I haven't posted many times here, but always receive support & wise advice when I do..so here goes:
I work LTC on the Pacific Coast..and work @ a place where nurses aides are allowed to carry on conversations that are "un-lady-like" while providing care--as if their residents can't hear them...while feeding residents, and while providing all aspects of resident care. Some use "ghetto-talk" while providing care & all attempts to correct it fall on deaf ears--there is no pathway to accountability--and talk about passive-aggressive retaliation once a nurse attempts to reprimand? OMG is putting it MILDLY...to the point where one might fear walking to their car after dark.
Before everyone gets riled up, I've written these aides up, counseled verbally and escorted a few to the manager's office. Behaviors that are unacceptable (by my way of thinking) are overlooked @ this facility.
My only expectation is that the aides provide the care that they are trained and paid to do--and do their best to be a lady or gentleman while on duty. Is this unreasonable? Am I being unrealistic?
Today, after sharing this with the DNS, I was told that I "have a negative effect on the entire building"--I was told that aides "dread working with me" ....and she went on to say that "the 3 weeks I was on vacation were the calmest that the building has been" since I was hired.
------then she threw in ......." now, I don't want you to leave......."...............Hmm. Well, it's pretty clear that you just wish I wasn't HERE, that's crystal.
In the entire time I've been employed @ this facility, I've never once been written up... & never have had any type of evaluation or appraisal of performance.
I attempted to defend myself, inquiring as to whether the DNS saw the "dread" as proof that the aides assigned to my hall knew each day what the expectation would be & simply weren't up to providing quality care---(therefore, making my hall "miserable")----and perhaps the other halls subsequently became "affected" by their complaining about having to do their jobs, as opposed to taking smoke breaks 15 minutes after clocking in, being made to turn their residents, change their incontinent garments, and actually.....hmm...WORK for 8 hours, instead of goof off...or being asked to put a lid on their 'baby-mama-drama' for 8 hours, quit texting while feeding residents & quit talking about their most recent hangover.
I was also told that I was, what the DNS termed (gotta love this) 'a rough B-tch' on the floor. I was too busy trying to see through my tears to even attempt a rebuttal to that. I'm so soft-spoken & mild mannered I'm a cream-puff to many.
Totally don't understand WHERE that could've come from. My 19 year old & husband laughed their heads off at those words ever being tagged onto me.
Before you all start suggesting that I begin walking towards the door, BE ADVISED, I'm already doing it...quickly.
Have any of you ever experienced BS like this? And how in the WORLD did you survive it with your head held high until making a graceful exit?
Please don't respond if you're going to just attack. That mindset solves nothing & offers nothing constructive at all.
