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Hi all! I've been a nurse about 7 years... In the same place. Yesterday I accepted a position within the company but a clinic job, m-f no weekends no holidays etc. the regular schedule was a big draw to me... I was working til midnight or 2 am every shift. Anyway.... I can't get excited bc I'm so sad about leaving my coworkers!!! I am planning to still pick up shifts at my old place but it just won't be the same :( any help?/advice?

Specializes in SIV/VMER Nurse [Portugal], SubAcute [US].
Ok wow haha, I guess I just get a little more attached. These people have helped me through the worst and best times of my life, if it weren't for them I don't know how I would have gotten up and survived after my mother tragically and suddenly died, so maybe my relationship with my coworkers goes deeper.

Hugs to you, congrats on new job!!!

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Congrats on your new job! This is bittersweet time for you. It's a huge life change and there will be a time of adjustment. Tears and laughter may co-exist.

You will go through a type of grief process in leaving a job where you have been a fairly long time and developed very close friendships especially ones where they helped you through tragic loss. In your new job you will meet new friends, develop new interests and develop a healthier work-life balance.

It will be ok. :yes:

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Specializes in Case mgmt., rehab, (CRRN), LTC & psych.
Sad about leaving coworkers?!!?? Ok....never had that problem!
Me, neither. Perhaps I am different, but I have never given a second thought about leaving coworkers when switching jobs. While I am helpful and pleasant to the people with whom I've worked, I simply do not form the type of workplace bonds that would cause me to deeply miss the coworkers I've left behind.

I know someone who hates working from home because he truly misses interaction with coworkers. I guess it is different strokes for different folks because I enjoy working from home due to the lack of workplace politics and interaction.

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Specializes in Clinical Research, Outpt Women's Health.

Take care of you. Well deserved.

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I've left several long-term jobs in my years as a nurse. It's always hard to leave your friends, but you're going to make new work friends and before long the past will be well behind you. The one thing to remember, if you pick up prn at your old job, things will change. New nurses will come and they'll be accepted into the group, and you'll start feeling a little like the outsider after a while. So don't be surprised when that happens. It's life. It moves on. Good luck!

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Specializes in Peds/outpatient FP,derm,allergy/private duty.

I've had several jobs which were within the same company, and former coworker separation anxiety hit me hard at times, too, even though I knew the change was overall a good thing. One group in particular, also laid the Guilt Trip, and the sense of betrayal they collectively feel.

Maybe it isn't feasible in your case, but we set up regular lunch dates, every 1-2 weeks or so, and that helped quite a bit.

Congrats on the new job!

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Specializes in allergy and asthma, urgent care.

OP, I understand where you're coming from. I recently left a not so great job for a better one, but I had wonderful co-workers and I miss them a lot. We were like a family, albeit a dysfunctional one! I stay in touch with some of them and we have plans to get together. Maybe you can stay in touch, too.

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Specializes in ICU.
I'm giving up my 11-11 shift, it sounds good but to me it was exhausting, you miss your whole day, can't do/see anyone before or after work.

I guess on work days I don't see anybody before or after anyway. For an 11-11 shift I could sleep on a little and get up and go to work feeling good. When I have to get up early, I literally get nauseated in the morning. I've been having to get up at 5am the past four weeks and it's been awful for me. I don't get home until 6:30-7, and maybe it'd because I'm old, but I don't go out. I hang with my family for a bit and then go to bed. If I worked until 11, I would still get home and see the fam for a few. I could see my kiddo in the morning since its summer!!

For some people I understand it doesn't work, but for me, it would be great!! I'm at my best middle of the day and evening.

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Specializes in ICU.

I will say I love my night shift peeps!! Night shifters are a different type of people and I love them!!

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