I failed, so frustrated right now

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I just found out that I failed. I am so frustrated right now. I feel like such a loser, everyone else I talk to from my class that took it thus far passed and I am the only one that didn't. I don't even feel like picking up that book.

That was such a nice quote dragonfly!

Tay......Im in the same boat, found out I didnt pass yesterday. All day I was a zombie! I feel better today. I will take a couple days and in a few weeks I will be going to Disney with the family and having a good time. I already got my Saunders book and eventhough everyone says to take a break I am compelled to pick it up and do some questions. Next time I am going to be better prepared and Im not telling any of my friends when Im going. Everyone was calling me all day yesterday and I had to pretend that I was OK (they all passed w/75 questions) It totally sucked. But it is what it is and we will do better next time.

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Tay254,Try not to take too much time off grieving. Maybe a week or two at most but it's best to get back to studying while the information is still fresh.

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HEY NEVER GIVE UP!! I took my pn boards 2 mounths ago and went to 205 and failed took it the 2nd time yesterday and stoped at 85. take some time to work things out in your head, calm down and then when you are ready, jump back up. you will be fine. get a good support system. and remember no one thinks that you are stoppid or you are not a good nurse. i wish you all the best luck!!!!!!!!!

I just found out that I failed. I am so frustrated right now. I feel like such a loser, everyone else I talk to from my class that took it thus far passed and I am the only one that didn't. I don't even feel like picking up that book.
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dont lose your heart. take few deep breaths , a nice break and get ready again.

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Thanks, thats what I am going to try but I am going to give myself a few days off first.

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dragonfly32,

Thank you for that, you are right it does make me feel better. I want to give it another go but I think right now I had too much on my plate anyway and this just added to the disappointment. I'm thankful for you and the other wonderful people on this site. You all inspire me and make me want to feel better even when I want to wallow in self pity, lol.

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poohbear1968,

I was definitely in the same boat, I think that was what made it worse. Its definitely hard to keep saying over and over that you didn't pass but my family and friends were so supportive and my classmates even offered to help study with me so I am feeling a little better. Stick in there and hopefully, God willing we will pass this horrible test the next time.

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Hey dont feel bad....im on my fourth time now...dont know what im doin wrong and I graduated a year ago....so embarassed :mad:.....lookin to start the suzanne plan....see if that works for me.....im just so bored of studying.....:down:....

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TAY245,

Well, my aunt passed on her 7th try, she 45 years old then.She worked for 17 years in saudi arabia. She never lose hope but she said she cried a lot every time she failed but look at her now and how she lift my self esteem every time I fail NCLEX.I failed twice already but I'm not loosing hope, I believe we can slay this single exam but I hope it's not seven times coz I think I don't have that much patience. So lift yourself up, we can do this.I'm using the 2nd part of suzanne's plan and I'm confident that 1 day I'll be a nurse.Just believe...:smokin:

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It's beautiful hearing others lift you up when your feeling down. I admire everyone here who still has yet to pass their exam. Still keeping the faith and still determined to pass. Nontheless I know how you feel Tay, but don't let discouragement keep you from being a Nurse. I think I waited way too long when I was discouraged and failed on my first try..Probably about 7 months to a Year. Don't wait that long, keep trying and keep hitting the books, regroup and erase any negative thots of blaming yourself and what might you have done differently. Start fresh, You'll get there one day. Keep Trying! Goodluck. :)

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tay,

read my story.. how it has changed me 4ever... it's pretty long.. but i'm sure it will change ur life tooo!!!

good luck

god is awesome & definetly changed my life!

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“give thanks unto the lord, for he is good: for his mercy endureth for ever” – psalm 107:1

i just want to say that god is awesome! finally passed after the 3rd time with 265 questions with the mercy of my living god. if god is with me, i know he will be with you too. i am writing this particularly for the re-takers. don’t ever give up hope. this nclex exam has really changed my life tremendously and this is my story: please read & it will change your life too….

i graduated from nursing school last year, may 2007 with bsn. right after i graduated, i was offered to work at a nearby hospital and so i did. but within 6 months they wanted me to take the boards, so i went in last october and took it. 2 days later, found out that i failed. my school was ranked as 90% of nclex passing rate and that’s the main reason i went there. until i took the exam, i realized that i had no knowledge of anything in regards to nursing. basically i did 4 yrs of college for nothing except add some loans in to my head. i know a lot of people in this site disagree with me in regards to my experience, but i am telling u from my own experiences and from my classmates. last october i found out that our college ranked 64% of nclex passing.

anyways, i really put my hope in to nursing and when i found out that i failed, all my hopes were destroyed. right after i failed, i informed my supervisor and left the job and started studying again. this is where my life slowly started to change in my own eyes.

my parents are not well educated but work 2 jobs to support my family esp. my father. so when he found out about this, he realized that his suffering will never be over so he began to take it on me. my mom on the other hand hurts me everyday with words and puts me down. all of my relatives are either nurses or doctors and they all began to criticize me behind my back. my community began to talk behind my back and began to put pressure on my parents to get me married. all of my friends are either married & have kids or have a career. me on the other hand was left with nothing basically except load of loans.

