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why does the supervisor need to know you are receiving SSD?

I agree to keep your focus on your goals - becomming a nurse. Part of what makes a good nurse is compassion and ability to not feed into pathologies. The situation with this co-worker is sad - she clearly feels that the truth in her life is not good enough to live with, yet the truth in our lives is really all we have. I know this seems like asking a lot, but if you can, try to find ways to compliment her on work that you see her doing well. This woman may not feel the need to speak falsely if she is able to feel good about who she is and what she does.

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ppl can receive SSD while working, they just have to earn under a certain amount to continue receiving it.

With the wages that nurses make, I don't think one would qualify for SSD/SSI while working as a nurse.

Stillpressingon, you make a good point. Arrogance can be displayed whether or not a title is in place. Still, the English language uses guidelines for formal and informal communication. I don't like feeling expected to use formal communication with someone who doesn't show me the same respect. . . it is inconsistent and feels demeaning to me. (Think about if the reverse were true. What if we used first names for docs and then addressed nurses formally. It almost brings a chuckle for the absurdity of it ---- yet we readily accept the reverse.)

PiPhi2004 - it sounds like a good sense of team work that your unit operates with. It is not the same in the unit where I work. Doctors are called Dr. and everyone else is called by their first name. Since I am so new there, I think it is a good opportunity to determine either being addressed formally by the physicians if they prefer that I address them formally - or being addressed informally if this is how they prefer that I address them. I just really don't want to come across as rude. One of the problems is that our ID badges use first name for employees other than physicians, their name tags are Dr. so-and-so.

Does anybody here feel like I do regarding calling nurses by their first names and doctors are called Dr. so-and-so? I think this adds to the god-complex that physicians sometimes have which nurses and other hospital employees help perpetuate. I don't like calling the physician by Dr. so-and-so while he or she calls me Peggy. I've discussed this with other nurses and they don't really seem to have any problem with it. Why is it acceptable for us to use formal address when talking with physicians and they use informal when addressing us? Why aren't we called Nurse so-and-so in order to receive the same level of formal address that physicians get? I recently started a new job at a hospital that prides itself in not perpetuating the physician-god-complex, however, physicians are very much addressed using the formal while they don't extend the same respect to those with whom they work. When introducing myself to one of the physicians, I asked him how he wanted me to address him and he replied, "Dr. (blank)." I said is this only in front of patients or all the time. He looked at me with a bit of a question and responded with, "Well, really only in front of patients. My name is David and that is what you can call me." I smiled, shook his hand and told him my fist name. Would it have been rude for me to smile, shake his hand and ask him to call me Nurse (blank) had he requested that I always address him as Dr. (blank)?

BSN2008 - I know just how you feel - all that studying and then coming to terms with that awful test which doesn't seem anything like all those practice questions. What I have come to decide is that all those practice questions help to develop a sense of critical thinking and strategy far more than actually knowing the information. Actually, in nursing school that is what I remember being stressed the very most - critical thinking (and how to apply it for patient safety, always starting with ABC's). Maybe we've been trained to hone in on and think in this way, then combined with putting that to practice using study guides such as Saunders and Kaplan is why most of us pass this frustrating test even though most of us blatently feel we have failed (?). bbdqmomma - hang in there hun! Honestly from my own experience and from almost all others, what you are feeling seems to be the norm - and then we get the news that we pass. I have a feeling it'll be the same for you. Please post and let us know when you get the results. 2ndcareer1 - I went to Washington State University to get my BSN. WSU has a main nursing school campus as well as two satelite campuses, one being Yakima where I was in a class of 17. Our class as for the most part kept each other informed regarding whether or not we passed the NCLEX. A few people scheduled to take it about a month after graduation, but most of us allowed for a little more study time. I scheduled for 2.5 months of study time and I'm really glad I did. I was also taking a masters class at the same time which was not the smartest decision - I ended up dropping the class half way through in order to focus solely on the NCLEX so will begin the masters program in January. The one classmate who has not yet taken her NCLEX is scheduled to take it this week. Positive thoughts going out to her!!

Thank you for the congrats!! Out of 17 in our class, 14 have passed, 1 hasn't taken the test yet and 2 will take the test again - and pass :)

CONGRATULATIONS JASON! Your situation sounds bittersweet indeed. I'm sorry you can't have the glee you should have for your success and I'm sorry for your classmates not passing It sure makes it difficult to celebrate your well-deserved accomplishments.

I'm so sorry you are having this experience. I know all the studying and prep time that is invested in school and studying for your state boards. It is a great disappointment to see the results after all that hard work. I think the test is very hard and it makes me wonder if strategy is more important than knowledge. I am wondering if what the test is looking for is critical thinking ability - which is why so much of the information on the test is new to so many new graduates. Maybe when you are ready to start studying again for your boards, look at the strategies that the questions focus on. FYI I used Kaplan and Saunders both. I don't know you at all, still, for some reason I have this gut feeling that you will be a great nurse. Please get good rest, eat well and when you are ready begin studying again - and let us know how you are doing!

and as for my results . . . . . . . . . . . I passed!!! Still have no idea what to think about that mind-boggling test, but at this point I don't care. I passed and now I am pround to call myself an RN!!! YIPPEEEEEEEE! BTW, I found out while at work (psych unit) and I screamed so loud and long after seeing my results I think they were getting ready to start the admitting paper work on me! Thank you to all you well-wishers. Your words of encouragemeent kept me afloat. Good luck to those still waiting -- I have crossed fingers for you all!!!

CONGRATULATIONS to both ICESS64 and JTJAMES!!!!! You are RN's now - officially!!!! (jumping up and down for you) What a day to celebrate!

grc119, When will you find out if you passed? I didn't get a ton of SATA qx, I got 9 - I hope that's enough. I'm biting my nails and a bit more diaphoretic than I know myself to be. This is not good for optimal health!!!!!!