I don't know what to make of this interview. I'm not getting the job but I am totally confused about why the person interviewing me stated this.
She stated that what she was going to say was illegal, and would deny it in court. She said, " I like your experiences and I think that you would be a hard, diligent, loyal worker. I don't want a lot of turnover and we've had that lately. However, I don't think that I am going to give you this position. " I said ok, fine. I appreciate you taking the time to interview me. Please consider me for other positions if they become available.
Then she said, "The reason I am not hiring you is because you look too young. You look 23. Another thing, you are too attractive to work with inmates. That has caused a lot of problems with inmates in the past, when the nurse was too attractive. Inmates try to get to medical just to see the cute nurse. Our nurses here are older and less attractive. That is the way I want it. It makes it easier on the unit. It would also cause problems with my nurses that are employed now because it would upset the balance of the team due to your appearance and the attention you would receive from inmates.":bugeyes:
OK, WTH!!!. SERIOUSLY, I'm 35 and nowhere near being Ms. America. In fact, I'm on a downhill slide. What does this have to do with my qualifications!!! I can understand wanting a nurse that works well with other nurses and not wanting a lot of fighting, but I totally don't understand the comment about my appearance. In what way, would this affect my ability to be a good nurse to inmates???
I was very angry at first, then I decided I do not want a job at this facility after she stated all this. I'm just CONFUSED as to why she said it. I would rather she have said you're not qualified, no openings, not enough experience, whatever she wanted to say. Not this load of horse crap she was stating. What is your take on these comments?
The interviewer was definitely wrong to make the comments she did, but I don't really think it matters if someone is attractive or not.. It's how they carry themselves.
May I ask what you were wearing at your interview?
Many people are simply not aware of what clothes are not appropriate for a correctional facility, or their choice is deliberate. I have sent agency nurses home to change clothes because their pants or tops are too tight; the fabric is see through, or they are wearing colored panties under light colored scrubs.
Plus, as long as you're female, you're a potential target, attractive or not.
Absolutely. We joke about this at work, and it's rather like the hall of mirrors trick. We automatically lose 50lbs and 20 years when we walk into a male prison!
Specializes in Med-Surg/home health/pacu/cardiac icu.
I was dressed appropriately. I had on a black suit pantset with a white dress shirt and black jacket and black flats. Hair in a bun, minimal make-up, no perfume, no jewelery. The thing is, I'm not some little cute petite woman. I'm average height, average weight, average looks.
I was dressed appropriately. I had on a black suit pantset with a white dress shirt and black jacket and black flats. Hair in a bun, minimal make-up, no perfume, no jewelery. The thing is, I'm not some little cute petite woman. I'm average height, average weight, average looks.
Very appropriate! Hmm. I don't know what to make of this!
Specializes in Med-Surg/home health/pacu/cardiac icu.
She was an average looking woman about 50. I wouldn't say she was an old bag, but she was a little on the plump side with smoker's wrinkles around the mouth.
I think this statement was very innapropiate and shows no better class then the lady in question.I wonder if you would like if your aunt,gradma or mother or sister was called in that manner?
She was an average looking woman about 50. I wouldn't say she was an old bag, but she was a little on the plump side with smoker's wrinkles around the mouth.
50 is not old,I know as well saw some of the most attractive women in this age.Just look at at some actresses?!!!!!
I think this statement was very innapropiate and shows no better class then the lady in question.I wonder if you would like if your aunt,gradma or mother or sister was called in that manner?
Bah! Life's too shirt to be so tender.
Honestly, cannot we ever indulge in humor without being scolded?
And, realistically, the old bag's family will never know the comment was ever made.
When I worked in corrections I had an inmate try to hit on me. In the felony pod, for crikey sakes. I looked at him, dead in the eye and said "really, if I was going to cheat on my husband, do you really think it would be with YOU?" ROFL, made my point that day and never had a problem after. Also, do NOT consider myself pretty, just ok and am definately overweight. Guess it is all in what they are into, lol. You could be Barbie walking into the pod and they wouldn't be interested...
prison_nurse
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The interviewer was definitely wrong to make the comments she did, but I don't really think it matters if someone is attractive or not.. It's how they carry themselves.
May I ask what you were wearing at your interview?
Many people are simply not aware of what clothes are not appropriate for a correctional facility, or their choice is deliberate. I have sent agency nurses home to change clothes because their pants or tops are too tight; the fabric is see through, or they are wearing colored panties under light colored scrubs.