Help I'm mobbed

GingerSue · Nov 22, 2006

I agree with the above guidelines - write everthing down in chronological order and speak to someone, as described above.

Celia M, ASN, RN · Nov 22, 2006

Sonn, Document everything, notify HR and Administration. Try to be the model employee so when questions are asked your behaviour is unimpeachable and gives no cause for complaint, it makes the offenders behaviour seem much worse. Be strong and hang in there if you can't move. Take comfort in the knowlege tha they behave that way because of your superior skills etc as a nurse. Thinking of you Celia

allantiques4me · Nov 22, 2006

SONN.Im sorry if you feel Ive been inconsiderate to your thread.Yes I do happen to be new to this computer thing.I just pray you are more patient with your clients.I didnt deserve that message from you.

allantiques4me · Nov 22, 2006

Dear SONN ,I am totally sorry that you feel Ive been inconsiderate to your feelings.Im kind of new to the computer thing.I hope you have more patience with your clients,I dont believe I deserved that rude response from you.

wildmountainchild · Nov 22, 2006

Sonn,

I know what it is like to be blackballed, bullied, and made to feel inadequate. Your confidence is ripped form you and this has a tendency to make lesser things seem larger.

Everyone on this post has been supportive yet you have jumped to the defensive, even accusing an unsuspecting fellow nurse of hijacking your post willfully......take a deeeeeep breath. No one here is out to get you. I'd be willing to bet everyone sincerely wishes you the best.

But please don't fall into the behaviors of those who are making your life miserable by trying to make others feel badly in return. You know, an eye for an eye and soon the whole world is blind.

As for my situation. I had to get the hell out of dodge. It was unfortunate but I HAD to take care of myself. Leaving saved me, those bastards had actually made me feel dangerous, incompetent, and insecure. I moved and was able to IMMEDIATELY find people who were impressed with my skills, fair, balanced, and NICE. This is not to say that I didn't learn what part I had to play in the fiasco, there is always opportunity to change for the better, and that starts with responsibility (although I still firmly place the blame on the group of spiteful people that made my life hell).

Best of luck.

Dixiecup · Nov 22, 2006

Do you know why you are being treated this way? I don't understand this 'mobbing' behavior. I've really never heard of it before but it sounds just downright mean.

SmilingBluEyes · Nov 22, 2006

I agree with those that urge you to document every detail. And if need be, seek counsel from EEO, HR or even a lawyer, if it's that bad. That is my best advice. Good luck and I am sorry for you.

Sonn · Nov 22, 2006

sincere, sincere apologies to allantiques4me. I do have patients for my clients. And am a kind, honest person. I am sorry you percieve me as rude. I am dealing with a lot of stress. Please accept my apology.

Sonn · Nov 22, 2006

oops wrong spelling....patience.

Believe it or not generally I have a lot of patience.

Sonn · Nov 22, 2006

Just read the "rude" message again...yes it is a bit sharp, sorry to you all, and thanks for not totally flaming me.

Ronna · Nov 22, 2006

So Sonn, Im new to this kind of communication too, so excuse me if I mess up. You keep crying out for help. Did you go to your DON as you intended to do when u posted your complaints on 11-10-2006. You said that you were going to see you DON on Monday. Was that , what, over a week ago. What was said, anything helpful. Seek out every avenue of support that you can. I know what it's like to be stressed out and it can change you in a heartbeat. Let it all out, just don't beat up the wrong people like I have been know to do. Keep it real, keep it in perspective. Ronna

JessicRN · Nov 22, 2006

I am dealing with a case of mobbing. Has anyone experienced this, and can give practical advise? I am stressed and desperate to improve my situation.

I was mobbed for 1.5 yrs. Management was fully aware and did nothing. I was kept on probation for 8 months because "no one can evaluate you because you have never had the same nurse 2 days in a row and the ones you had never saw you work"(my preceptors sat down at the nursing desk and did nothing). I was a 27 year nurse with 15 yrs experience in trauma 1 ED's.

I got write ups for no reason and never was I informed of them, never had any kind of med error just things like, "left a bed untidy (I had 10 pts, 4 of which went to the ICU)". I was transfered to the night shift and my rep followed me. I was blackballed, I was screamed at regularly given unsafe patient loads (14 pt's in an ED with no help from anyone not even the aides). The supervisor was aware and again did nothing because she said although she knew it was happening she never saw it. Many a night I was in tears, I developed IBS and had migraines every night. I went to the EAP and they suggested I change hospitals which is what I did. It was the best thing I did. I then sought councelling for PTSD.

Once mobbed it does not go away, petty people abound and the weak just go along with the others because they are afraid to go against the others. The only thing you can do is get out or soon your health will be affected. Good luck to you, my heart goes out to you.