CONCERNS" about me, should I accept??

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i'm a new grad who got an RN offer in the hospital I'm working in as a CNA. The potential manager called my manager for a reference and she told her that she has "concerns" about me regarding communication. Now The only instance I can think of was a miscommunication between my manager and her assistant manager who I have kept in touch with the whole time since she schedules people for work. In that situation I got an angry call from my manager stating that she was still my manager and that if I no longer wanted to work for her she could transfer me. Even though I have kept in touch her with asst manager, I guess that was not communicated to her. meanwhile she thinks I have NOT been working all this time, when in reality I have and have even been floated to other units because they did not need me. Apparently they have needed me and the asst. manager did not schedule me. anyway, that was cleared up. I guess she was also upset about the fact that there was a period in time that I haven't worked for a few months because I can only work on fridays and they don't need me on fridays. But I told them this in my interview! I feel like my manager had an overall bad impression of me and related that to the potential manager. SO now the potential manager has offerred me a position and I got an official offer from HR. if i take this job i would turn down my other one, but even though I got the official offer I am nervous that they will rescind it later. Can they do that? I want to call the manager and ask her again if she is completely comfortable with her decision to hire me, would that be too annoying of me? She said "i will take this chance with you, but you're gonna need to ask questions and be a part of the team, you can't be standoffish". I had no idea where this is comming from or what my manager told her but I have NEVER had issues with the ppl I worked with now my new manager will think I'm not a team player. I don't want to start off being already the trouble child, I don't think its fair to me. what should I do? I feel that now I have to prove myself and it is not fair to me.

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Specializes in pre hospital, ED, Cath Lab, Case Manager.

If you have another offer I would go with that. Starting a new job in that situation could be placing yourself in a bad situation.

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Specializes in Emergency & Trauma/Adult ICU.
I feel that now I have to prove myself and it is not fair to me.

As a new nurse (or new employee in any field), it is indeed your job to prove yourself, to take advantage of the opportunity that's being given to you, to grow as a nurse and to contribute back to the organization. That will be case no matter where you work.

If you like the hospital and that particular unit and want to stay, then knowing exactly what communication issues caused problems for you will hopefully allow you to avoid a repeat of the same situation.

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If at all possible, I would avoid working around this person. She could have gave you a new chance with your new career, but instead, she chose to be a jerk and ruin your name right from the start.

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should i take the job? this new manager now thinks I'm not a team player, but said she would give me a chance. what would you do?

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Specializes in Emergency & Trauma/Adult ICU.

As with many things in life, it comes down to:

How bad do you want it?

Are you willing to perhaps bend over backwards to make sure you're viewed as a team player? Are you confident that you know exactly what went wrong in the previous situation so that you can avoid a repeat? Is this hospital/unit more desirable than other offers?

Only you can decide this.

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As with many things in life, it comes down to:

How bad do you want it?

Are you willing to perhaps bend over backwards to make sure you're viewed as a team player? Are you confident that you know exactly what went wrong in the previous situation so that you can avoid a repeat? Is this hospital/unit more desirable than other offers?

Only you can decide this.

well, to be honest, my manager NEVER brought up any communication problems to me, so I don't know the answer to this question. I already accepted but is it reasonable for me to call the new manager and followup to see how comfortable she really is about hiring me? she said she would call my manager again. i just accepted today.

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Yes, you should call and get this out of the way. Just be open and honest about how you feel. This person should understand that you have been very concerned about this, and you need to know. If may put your mind at rest. Then move on, because you have to keep yourself focused, there will be much to learn.

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Specializes in Emergency & Trauma/Adult ICU.
well, to be honest, my manager NEVER brought up any communication problems to me, so I don't know the answer to this question. I already accepted but is it reasonable for me to call the new manager and followup to see how comfortable she really is about hiring me? she said she would call my manager again. i just accepted today.

OK ... this is getting a little convoluted.

Should you accept???? You already did hon, and in my book that's a commitment. You can break it of course, it wouldn't be the first time in the history of the world that that has been done. But I would suggest you think about why you accepted it in the first place if you weren't sure.

From your other posts, I am getting a picture of a person very busily collecting job offers but having little internal direction. Stop, take a breath, and evaluate these offers methodically and seriously. Think carefully about your school clinical experiences. Are there certain disease processes or patient populations you were particularly interested in? Think about the non-clinical aspects of a job that are particularly important to you (location, type of hospital, etc.) Consider what you have been told about orientation for each of these positions. This is how you begin to plan a career.

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Where ever you go, you may have to prove yourself. The nurse manager offering you the position said what said based on the only reference of you got. So if I were you and I really want this job, I will accept the offer and prove myself. In the long run, the mamager will come to know. However, if there is another offer with no issue, then take that one.

By the way, do you know that your ex manager had no right to give you a bad reference?

Goodluck

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I think the post by MLOS is awesome. I really do think it is all about internal direction. It is a hard lesson to learn that you really do have to figure out what you want or have some other compelling reason to do what you want or need to do. It gives one focus and direction.

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Where ever you go, you may have to prove yourself. The nurse manager offering you the position said what said based on the only reference of you got. So if I were you and I really want this job, I will accept the offer and prove myself. In the long run, the mamager will come to know. However, if there is another offer with no issue, then take that one.

By the way, do you know that your ex manager had no right to give you a bad reference?

Goodluck

No i had no idea. SInce it was the same hospital the manager interact regularly. The new manager just told me she was going to contact my current manager. Never really asked my permission, she just did it. This makes me mad but I guess there's nothing I can do about it now.

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