I got my coworker fired

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I reported a coworker for her inappropriate behavior as a nurse. I expected her to maybe get suspended for a few days. When I went to work I found out the she was no longer an employee. I hate confrontation in general so it is making me very uncomfortable to have been in this situation.

Specializes in ED/trauma.

Woah, sorry about the horrible grammer and spelling! I guess everyone was right-you shouldn't work 12 hours at night and then go to class all day!:loveya:

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Hi

I would not fret about it, she probably had verbal and written warnings up the the point when you turned her in and that was the last straw.

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Specializes in Rural Health.

The nurse you talked about sounds exactly like one that I work with!!! I've never reported her, but I wouldn't be surprised if someone has. We do Peer evaluations, another nurse is chosen randomly to fill out an eval on you for your yearly eval. I think her inappropriate behavior mighta been mentioned there. I don't think it phased her one bit and she has not changed at all.

There was an incident with a man who was kinda "simple." Hope that doesn't offend anyone, but she made some sexual comments towards him and then got all freaked out when he said something back. I was told the man's wife thought he was having an affair with the nurse and kinda had a nervous breakdown. I don't know that I've ever seen her behavior be that extremely inappropriate since then though.

I do agree that you shouldn't tattle on someone without confronting them first, but I'm also afraid of confrontation too. I have been the tattled on person before and it was for something very stupid. Apparently somebody wrote a complaint b/c they thought I was a slob. That was 2 years ago and it caused me a tremendous amount of stress and anxiety. I feel like I have to constantly look over my shoulder now.

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Specializes in ER.
No matter what, if I felt the need to "report", I would have the common courtesy and respect to at least tell the "accused" first and let the "accused" make the proper changes. Years ago, when I was a military spouse, there was a similar "witchhunt mentality" within the FRG/wives groups. A mother would come to playgroup looking a buit frazzled and within 24 hours, there was a rumor floating around that she was "depressed and could not handle being a single parent during deployment". I cannot tell you how many unnecessdary calls were made to CPS, all in the name of "do gooding" when all it was amounted to a bunch of bored housewives just trying to stir up trouble.

oh no... military spouses - that's a whole other topic.

No one on this post knows the whole story - bottom line. The OP was looking for a way to vent in coping with this. Who are we to judge. Support, people. No one is talking about a "witch hunt" - you (and no one else here) works with the OP or whomever the person was that was terminated. Bottom line.

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Specializes in ER.
Perhaps you should reread my post. I did not berate the OP. Ever. I asked what kind of response she was looking for, given that her actions had a predictable repercussion. Then I said that I do not understand the reporting mentality I find rife in the US nursing arena.

Please tell me where exactly that is "berating" the OP or "knocking" anyone. Kindly take the time to read things properly before telling someone else off.. especially when you're judging them for telling someone else off... ironic, huh?

this was a general response, but...

your post did seem a little accusatory. Your statement of "not understanding the reporting mentality" and "it doesn't work that way where I come from." That is putting a judgmental slant in your post. Maybe the OP was unable to talk with the person she had an issue with, or there were fruitless attempts at communication. None of us were there - there may be additional details to the story.

Just my opinion. Sometimes people post here for support - not to feel bad for the decisions they feel are the best at that time.

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Specializes in CCU, SICU, CVSICU, Precepting & Teaching.

it was never clear why the op was posting. it didn't seem like a vent, nor did he/she ask for support. i rather got the feeling she/he was bragging about having gotten someone fired.

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Specializes in ER.
it was never clear why the op was posting. it didn't seem like a vent, nor did he/she ask for support. i rather got the feeling she/he was bragging about having gotten someone fired.

i disagree - perception is an interesting thing.

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As long as you can live with it ethically......

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Specializes in CTICU.
this was a general response, but...

your post did seem a little accusatory. Your statement of "not understanding the reporting mentality" and "it doesn't work that way where I come from." That is putting a judgmental slant in your post. Maybe the OP was unable to talk with the person she had an issue with, or there were fruitless attempts at communication. None of us were there - there may be additional details to the story.

Just my opinion. Sometimes people post here for support - not to feel bad for the decisions they feel are the best at that time.

Your "general post" quoted me so it did not appear general.

Yeah, you're just wrong. There was no "judgemental slant". As I said, I don't understand the mentality because I'm not used to it. Don't put words in my mouth, thanks. Trust me, I have no trouble making myself understood and if I was trying to be "accusatory" it would be really clear.

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Let's all be kind and love each other...because, if one thing you will ever learn as a nurse,....NO ONE ELSE DOES!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Stick together kids...it's a cruel world out there!!!!! MUAGH!!!!!!!!!!

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Kudos...great psychology....i would never admit to it publicly. Whats with that? We all have a responsibility to reort, but to BRAG about it????????????????

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Specializes in ER.
Your "general post" quoted me so it did not appear general.

Yeah, you're just wrong. There was no "judgemental slant". As I said, I don't understand the mentality because I'm not used to it. Don't put words in my mouth, thanks. Trust me, I have no trouble making myself understood and if I was trying to be "accusatory" it would be really clear.

???? maybe someone else can understand you.

And for the record, you seem quite angry. Just my perspective, just like your perspective on the OP - which differs.

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