Hello everyone Im a new RN been knew for about 3 months now and Im just not happy at my job, my stomach starts to hurt before I go in. Im currently working on a medsurg floor with a ratio of 8:1. The job itself is stressful, the patients are really "heavy" some have peg tubes, trachs. Anyhow, the main thing that is making me miserable is the staff. There are a couple of coworkers who are just not friendly to me, at first when I would try to spark up a conversation they would sort of ignore me, so now I dont even bother to try to talk to them. I can be an introvert but only to people who I dont feel confortable around, Everytime I walk on the unit, they dont even say hi to me, there are some other coworkers who are friendly and I love talking to them but the other ones I just feel so uncomfortable around them. I dont know what Im doing wrong, Im friendly to everyone I am a really nice person, they make me feel like Im not fitting in or something, I know this is stupid and I shouldnt worry about stuff like this, I know Im not at work to make friends but the work enviroment is horrible when people around you act as if they dont like you.
hello everyone im a new rn been knew for about 3 months now and im just not happy at my job, my stomach starts to hurt before i go in. im currently working on a medsurg floor with a ratio of 8:1. the job itself is stressful, the patients are really "heavy" some have peg tubes, trachs. anyhow, the main thing that is making me miserable is the staff. there are a couple of coworkers who are just not friendly to me, at first when i would try to spark up a conversation they would sort of ignore me, so now i dont even bother to try to talk to them. i can be an introvert but only to people who i dont feel confortable around, everytime i walk on the unit, they dont even say hi to me, there are some other coworkers who are friendly and i love talking to them but the other ones i just feel so uncomfortable around them. i dont know what im doing wrong, im friendly to everyone i am a really nice person, they make me feel like im not fitting in or something, i know this is stupid and i shouldnt worry about stuff like this, i know im not at work to make friends but the work enviroment is horrible when people around you act as if they dont like you.
some people seem to not like you before they like you. i've never understood that mentality, but you won't change some people. just go in, do you work, be cordial and go home. i doubt it's anything you're doing...it's sounds like their problem. just focus on being a great nurse for your patients! :wink2:
it's a shame, but there are so many nurses who are so da** miserable. Don't let 'em get to you and push you around. I think people of that sort will try to pick on someone new or someone they think it a pushover or who can be pushed around easily. well, stand tall - don't take crap from them because they will keep trying to push you around.
Just keep involved with the work and come up with your own system of handling all your duties. Try to find one or two people who can mentor you.
and remember - ignore the old cows who should step aside for the nurses who really want to be there.
i have run in to workers like that, i was working with one nurse who didnt/couldnt hold a convo with me if her life depended on it. it was excruciating because we were in acute and it was just us two. i usually love to talk to people and try to, to make the night go by faster and easier. i also love to laugh and have fun, but its terrible when i/u get stuck with someone that just doesnt want to talk to you, or answers your q's with a yes/no/humm/oh......it's def not you, if they are older nurses then they might just feel like your the newbie that doesnt know anything, just do your job as best you can
Specializes in Critical Care, Orthopedics, Hospitalists.
Like LaneyB, I had a work experience that if I hadn't wanted the experience on my resume, I woulda been out of there a LOT quicker! I loved my patients, hated my staff - though some of them were nice, the majority were negative, passive aggressive, and just not good people to be around. It got to where I was bringing it home with me, and that's when I really started thinking about leaving. Leaving was the best thing I could have done!
My advice: stick it out for a bit longer, as you're still new - try to get that year under your belt, learn what you need to become a great nurse, and get out! Start putting your feelers out for a new job, but realize that it'll be a challenge to find one until you have a bit more experience. Take what you can from this position, and realize that you will not be stuck there forever.
It's not that I don't want to be friends, it's that I'M WORKING. Yes, I am sitting at the desk; no, I am not doing anything *urgent* right now. But I'm still WORKING. I'm looking at my pt's H&P, I'm doing chart checks, I'm trying to catch up on my work email, I'm thinking about morning assignments and how I can divy up the heavy pts fairly. I don't WANT to chitchat.
And sometimes, even when I am caught up, I STILL don't feel like chitchatting. I just want to sit for 5 minutes without being disturbed.
