How well do you get along with your coworkers?

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Specializes in LTC.

How well do you get along with your coworkers? Even the ones you truly dislike? How do you make it manageable ? I make an effort to get along with all my coworkers yet I'm having a huge problem with one aide..

She had a complaint made on her from several a&ox3 patients and the day nurse told

e about them so I would know what to be looking for on night shift. I didn't say anything I just observed and nothing took place on my shift with her except one aphasic pt was in full blown hysterics when she would go in her room so I told her I would do that pts care til my aides on nights got there and all was well.

The day nurse reported this aide who in turn must have had something said to her by mgmt, and for a while now she has been more rude and disrespectful towards only me. I figured it out... She thinks I told on her. This was confirmed to me by one of my aides whom I work with closely and often. She told me that the other girl got in her face cussing at her demanding to know if I had said anything to her about her and said complaining pts , which I had not. All I told my girls was to be extra nice to this pt because something had her in a fit, I never once said any names or made accusations .

Well the ****** off aide who assumed I told on her has ignored me when I've asked her things or when I've asked for her for my vitals and outputs she gives me dirty looks, talks lodly about me, told my aide I was a "lil b----" & that shed kick my --- if I had said anything etc etc.

She's not said this directly to me and that's too bad cuz if so I would walk her out and suspend her for making threats as we are allowed to do so if need be. She tries to intimidate and bully people. I hate working with her. She is full of hate and malice and I think the devils blood runs thru her. I feel an evil presence around me when she is in the building and as soon as she leaves it goes away.

She would be surprised that the bubbly day nurse she sucks up to so well is the one who reported her. She tries to get nurses in trouble any way she can along with other aides. We lost several aides because of her. Her attitude is awful and she hates everything. I just don't feel like I should be a target and if I confront this or her or go to my boss nothing will be done . I have comained months ago about her attitude and was laughed at by my boss. She told me she didn't believe me. It took four aides and two other nurses saying the same thing I did for her to listen and still nothing was done.

I avoid her at all costs and don't say a word to her unless I have to. What would you guys do?

I've asked to be moved away from her and so far that hasn't been done either.

No other coworker acts like this. We all get along despite our own quirks and annoyances with each other .

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Her attitude is awful and she hates everything. I just don't feel like I should be a target and if I confront this or her or go to my boss nothing will be done . I have comained months ago about her attitude and was laughed at by my boss. She told me she didn't believe me. It took four aides and two other nurses saying the same thing I did for her to listen and still nothing was done.

The title of your post is misleading. I enjoy working with all of my co-workers. I have one or two that urk me every once in a while but I figure I probably urk them once in a while too so I just go on about my business and let it go.

It would appear that your employer doesn't care if you're unhappy or not perhaps it's time for you to look for another employer. If you stay you'll just have to realize that you're just going to have to deal with this aide :twocents:

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This might sound corny but I am going through the same. The way I deal with it is to fake it. I smile sometimes a little too much and I act so immune to the high school drama around me. I had vented so much with my friends and that helps to take a load off so often. I started to every so often go out with them as well to remind myself life is not about work. I had mention their behavior to my boss and higher ups and this people seen so over protective of each other, nothing gets done. I just go to work now and disconnect myself when I get home. While I am there I just focus on my patients. I don't really take my breaks and I give it a 110%. I triple check my notes and my work as well that way they have no ammo on me. As for their attitudes I figure they are the problem not me. One day it will catch up with them. For now hang in there and in the future if you need to move to greener pastures then do so. So will I. Pick up a nice hobby. Some people are just negative and we can't change them. It's a shame that it's tolerated in some work places.

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Specializes in Acute Care, Rehab, Palliative.

I would just smile and ignore the gossip and the talk behind your back. You need to display professionalism and ignore immature behaviour.Getting drawn in by the drama isn't worth it.

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Specializes in Legal, Ortho, Rehab.

Write her up! Think about if that was you giving nasty looks to your nurse manager. You'd be written up in a heart beat! The situation is pretty cut and dry...insubordination. What is she gonna do? Get physical? Yell, scream, and curse? Better yet...walk out? Good riddance!

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Specializes in ICU, ER, EP,.

unfortunately I don't have any solutions for you. Your CULTURE there is TOXIC. I work with wonderful co-workers who are friends outside of work... we all help each other until we can all sit together when the work is done.

I've been where you are at and I left it. I can only promise you that if you are lucky enough to be in an area with opportunities... you may have to try a few until you find your "HOME", but if you can and are willing, you don't have to put up with that crap.

one person cannot change an entire units culture... if you can find others who are like minded with you, change your schedules, band together and bond..

Wish you the best, but get out and find a real home. Nursing is tough, we need support from each other, not tearing each other to pieces, that doesn't make us whole in the end.

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In my opinion, it is very important to get along with coworkers. Getting along with people makes the job easier. You might love your job but when you do not get along with people working on the floor, it's going to be stressful. I want to wake up and be happy that I am going to see my coworkers, talk to them, share stories with them, and also be ready to take care of patients. I don't want to be one of those people that hate to go to work because they can't stand the people they are working with. I know that it is impossible to like and love everything about a person, but it is possible to get along.

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Specializes in LTC, Med-Surg, GP Office.

I get along very well with all my coworkers, CNA's included. Everyone helps each other & work as a team. All of our residents are everyones responsibility, not just the ones on our assigned hall. If any one of us gets in a bind, or has an emergency, another nurse will jump in and help. Our DON, who's been there 12 years, really listens to us when we have problems with anything & is very fair. She will weed out any nurse or CNA that are trouble (lazy, excessive call in's, trouble makers, etc.). I love where I work. :)

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Your post makes it sound as if you are getting too tied up with the dynamics of this person. You need to focus more on your nursing duties and your responsibilities to the residents. If that includes dealing with this employee, then you will be required to supervise her in an appropriate manner. Stop wasting time trying to analyze this situation and just deal with it.

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Specializes in acute rehab, med surg, LTC, peds, home c.

Up until recently, I thought I had a stellar relationship with my coworkers but it seems that they are all a bunch of backstabbers after all. I am disappointed but I still need the job and so I carry on. It disgusts me and I wish that I worked with all male coworkers. I dont think I would have the same problems.

Just remember, if someone is talking badly about someone else, chances are they are doing the same to you, just not when you are around.

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Specializes in Medical Surgical Orthopedic.

I hate working with her. She is full of hate and malice and I think the devils blood runs thru her. I feel an evil presence around me when she is in the building and as soon as she leaves it goes away.

Honestly, you sound a little nutty. :eek: After reading everything you wrote, I'm unable to pick out any specific, work-related behaviors that need to change.....at least not any that you are not both guilty of. I won't say that there aren't difficult CNAs to work with, but I've found that it's better to focus on a specific change that needs to be made instead of gossiping about them and calling them evil (it is tempting at times). I'm not sure your situation is even fixable at this point, but you can learn from it for next time!:D

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Specializes in ED, ICU, PSYCH, PP, CEN.

There is almost always at least one person like this in all locations. Pay attention to your work, CYA, document, and ignore this person. Before long she will focus on someone else. I've seen this a hundred times.

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