Help!
I posted awhile back about a co-worker from whom I was experiencing chronic horizontal hostility. Long story short: The last year has been hell. She has publicly humiliated me, sabotaged relationships with co-workers, she is backstabbing and complaining constantly about me behind my back to my co-workers, my supervisor and nurse manager. She's also become best-best buds with my supervisor, and since I work 2nd shift, my nurse manager never gets to actually "see" me work... she relies on what she hears, and what she hears isn't good.
I was accused (and later acquitted) of something a few months ago that would've had me fired in a minute if it had been true. An investigation took place in order to find me innocent, and during that, I was found to be lacking in some skills that they decided would best be resolved by putting me on probation. I am never one to turn down help and I'll jump at the chance of improving my skill, but I'd be lying if I said I wasn't a bit disappointed and embarrassed to be seen as "needing a preceptor" after this much time on the job, and the fact that - well - nothing was so bad that it stuck out to anyone PRIOR to this "investigation" that was made necessary by a false accusation. In other words, I felt that I was being punished for something that I didn't do.
Fast forward a couple of months... they gave up quickly on me having a preceptor... I can only imagine that the person I "shadowed" may have relayed that it probably wasn't necessary. Now I'm still on probation and they're calling me back to the office every few days to pick on me about little things. (it's always paperwork)
The last time I got called back, I kind of lost it. After over a year of this constant hostility from one specific co-worker and feeling like the red-headed step-child of my supervisor and manager, I couldn't take anymore. I didn't use any profane or inappropriate language, but I did finally let loose all of this upset about having been a target for all this time and how I felt like I was pegged a "bad kid" in the eyes of management and I felt helpless to overcome that. Now it was suggested to me that we ought to "meet with HR" to discuss all of this.
What am I supposed to say? Do I mention the fact that my supervisor and the person who bullies me are best buds? That alone - the lack of objectivity - has been a huge source of my inability to overcome this. It seems like a mistake to point it out. I honestly don't feel like anyone will really hear me or be even capable of being objective at this point. Am I just digging my grave deeper?