How well do you get along with your coworkers? Even the ones you truly dislike? How do you make it manageable ? I make an effort to get along with all my coworkers yet I'm having a huge problem with one aide..
She had a complaint made on her from several a&ox3 patients and the day nurse told
e about them so I would know what to be looking for on night shift. I didn't say anything I just observed and nothing took place on my shift with her except one aphasic pt was in full blown hysterics when she would go in her room so I told her I would do that pts care til my aides on nights got there and all was well.
The day nurse reported this aide who in turn must have had something said to her by mgmt, and for a while now she has been more rude and disrespectful towards only me. I figured it out... She thinks I told on her. This was confirmed to me by one of my aides whom I work with closely and often. She told me that the other girl got in her face cussing at her demanding to know if I had said anything to her about her and said complaining pts , which I had not. All I told my girls was to be extra nice to this pt because something had her in a fit, I never once said any names or made accusations .
Well the ****** off aide who assumed I told on her has ignored me when I've asked her things or when I've asked for her for my vitals and outputs she gives me dirty looks, talks lodly about me, told my aide I was a "lil b----" & that shed kick my --- if I had said anything etc etc.
She's not said this directly to me and that's too bad cuz if so I would walk her out and suspend her for making threats as we are allowed to do so if need be. She tries to intimidate and bully people. I hate working with her. She is full of hate and malice and I think the devils blood runs thru her. I feel an evil presence around me when she is in the building and as soon as she leaves it goes away.
She would be surprised that the bubbly day nurse she sucks up to so well is the one who reported her. She tries to get nurses in trouble any way she can along with other aides. We lost several aides because of her. Her attitude is awful and she hates everything. I just don't feel like I should be a target and if I confront this or her or go to my boss nothing will be done . I have comained months ago about her attitude and was laughed at by my boss. She told me she didn't believe me. It took four aides and two other nurses saying the same thing I did for her to listen and still nothing was done.
I avoid her at all costs and don't say a word to her unless I have to. What would you guys do?
I've asked to be moved away from her and so far that hasn't been done either.
No other coworker acts like this. We all get along despite our own quirks and annoyances with each other .
Ah getting along...in my case I'm the deviant one for I am introvert. I tend to speak only when I find it necessary and so I tend to be outcast-ed by the rest of my extrovert co-workers. And since, I'm different plus an awful face and voice and other stuff, I tend have people comment on me behind my back.
I just ignore it and focus on my job which I believe introverts are capable of. But lately I'm noticing the side-effects of misery and depression. I won't be surprised if I turned suicidal. I wanted to confront them but I'm the type of person who can't argue plus I have an awful voice which people often misunderstood as whiny and mean.
Anyway, talking behind peoples back is mean. Especially when there is a bit of judgment on those conversations.
Ty I did consider job hunting but then I thought nope I will not leave a job because if a nasty aide who hates life and people so much she van be the one to go . I had a nurse call me to ask me about a policy tonight and she was upset with this same aide who was giving her a hard time too and this nurse never bothers nobody she overheard this aide on the phone wirh the DON complaining.
My thing is this, don't be mean to people and you won't be reported . She did wrong and got caught yet blames others for it, mainly me. I keep documentation of all this just in case I need to refer back.
The day she finally says her remarks about me to me or in my presence where I hear it myself I'll be filling out a writeup . All bark and no bite gets old if I was the boss I'd be suck of getting calls and complaints from the same person all the time .
I'm not nutty..... I'm aggravated at this chicks behavior. I'm not mean to anybody I work with. And don't appreciate being her target when I've done nothing to her. I relalize not everybody believes in hood / evil but I do and she reeks of evil . If you could actually see how she does it would make more sense I'm sure . I've never said or done anything to make her want to act like a bratty five year old toward me. She changed several months ago when she started hanging out with a nurse who doesn't like me, that's when I first noticed changes in her attitude and behavior IRS just gotten worse as the days go on and it's not like I ask anybody about her. I stay to myself and my pts when I work. I cover my butt religiously.
Ah getting along...in my case I'm the deviant one for I am introvert. I tend to speak only when I find it necessary and so I tend to be outcast-ed by the rest of my extrovert co-workers. And since, I'm different plus an awful face and voice and other stuff, I tend have people comment on me behind my back.