i began to get depressed, started cutting people from my life, moved in with my brother and felt like i was the only one in this world who is not smart, and felt like a looser. i slowly decided to end my life. i felt like i wasn’t welcomed anywhere not even in my home or with my parents. everyday i lived with criticism in my life from everybody. but god was watching me…

finally decided to take the boards in february and again came to find out that i failed. now my parents began to hate me even more. their words and actions would put a hole in to my heart each day. i figured i’ll look for a job, but no one wants me b/c i graduated and they feared what if i leave the job. so i basically had no life, no job, no career, no support, no parents (literally), no social life(friends), except left with my small bedroom, a computer and few nclex-rn review books & cds. i was depressed more and more and wanted to die. i have tried so many times to kill my self but he was watching me... there was not even a single day where i went to sleep with out my eyes pouring out.

finally, in april, i put the tv on a sunday morning and watched pastor joel osteen’s preaching. to be honest with you, i’m a christian but not god’s child. on that sunday morning, pastor joel preached saying, “you’re not a victim but you’re a victor, and said that, “god has greater plans stored, but all i need is to bring him in my life.”

after that, i fasted for over 30 days, and finally decided to take the boards with my friends in may 15th. i began to meditate on his words and humbled myself.

god began to answer my prayers slowly. a week before my exam, i got a call from a nearby hospital offering me a nurse tech position and i accepted it and decided to change the boards date. so my friends went to take it and they came home really feeling good that they passed and even i thought they passed. but 2 days later, i found out that they both failed. they both are very smart, studied day & night for this exam. when i heard this, i thought to myself, if they couldn’t do it, how will i? i was very disappointed.

so i went to work and finally decided to take the boards in july. to be honest with you, i prayed to god so much, put all of my hope & strength in him and told him, i cannot pass this exam with my knowledge, but i know i could conqueror anything with you in my life and went to take the exam.

for the second break during my exam after 200 ?s, i went into bathroom and cried to god,. i came out of that exam knowing that i failed 100%. i thought this time, i had the craziest questions and there is no way i can pass this exam.

2 days later, i went to the computer and checked my name, and my name didn’t appear and right away i knew i failed. my parents were very disappointed again and told me to go for lpn. so i began to do the application for that and my father called his supervisor and she offered him a book for rn & lpn. after the exam, i would wait everyday for my failure note with my ugly picture. last friday, i gave my father $200 to pay off the mortgage and he threw that check right in front of the table and said, i only asked you one thing and that is to get that license and if you can’t do that, then i don’t want anything. i told him, what if god doesn’t want me to be an rn. he said, there is no such thing like that. so i replied to him, do you think i take the exam and say to myself, i want to fail so that we all can be disappointed & waste $. no, i want to be an rn as badly as you want. i cried so much with my whole heart and prayed to god. i went to shopping right after that just to get my mind of with my mother. when i came home, i found a big envelop in front of my storm door. i thought it was for my dad, but when i saw it was for me, i was like yeah what ever. but when i opened it, it was my rn license. i praised god for seeing my tears for over a year. i took that license and woke my father up and threw it back at him and said: here, this is what you wanted right, take it.”

my god has turned my tears into joy and i am always grateful. he heard my cries, he saw my tears. god turned my life completely just from this stupid nclex. because of this exam, not only, i got closer to him, but also got to learn how his wonderful works are in my life. i could have died by now, but he kept me safe. god has added more years into my life and i can feel him all the time with me. not only that, now have i called my self that i am his child. in isaiah 55:8: my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways.” and he definitely did his ways and i praise him for that. (when things are impossible for men, nothing is impossible for god b/c everything is possible for him)

so to the failures, i know what you’re going through because i was in your shoes once but don’t ever give hope. i used to come into this site and read everyone’s passing notes and failure notes and hoped one day i’ll be able to come in here and encourage others and guess what, god has been so good.

“seek ye first the kingdom of god, and his righteousness, and all these things shall be added unto you.” – mathew 6:33 (god didn’t just say, seek my kingdom, but he also said, his righteousness too and all things shall be added.) isn’t god amazing? he provided the greatest miracle in my life and i know he can do to yours, just submit your life to him and he will take you to places where you never dreamed off!

what i tried to study: basically everything

first i knew from my 3rd experience, i had to have god first, b/c if i didn’t, i knew i would’ve been a failure again.

secondly, do questions after questions, i used kaplan, ready to pass, online random questions, postings from fellow exam takers in here, feur review books and cds, dvds, you name it, all of them i used. study atleast 3-4 hours a day and forget about what other think of you or say about you, just give yourself to the lord and study and he will take care of the rest.

good luck to all of you guys, and never give up!!!

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I'm so sorry you are having this experience. I know all the studying and prep time that is invested in school and studying for your state boards. It is a great disappointment to see the results after all that hard work. I think the test is very hard and it makes me wonder if strategy is more important than knowledge. I am wondering if what the test is looking for is critical thinking ability - which is why so much of the information on the test is new to so many new graduates. Maybe when you are ready to start studying again for your boards, look at the strategies that the questions focus on. FYI I used Kaplan and Saunders both.

I don't know you at all, still, for some reason I have this gut feeling that you will be a great nurse. Please get good rest, eat well and when you are ready begin studying again - and let us know how you are doing!

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