In love with my psyche nurse?

[Hyacinthk]

Completely in love with my psyche nurse (guy) was in hospital for three months,I've been there four times for three month intervals.I never really noticed this psyche nurse but this time he was my nurse nearly every other day.Can nurses put a preference for patients?

The other times I had a different nurse everyday,but this time he always seemed to be my nurse.I had massive sparks with him from the second or third day,another patient commented on it to me without me ever mentioning him to her (such are our intuitive powers,ha).

I am a 'schizophrenic' patient by the way,pretty mild in that i appear completely normal,functional,articulate,always the most immactuately groomed patient on ward and often mistaken for a staff member,I have episodes every six months,usually just visions.

Anyway with other patients and generally he appears reserved and very quiet with me he's overly chatty,always in a really good mood when he's going to be my nurse.we make intense eye contact a lot,it's a real rush being around him.

I talk to the nurses for hours about my views on everything,psychiatry,the whole idea of mental disorders,spirituality,my life,philosophy etc so this guy knows everything about me,what exactly do they write about us?

Anyway all I have is his first name and where he works and a few things he told me,I think he has my Instagram and name that's it.

Anyway patient relationships are a big no no,correct? I dreamt while in the hospital that I had a past life with him which would explain the massive sparks.

[A&Ox6, MSN, RN]

Seriously? I know that this probably some sort of joke, but you started an account on allnurses.com to post this?

[Whispera, MSN, RN]

It's totally NOT ok for your nurse to be in your personal life. Please do your best to get over this.

[Hyacinthk]

Im totally serious,it took four seconds and I want to know what nurses write about us.

Seriously? I know that this probably some sort of joke, but you started an account on allnurses.com to post this?

[JustBeachyNurse, LPN]

This is a common syndrome to create a personal relationship in your mind (you "dreamt(sic) about him") with a caregiver where none exists in reality.

It's inappropriate and unprofessional.

Walk away now. I can guarantee the psychiatric nurse values his professional license and gainful employment more than your perceived "relationship"

[elkpark]

Yes, relationships with clients are "a big no no." What you're feeling is normal and common enough, but it's not "real," and your nurse would have to be willing to throw away his career in order to enter into any kind of relationship with you (plus, be a really poor excuse for a psych nurse ...). Enjoy the crush for what it is, but don't read any more into it or expect any more from it.

Since you asked, psych nurses chart about clients' behavior and interaction during the shift. For reasons of time and workload, we usually try to be as brief as possible. Big concerns are safety concerns, sleep, appetite, and general interaction and behavior with peers and staff on the unit. If you are noticeably flirtatious or sexually inappropriate with him, that may well get noted in your record. There are no secrets on healthy, well-functioning psych units. In my experience, male RNs on psych units make a point of making other staff aware if a female client appears to have a crush on them, and of being very public in any contact/interaction they have with those clients, in order to diminish the possibility of being accused of any sexual impropriety.

[Psych77]

Hey I'm a male psych nurse and I got a crush on a patient once or twice....maybe its me?!

[Hyacinthk]

Well I don't think so psych77 im not american,but interesting to know some psyches do crush on their patients,I definately think he was the one with the crush he was always excited to see me in the mornings.i have heard of that - pts accusing nurses Of sexual misconduct etc,I would never in a million years do anything like that.but that is interesting to know they share with staff any interest,understandably.I did feel my entire stay that we were being a bit rumoured about and he was removed from the ward toward the end of my stay,despite normally being there nearly everyday.maybe he chose to prevent anything further I don't know.I had a feeling they only wrote dull stuff like ate toast,etc etc.

when I first arrived there was some terrible fight going on and I was very scared and I must say the nurses put me totally at ease and acted like nothing ever goes wrong now I read all through these forums that the nurses are actually just as scared but have learnt to deal with it.

[KelRN215, BSN, RN]

Psych nurses chart what is going on with their patients.

"Patient contracts for safety."

"Patient refused to get out of bed or attend group today."

"Patient endorses suicidal ideation."

"Patient continues with persistent delusions that his neighbor, who has a restraining order against him, wants to pursue a relationship with him."

You cannot have a relationship with your psych nurse.

[Hyacinthk]

i dont think im delusional about him,many times he would try to talk to me and i would just ignore him.

he seemed to know things i had told other nurses weeks earlier,l was always so confused how he knew things.

[Whispera, MSN, RN]

He tried to talk to you because that's his job.

He knew things about you because they were what happened while you were hospitalized or were pertinent things you told other staff members.

[JustBeachyNurse, LPN]

i dont think im delusional about him,many times he would try to talk to me and i would just ignore him.

he seemed to know things i had told other nurses weeks earlier,l was always so confused how he knew things.

The other nurses charted your discussions as is the standard of care. He did his job and reviewed your chart.

Talking with patients is part of the therapeutic approach on an inpatient psychiatric unit.

You are creating a romantic relationship in your mind when in reality only a therapeutic nurse patient relationship exists. This relationship terminated upon discharge.