I just ignore it and focus on my job which I believe introverts are capable of. But lately I'm noticing the side-effects of misery and depression. I won't be surprised if I turned suicidal. I wanted to confront them but I'm the type of person who can't argue plus I have an awful voice which people often misunderstood as whiny and mean.
Anyway, talking behind peoples back is mean. Especially when there is a bit of judgment on those conversations.
Dear hazyblue,
Your post above & the mention of suicide worries & upsets me because I remember in some of your other posts that you seem to put yourself down a lot. I hope you will make an appt. soon with your Dr. since you realize you are noticing "side-effects of misery & depression."
You don't have to suffer in silence... see your Dr., open up & discuss what's going on.
Please, I am worried because you sound like a very caring, knowledgable & wonderful person.
And also, (can tell from your prior posts) that you show persistence, courage, friendliness and creativity. :redbeathe
I frequently gave report to an RN that is a bully in my opinion, occasional nasty remarks, would ignore me when I spoke as if I wasn't even there, and believe it or not would come on and see me and give me a "dirty look". How childish is that? I felt very uncomfortable around her, unlike other nasty nurses who are easier to take. Kill with kindness certainly wouldn't work with her.
Unfortunately, what you're going through is quite common.
While I truly feel that everything is a team effort, there is something lacking in health care...respect for authority. She reports to YOU. I have seen MANY aides blatantly disregard a nurse, continue texting, or get nasty with the RN for asking them to clean up a certain room, as that nurse is with an unstable patient. The aides get nasty and there's a whole lot of commotion. Not all aides are like this, but I am still surprised that so many are.
If she talks loudly and gives you a nasty look, say something around the lines of " Wait a minute, I asked you for vitals, are you ready to act professionally and report these for me?" That will probably upset her, but these kind of people need to be confronted. I don't really know what to tell you. It's harder when you're having problems with your other RNs, as they don't report to you..but an aide, etc...forget it. I'd have a field day on them.
I have always treated my aides VERY nicely and for the most part, never had any problems. I am not a "lazy" nurse and they know this. I take up for them and help them when I can...but someone like this--don't have time for it. Let her assume what she wants. Women can be so catty sometimes and this doesn't surprise me in the least...been there, done that a million times. The very person they are kissing up to is the one that ratted on them..and the person they try to outcast, or treat poorly, has NOTHING to do with the nonsense.
The SECOND you hear her say ANYTHING that is SLIGHTLY threatening, report her IMMEDIATELY and have it in writing. It's bad enough that nurses have so much stress to deal with...they feel the wrath of ALL mistakes...we don't need to be dealing with ghetto-trashy workers...I don't care WHAT position they're in.
Document, document, DOCUMENT everything! I'm sorry, but management is out to cover their own butts/best interest - and if they can get away with NOT addressing this situation w/the CNA - then they will. Just try (and this can be super hard) not to lower yourself to her standards w/name calling. Be assertive, confident, and professional in your dealings with her. Perhaps you can take her aside to talk to her about her belief that you reported her, and while addressing that, also make it clear that you don't appreciate the treatment she's been "handing" you and that you have the patients care at the utmost top of your priority list, and she'll get the hint about whether or not she NEEDS to be reported. Turn it back to her and her inappropriate behavior, don't allow her to blame you for this.
I deal w/a coworker who I swear is the devil in a nurses cap - and despite her being reported numerous times - NOTHING disciplinary has come from the reports. SO, just deal w/it yourself... only way it's going to get handled frankly.
GOOD LUCK to you, hang in there, and don't compromise your integrity for anyone.
p.s. I love nutty people! just teasin ya... :hug:
hazyblue
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Ah getting along...in my case I'm the deviant one for I am introvert. I tend to speak only when I find it necessary and so I tend to be outcast-ed by the rest of my extrovert co-workers. And since, I'm different plus an awful face and voice and other stuff, I tend have people comment on me behind my back.
I just ignore it and focus on my job which I believe introverts are capable of. But lately I'm noticing the side-effects of misery and depression. I won't be surprised if I turned suicidal. I wanted to confront them but I'm the type of person who can't argue plus I have an awful voice which people often misunderstood as whiny and mean.
Anyway, talking behind peoples back is mean. Especially when there is a bit of judgment on those conversations.