I QUIT (long)

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Specializes in ED.

Ive been a nurse for a full year this month..........Ive endured my first job in an ER and did very well, Last week I brought a situation to my manager that I was unsure about, thought the situation was resolved when I left her office, when I returned the next day she had written me up...........If felt betrayed, angry and my feelings was bruised because if I didnt say anything she wouldnt have know anything about the situation.....Needless to say, I got online applied to various hospitals and several called me back...........I got hired on the spot, who knew............better pay, better benefits, etc, etc............SO they need me to start before my 2 weeks is up, I tried to explain that I would like to give 2 weeks and take a week before starting...........That was not an option. So I gave my manager 2 weeks notice anyway.........she was soooooo rude, I just quit on the spot..........I know that wasnt right........How could I have better handled this situation????????????

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Um, well, you could have not "quit on the spot" when your manager was "rude" to you, and worked your notice. You can assume that you're going to get a bad reference (at the least, "not eligible for rehire") from this employer in the future. But that, by itself, is not going to destroy your career. :)

Congratulations on making it through your first year, and best wishes for the new position!

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There's nothing else you could do now. I resigned ( not on the spot) from my previous non- nursing position due to similar reason and I never regret. I actually used that example to illustrate my ability to stand up for myself and my patients when appropriate. Good luck with your new position!

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Specializes in Critical Care, Education.

Kudos to you!

No one should have to tolerate disrespect from a manager. There is a very true saying about why people quit a job "people don't leave organizations, they leave managers". This is so true.

You will be classified as 'ineligible for rehire' by that organization - but if that manager was representative of the type of behavior that is allowed ... would you ever want to work for them again? Srsly? Best of luck in your new job.

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Best of luck in your new job. Only advice is to try to cool down before acting or saying anything when you are criticized, justified or not. If you get written up, reflect upon the circumstances and base future actions on that quiet reflection.

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Specializes in Tele/PCU/ICU/Stepdown/HH Case Management.

although i have no experience in leaving a hospital or my unit, i have seen how cranky directors get with other nurses when they leave their unit. good luck at your future position!

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Specializes in MS, ED.
Best of luck in your new job. Only advice is to try to cool down before acting or saying anything when you are criticized, justified or not. If you get written up, reflect upon the circumstances and base future actions on that quiet reflection.

Cosign Caliotter, absolutely. Some words of advice from my (former) business career: keep the job the job, and don't take it personally, (even when it is.) As a young hothead, I walked out on a job after confronting our management about rampant illegalities; I left with the sun at my back and felt great about it at the time...

but I see now, nearly ten years later, that I didn't need to push things that far. I could have raised my concerns in writing, given management time to process my resignation, and left quietly with a terse reference and been none the worse off. Luckily, you are leaving for a better position; I can say from experience that situations like these can come back to bite your butt later on, though. Kudos for thinking through how to better handle these things.

As Caliotter wrote, slow down and *breathe* when you enter a confrontational situation. Separate yourself from those feelings and try to step back from them. Think, think and think some more before you open your mouth to speak, (another lesson that was hard for me to learn, because I felt as though speaking truth could justify speaking impulsively.) When you speak, clearly and concisely state the situation and its possible resolution. For example, if your manager started going off about your resignation, I may have tried to keep calm and say something like, "I understand your frustration, but all I can offer is two weeks notice before my leave date." (manager continues to rant) "I'm sorry you feel that way, but this two weeks is all I can offer." (rant rant rant) "Perhaps we can discuss my remaining shifts when you are ready, but I cannot continue this conversation further." (get up, leave, and reconfirm same via e-mail.)

Just my :twocents:

Congrats on the new job! Onwards and upwards!

Best,

Southern

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