Wondering if anyone else is seeing this. We were talking about sending kids home on another thread. I've had more than a few who march into the office demanding care. I make them stop and say hello and tell me their name if I don't know them. Then those who have already decided they are going home launch into academy award winning performances on the phone with their parents and then when they encounter resistance actually start bullying the parents. Screaming, crying, hanging up, calling 10 times. We are talking 4th grade. What is up with the disrespect?? Anybody else have similar stories?
I try to think of it more as, "And once upon a time, WE were as bad as THEM!"
Nope, sorry, that doesn't fly. I wouldn't have gotten away with 10% of what I see some of these little SHs doing. Thank God. As flawed as my upbringing was in many ways, I'm grateful my dad was a hard ass. I always knew he loved me and rode me hard because he saw my potential, but at the end of the day, his utter refusal to brook any crap from me has served me well. It taught me discipline early in life and I really think that and fear of disappointing him saved me from a lot of poor choices with bad consequences. I've tried to raise my kids with basically the same paradigm, and so far things look good. My oldest (of 5) leaves home this summer to embark on becoming an aerospace engineer and physicist, and she's horrified by behavior she sees in her peers and younger kids.
I worked at a maximum security prison and at a high school. Guess which one has the most offensive language?
One of the teachers told me earlier today, one of his former coworkers in another school system had left teaching to work in a prison. That guy said it was a night and day difference in stress levels. Prison being the least stressful of the two. Inmates show more respect in that setting than school students.
One of the teachers told me earlier today, one of his former coworkers in another school system had left teaching to work in a prison. That guy said it was a night and day difference in stress levels. Prison being the least stressful of the two. Inmates show more respect in that setting than school students.
Because they pay a high price when they don't. Human nature doesn't change.
When parents make the price of disrespect high enough to be unpleasant, you'll see a change in how kids act.
Red Kryptonite
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Nope, sorry, that doesn't fly. I wouldn't have gotten away with 10% of what I see some of these little SHs doing. Thank God. As flawed as my upbringing was in many ways, I'm grateful my dad was a hard ass. I always knew he loved me and rode me hard because he saw my potential, but at the end of the day, his utter refusal to brook any crap from me has served me well. It taught me discipline early in life and I really think that and fear of disappointing him saved me from a lot of poor choices with bad consequences. I've tried to raise my kids with basically the same paradigm, and so far things look good. My oldest (of 5) leaves home this summer to embark on becoming an aerospace engineer and physicist, and she's horrified by behavior she sees in her peers and younger kids.