Specialties Ob/Gyn
Published Jun 18, 2007
Jo Dirt
3,270 Posts
I just wonder. This last week I have been so irritable and grouchy, especially when it comes to my family. This has been the hardest pregnancy but I have tolerated the misery fairly well until the past week.
Have you seen women finally buckle under the pressure of being pregnant and go off on their families? For example, while I worked all weekend my husband and my kids worked to clean the house and every night I would come home I would find reason to yell at (especially) my husband. Of course, he gets totally defensive and throws it back in my face, but I am too angry to care right now. The last straw was last night when I jumped on him for washing baby clothes and assumed he threw them in the washer with his filthy work clothes (which he probably did). Of course, he's more childish than the kids are and totally doesn't understand, but have you ever seen moms-to-be in late pregnancy just turn into Mommy Dearest?
I even told my husband I'm going to give the baby away (of course, I wouldn't think of doing this, but I just feel mean.)
prinsessa
615 Posts
I used to get mad at DH for just sitting too close to me on the couch. I would tell him "you are on my side of the couch.....move over!" I feel so bad now because he would try to be nice to me and I would just snap on him. I think being pregnant in the summer made me even more crabby. One thing that helped me feel better was to take a walk or go swimming at the pool close to our house. I hope you are feeling better soon!
LizzyL&DRN
164 Posts
HECK YEAH!!! That was me!!! I couldn't explain it, but especially with family I was such a B@#*%H! I had been telling my mother in law the whole pregnancy that she could be in the delivery room and that last week i changed my mind. She is the sweetest person in the whole world, and I couldn't explain why I changed my mind. I guess its just a culmination of everything, the lack of sleep, hormones, anticipation, being uncomfortable that make you REALLY crabby. Your family will understand, and they will forgive you. Hang in there.
mommy2boys
161 Posts
I was the same way with both of my pregnancies. The sound of my husband chewing and breathing made me want to hit him. I agree with the other posters when they say it is probably just the the lack of sleep, hormones and anticipation.
I hope you feel better soon. Try to make some time for yourself, that always made me feel a little better.
Erin
MarySunshine
388 Posts
It sounds like you have lots of reasons to feel this way. It's good that you're acknowledging it. Can you think of a good way -- like an afternoon that you get to relax, by yourself, every week -- to take the stress down several notches? I just think that even though it's understandable, you need to find a good way to deal with it, so that it doesn't wear your relationships down. Take care of yourself and your marriage, too!
babyktchr, BSN, RN
850 Posts
Wait....you have to be pregnant to act this way?? I am NOT pregnant and when I come home after working 12 hours and there are dishes everywhere and stuff not done...I get a might bit cranky. Sounds to me like you are HUMAN.
Elvish, BSN, DNP, RN, NP
4 Articles; 5,259 Posts
One of my nursing sch instructors who was the kindest, gentlest, most patient soul in the universe said that while she was in late pregnancy, her husband wanted to go somewhere without her. It made her so mad that she picked up the (full) laundry hamper and heaved it at him. Missed him but put a big hole in their wall.
I had emotions but they were the weepy kind. Oh heavens, I cried over anything and everything and nothing from about 36 weeks on. I didn't even have to feel bad, I just cried. Hang in there. You are normal.
preciousbaby621
46 Posts
I wish all mother-in-laws were sweet like yours.
Boy, ain't that the truth. I've got the snotty witch mother-in-law from hell. She looks down her nose at everybody, especially me (she hates fat people and it only brings me down lower to be from the South, she thinks people who aren't from the Northeast- mainly NYC- are illiterate dumb uncultured hicks...yes, motha).
At any rate, my back is killing me, I can't eat or drink anything after midnight and I'm supposed to be at the hospital at 7am for my labor induction. But I still feel like punching my husband. It was a reinactment of the wire hanger scene in Mommy Dearest when I found out my husband washed the new baby clothes with his own filthy clothes. I get so mad thinking about it I can't see straight.
Please let this misery end soon.
MamaMadge, ADN, BSN
66 Posts
Motorcycle Mama....as I am posting this, you are probably in labor! You did it! You didn't kill anyone! YAY! I wish you a speedy labor and a happy, healthy baby! Enjoy!
AimeeJo RN
82 Posts
I am going through this right now, due june 30th. My first 2 pregnancies were so much different than this one which has been a bit difficult and stressful. I have no patience right now. When my kids are at school I am emotional thinking how much I love them and when they are home I want to just curl up in bed to get away from the noise and activity. I feel like such a witch. Thank goodness it is almost over.
rnmomtobe2010
1,051 Posts
I was an angel with my son. With my daughter, I was the devil's advocate. There were a few family members and co-workers and a baby daddy I wanted to torture and bury alive. I could not believe I was that way. That girl had me saying and doing things to people I could not imagine doing on my own. I was more than a monster. Out of all of the people around me, the only ones who were safe were my son, mother, aunt Vicki and my grandaddy. My 8 year old cousin Micaiah, let's just say she is blessed to be alive!!!!!