I'm not trying to be unfriendly. I just don't always feel like chitchat. So if you approach me when I am doing something else, and engage in chatter, you bet you will not get a whole lot of interest from me. It's a HINT--not a hint that I don't like you. It's a hint that I am not always such a chatty person, or maybe it's a hint that I AM WORKING. I am concentrating on my WORK.
I work with some people who have diarrhea of the mouth, they talk talk talk and do not pay any attention to the fact that I'm trying to write my freakin notes. I also work with some very socially awkward people who don't chitter non-stop, but they do start chatting at the most inopportune times. I recently met with one of these newer nurses, who felt like people didn't like her. That has nothing to do with it--you interrupt, you ask questions regardless of what the person is doing, you don't assess the situation first and see if I am in the middle of something or not--you just start up and then expect interest and an answer.
Sorry, had to get that off my chest.
Maybe the people you work with are not chatters. Maybe you are choosing the wrong times to chitchat. Maybe you are not reading other people's cues, that they may not be running around, but they are still busy and when you are talking to them you are interrupting what they are doing.
It's not that I don't want to be friends, it's that I'M WORKING. Yes, I am sitting at the desk; no, I am not doing anything *urgent* right now. But I'm still WORKING. I'm looking at my pt's H&P, I'm doing chart checks, I'm trying to catch up on my work email, I'm thinking about morning assignments and how I can divy up the heavy pts fairly. I don't WANT to chitchat.
And sometimes, even when I am caught up, I STILL don't feel like chitchatting. I just want to sit for 5 minutes without being disturbed.
I'm not trying to be unfriendly. I just don't always feel like chitchat. So if you approach me when I am doing something else, and engage in chatter, you bet you will not get a whole lot of interest from me. It's a HINT--not a hint that I don't like you. It's a hint that I am not always such a chatty person, or maybe it's a hint that I AM WORKING. I am concentrating on my WORK.
I work with some people who have diarrhea of the mouth, they talk talk talk and do not pay any attention to the fact that I'm trying to write my freakin notes. I also work with some very socially awkward people who don't chitter non-stop, but they do start chatting at the most inopportune times. I recently met with one of these newer nurses, who felt like people didn't like her. That has nothing to do with it--you interrupt, you ask questions regardless of what the person is doing, you don't assess the situation first and see if I am in the middle of something or not--you just start up and then expect interest and an answer.
Sorry, had to get that off my chest.
Maybe the people you work with are not chatters. Maybe you are choosing the wrong times to chitchat. Maybe you are not reading other people's cues, that they may not be running around, but they are still busy and when you are talking to them you are interrupting what they are doing.
I find this position very interesting because ever since the culture has become less polite I find that people do not do the customary "Excuse me--Are you busy? Can I ask you a question?" Most people just start right in without any regard to if you are busy or not--so in that respect I can definitely agree that there are too many people out there that just start right in with the chitchat without checking 1st to see if you are busy.
I always ask the person 1st--"Do you have a minute?"--on the reverse side--if I ask someone politely if they have a minute to spare for me and they give me that time but all the while they are acting like I am disturbing them--then they can pack sand--because if I go out of my way to be polite and ask for their time and they are not woman or man enough to say--"NO I am busy"--(which would be fine with me)--then I have no time for them at all and it will probably be a cold day in hell before I asked them anything. JMHO --- On second thought --I may just interrupt that person as often as I can just to PO them as much as I can--depends if I am looking for some entertainment that day or not. Some people are really so good for a laugh!!!
There are going to be tons of different personalities while working in any setting, not everyone is going to get along as easy with everyone but there still needs to be respect towards one another and why not show kindness and offer a smile to someone. When someone walks in the door what is so hard with saying hello or give a smile instead of looking the other way. Maybe there are some bitter people out there who just dont care to show kindness and respect but I hope I never become that way.
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some people seem to not like you before they like you. i've never understood that mentality, but you won't change some people. just go in, do you work, be cordial and go home. i doubt it's anything you're doing...it's sounds like their problem. just focus on being a great nurse for your patients! :wink2: