How Do You Know When You Need a New Job Rather Than Just Time Off?

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Has anyone been in a position where they were unsure whether they needed to find a new job, rather than just taking time off? How did you make that decision? 

Today, I contemplated putting in for some PTO.  I'm worn out and it's becoming harder and harder to only have 2 days a week off of work.  I need rest as my job is becoming increasingly demanding.  

I've noticed lately that I've had more breakdowns at work.  Anything and everything is enough to set me off.  I can't seem to handle anything that comes my way anymore.   I used to be very good at juggling multiple demands but now I just feel like shutting down.   I'm asking more and more of coworkers because too much is being asked out of someone who just doesn't have much more to give. 

Today, for instance, I was very much needed.  However, I was also very much absent.  I delegated one admission to the staff development coordinator and made arrangements for the second admit to go to the other unit.  I missed both of my scheduled Care Conferences.  I took several breaks today and was gone for over an hour this afternoon.   I barely answered any call lights. I just did not have anything inside me to give.  I may have physically been at work, but mentally I was gone. 

This isn't the first day like this recently either, although today was worse than usual.  I feel like I need to take a few extra days off at the least.  However, I'm also seriously considering looking at other positions because I'm physically and mentally worn out from this one.  I don't want to jump the gun, though, if all I really need is time to bounce back.  

Any thoughts?

You have many problems at your job. You are aware  that administration is using and abusing you.

I think you are afraid to move on.. because it is the devil that you know.

You have great experience. Reflect on what you REALLY  would like to do and  go for it.

Specializes in Psych (25 years), Medical (15 years).

Listen to these all-knowing nurses with Messiah Complexes, SilverBells.

They are here to save you and the world. They'll be sure to be there when you fall and again give you advice, tell you what you did wrong, and how to better yourself so you can be just like them!

On 5/14/2022 at 6:33 AM, SilverBells said:

As selfish as it sounds, I took a week off of work. 

Oh SilverBells… Me thinks that you need to recalibrate your selfishness thermostat/gauge/thingamabob ? I doubt you could find a single poster who actually thinks it’s selfish to take one week off. Especially not after having read your OP where you described how you feel at the moment. 

I hope that you’ve enjoyed your time off! 

6 hours ago, Davey Do said:

Listen to these all-knowing nurses with Messiah Complexes, SilverBells.

They are here to save you and the world. They'll be sure to be there when you fall and again give you advice, tell you what you did wrong, and how to better yourself so you can be just like them!

I don’t know why I’m responding to your post since I have a feeling that you are attempting to bait posters. But this is getting old. OP starts threads, asking for posters’ thoughts. People share their thoughts in response to OP’s request. OP is free to use, disregard or respond to the thoughts and advice shared. You post appearing to mock and deride posters for sharing their thoughts. At least that’s my interpretation of your post that I just quoted. If I’m wrong, you can clarify if you want to.  

If there is something in specific someone said that you disagree with or find harmful, why not address that specifically? (Or report it if you think it violates ToS). But sitting there behind your computer/device diagnosing posters as being afflicted with a collective Messiah Complex isn’t very constructive. 
 

Specializes in oncology.

Silver Bells I was in a position that may have been similar to yours but of course I am not sure. I was so unhappy in my life and thought my job was the problem. This was in the early 80s. I thought I would get in early in home health nursing. I did not like it. So I decided to move from one state to another, where my sister lived.  It was a rough transition but I found the silver lining. I found many new friends, many new avenues to explore, and discovered ways to make the money to buy my first home...which I enjoyed updating and decorating.  Eventually I gathered many friends around me and met my husband rather happenstance. What started out as dissatisfaction with my life helped me create a new life!

Specializes in Psych (25 years), Medical (15 years).

There is a truism in the pattern of behavior that says that the reason why the majority of people focus on and criticize the behavior of other is due to low self-esteem or do so to avoid the bellowing from their very own primal pool of pain.

If we are okay with who we are, we can accept the life choices of others without contest. We can live and let live and we don't need external validation of others in order to be comfortable with who we are.

Distraction is a method used by many to avoid dealing with their own psychic pain. If we focus on others and criticize them, we can avoid facing our own pain.

Carl Jung said something along the lines of, "Embrace your pain, for there your soul will grow".

However, most take the easy way out and distract themselves with drama of their own creation.

Specializes in Critical Care.
On 5/13/2022 at 11:33 PM, SilverBells said:

As selfish as it sounds, I took a week off of work.  Actually I have a total of 9 days away with the weekends included.  2 of those days will be at a conference, but I'm also hoping to just have some time to rest.  Maybe look to see what else is out there, job wise.  I don't think my workplace was able to find a replacement for me, so the other manager might be on her own.  However, perhaps this will be enough of a break to allow myself to rest, recover, reset priorities and come back as a stronger, more effective manager, coworker, and nurse.  

Time off is not selfish!  It is necessary and vital to one's well being.  Also not all states or employers honor one's PTO when they quit.  Sadly depending on where you work you could find your PTO stolen from you, literally thousands of dollars worth of pay, stolen with no recourse.  So use it up!  Take your vacation time, even if just a staycation.  Check your employer policy on PTO payout when you leave a job and your state laws too.

 

Specializes in Psych (25 years), Medical (15 years).
On 5/10/2022 at 6:55 PM, SilverBells said:

Has anyone been in a position where they were unsure whether they needed to find a new job, rather than just taking time off? How did you make that decision? 

 

God moved me.

 

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