Help? Broken hearted & sad...

[Crystal112]

so, if this is the wrong one place to post, please feel free to move it...but no one has responded so far in the career section, so i'm thinking it might be the wrong one to post.

hey guys, i saw a career counsellor not too long ago and he told me that he doesn't think nursing

is the right career. i don't have anything personal against the advisor, but i honest feel a bit crushed and saddened. almost as if he shook my sense of direction. he's goal is not to insult me, and i do not feel offended...just really really sad.

the career advisor asked me about what i see in a work environment and many other questions. i answered honestly...now he feels it isn't right and i feel like i need to justify my want... i also have anxiety ...low confidence...and i suck at chemistry and math....at the same time, i feel like a suck at everything else i do anyway... i have an appointment to see another academic advisor for what i need to do to be a nursing student / get accepted and then i will be seeing the career counsellor again. because i have anxiety, my grades aren't high. and i realize nursing is highly competitive.

i am in second year of university.

he might have said nursing may not be right for me out of many reasons...it may be the emotionally demanding aspects...the work environment...the patient interaction...etc...whatever reason it is... i do believe he was talking in realistic terms... i feel like everyone keeps telling me "you can't" or "you shouldn't" and then they wonder why i have no confidence and it feeds into a cycle.

nursing is the only thing i have interest in, but i was afraid of it at first...i don't want to spend the rest of my life wondering what could have been. sure, i've heard nursing pays a lot, but i have a strong sense that nursing is not a field where i would go in it for the money. if it's anything, it's more of a bonus. i know that nursing takes a great deal of hard work once you graduate, the hard work is continous.

can someone give me any advice? i am very broken hearted. :vlin:

i can't accept my limits... because i have so many of them i might as well work in a low wage job. i want to push myself. my ambition in life may just to get married. the end.

i'm sad, because i have to work hard for everything in high school and even hard work didn't pay off. by the time i got to university, i felt so defeated and i'm giving up. to always be told you can't this and you can't that by many people...takes it's toll after 6 - 10 years.

if i try and fail... people will just be like, 'i told you so, why didn't you listen to me in the first place? "

if i don't try... i will spend the rest of my life dreaming instead of working towards it...or wondering what could have been.

is life even worth living if you can't do things you want, be like every other depressed adult who lived an unfulfilling life when it isn't necessary?

[Crystal112]

I think after my psych released information about me... he may have changed his mind... Not quite sure... but he seemed slightly less vocal about it when he learned I had issues with confidence, etc.

[cicatrixx15]

have you talked you your adviser yet?

[KateMLS]

A good career counselor will not tell you that you are unsuited to any job or profession. A good career counselor will help you discern what is right for you. A good career counselor will help you learn what strengths and weaknesses you bring to any job or profession. A good career counselor will let you know how your personality type will mesh with the majority of those in a particular profession.

Sometimes the timing is off. But, if you want to be a nurse, the only person who can stop you is you.

[carolmaccas66, BSN, RN]

It sounds like being told nursing is not your forte, is only one part of a very, very big problem.

I work in and am studying mental health and I believe you have a lot of other problems behind this post.

What you were told is only one person's opinion. You will never, ever know what nursing is like unless you try it. Even though I would not recommend any young person going into nursing now, if this is what YOU want, I say go for it.

When you are young especially, you tend to take everything everyone says to heart. But people have many different opinions, and sometimes, u just have to go ur own way and say: bugger everyone else!

You have to be a bit aggressive and non-caring of other people's views at times. You may have to work hard to get your degree (or LVN whatever) and may have to make many sacrifices along the way, but you could probably do it.

You should still keep seeing ur psychologist and a counsellor wouldn't be a bad idea.

Formulate a plan of attack to get into nursing. Find out what subjects you need, what colleges u can go to, go ask some nurses what it is like, etc.

But don't give up and sometimes you've just got to not listen to other people.

[R*Star*RN, BSN, RN]

If nursing is what's in your heart then you should do it! Let other people's opinions of your degree choice roll off your back, because only you know what's right for you.

Continue to work on any issues with your psychologist, and as you know change takes time. So you may not strongly exhibit all the qualities your counselor "thinks" you should have. . .so what?

If you need confidence, that's something that will come in time, with practice. You have anxiety? So do I, but I've learned to control it and not let it affect me at work. Sometimes there will be rough moments when you need to take yourself aside for a second to collect your thoughts.

Remember there are so many different areas for different types of people. I have a friend who has the social skills of a rock but nursing was in his heart and he's in an area of nursing that doesn't require a lot of social interaction. Myself, I love interacting with patients and getting to know them and taking time out to do education. . so I am exploring options other than typical floor nursing.

Good luck on your journey :)

[tiroka03, LPN]

High School Counselors in my opinion are the last people you want to take advise from. I have two kids with autsim. You can not even believe all the counselors and teachers we have been through over the years. There were 2 that stood out from the crowd, who actually encourged my kids. Those 2, not the hundreds who disrespected me and my kids, those 2 who encourged my kids to reach beyound their disability. Thankfully they listened to the right voices, my kids are both very successful. I have had counselors actually hop on a table and jump up and down because they were trying to emphazise how wrong I was that I wanted more for my kids.

1. You have to stop going to this counselor. It's like going to the devil himself, - only go if you want your head filled with lies and discouragement.

2. You need to take a look inside yourself, find your drive, your determiniation.

3. You have to get mad.

4. You have to stop listening to lies.

5. You have to live in your truth

6. You need to pray, hard.

7. You have to work at this until it hurts, and then work some more

8. You have to give yourself pep talks

9. You need to think about exactly what you want to do in the healthcare field.

10. You need to think about going into it in steps, or just jump in.

I like the idea of working as a CNA, while you go to school. Even if it's part time, it will let you know if you feel you can take another step. Only you can deciede that. Your young, and still changing inside, you wo't know unless you try things what is right or wrong for you.

Don't listen to a high school counselor - it's a waste of time.