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If you are currently still employed, are you giving money to family members or relatives laid off or furlouged?

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A Hit With The Ladies has 4 years experience as a BSN, RN and specializes in Psych.

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Have you given any money to immediate family members or relatives that lost their jobs or hours during Coronavirus crisis?

  1. 1. Have you given any money to immediate family members or relatives that lost their jobs or hours during Coronavirus crisis?

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I gave my younger sister my $1200 stimulus check because her job furloughed staff (she wasn't making much to begin with) and she apparently bungled her tax returns, had to file revisions, and didn't get either a stimulus check or a tax refund. She didn't even file for unemployment, and is sitting around at my parents' home. Ugh. I told myself I'm not helping her out any more financially, no matter what.

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Daisy4RN has 20 years experience and specializes in Travel, Home Health, Med-Surg.

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I have donated money to Charities. None of my immediate family is in dire need yet, but when/if it becomes necessary I will. While I think that it was nice of you to help your sister I am not sure I would have done that but instead would have encouraged her to apply for unemployment, and she probably still can. 

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A Hit With The Ladies has 4 years experience as a BSN, RN and specializes in Psych.

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Oh I've encouraged her. She has procrastinated on everything and won't respond to my texts when I ask her about it. It must "stress her out".  Far and away one of the worst people when it comes to handling money.

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Sour Lemon has 9 years experience.

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My family are alright, and I'm actually the one furloughed. My giving has revolved around paying for services that I'm no longer able to use, like my daughter's monthly fee gym. We also try to order carry-out from small restaurants in the community and things like that.

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Daisy4RN has 20 years experience and specializes in Travel, Home Health, Med-Surg.

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12 minutes ago, A Hit With The Ladies said:

Oh I've encouraged her. She has procrastinated on everything and won't respond to my texts when I ask her about it. It must "stress her out".  Far and away one of the worst people when it comes to handling money.

Let me rephrase. I would have insisted my relative apply before handing over my hard earned money. But yes, I do know, and have had family like that too. You still love and care about them!

13 minutes ago, Sour Lemon said:

My family are alright, and I'm actually the one furloughed. My giving has revolved around paying for services that I'm no longer able to use, like my daughter's monthly fee gym. We also try to order carry-out from small restaurants in the community and things like that.

Have you tried to contact the gym and ask for them to refund/put the fees on hold, some are doing that. Sorry about the furlough!

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Sour Lemon has 9 years experience.

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24 minutes ago, Daisy4RN said:

Let me rephrase. I would have insisted my relative apply before handing over my hard earned money. But yes, I do know, and have had family like that too. You still love and care about them!

Have you tried to contact the gym and ask for them to refund/put the fees on hold, some are doing that. Sorry about the furlough!

Putting the fees on hold is an option, we're just trying to support the business and hoping that it survives. I'm okay with the furlough, as I worked very little to start out with and am eligible for unemployment.

If my financial circumstances worsen, I'll have to reconsider of course.

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Have told my grandson he won't have to move out should he lose his job, he can get by rent free.  Did, however, ask for housework in apt if he's not working.  We would have to see how that goes.  I wouldn't be holding my breath.

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Sour Lemon has 9 years experience.

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2 hours ago, caliotter3 said:

Have told my grandson he won't have to move out should he lose his job, he can get by rent free.  Did, however, ask for housework in apt if he's not working.  We would have to see how that goes.  I wouldn't be holding my breath.

It's sweet of you not to evict your own grandson if he loses his job (yikes!). 🙃😄

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JerseyTomatoMDCrab has 8 years experience as a BSN and specializes in med-surg, IMC, school nursing, NICU.

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I have Venmoed my 50% laid off sister some money several times since this all started. She gets mad and protests but I tell her if she sends it back, I’ll just give it to her again plus interest 😂
I received a “covid bonus” from my employer that I did not feel I deserved so I donated most of it to a local food bank. 

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3 hours ago, Sour Lemon said:

It's sweet of you not to evict your own grandson if he loses his job (yikes!). 🙃😄

We have had heated discussions about behavior and rent in the past, especially when his sister was here too. My daughter said she was tired of hearing about it and that I should kick both of them out. Sister found a living deal too good to pass up and moved two months ago. Things have quieted immensely.

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Nurse SMS has 9 years experience as a MSN, RN and specializes in Critical Care; Cardiac; Professional Development.

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The one family member I have who is unemployed and in need of money was unemployed and in need of money long before Covid-19. There comes a point where, no matter how much extra you have, you aren't doing someone a favor by continuing to enable an unrealistic lifestyle. We are at that point. So no, we will not give her money.

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