"I don't think I posted anything that might lead to that thought, but it sure was in my mind that morning. Just from watching the 13-14 yr old interact with the baby. She showed more concern than mom, was more attentive to the baby, acted more like a mother than big sister. I have 4 children of my own, and though all of my older ones were concerned about the younger siblings, it was nothing like what I saw. She acted responsible for the baby, was able to give more concisde information than mom, etc. I really don't know if the 13 yr old was the mother, but thats what my gut instinct was telling me. And, though not a lot of yrs experience as an RN, have learned to go with my instincts, and am rarely wrong. Unfortunately, I cannot follow up on this one to see. "
The 13 yr old could very well be the mother, but it could be a very concerned older sister. I have heard of siblings turning into "mother" figures when there is abuse in the family. She may have witnessed (or has been) abused and wants to give this child some sort of mothering. I have a friend that came from a very abusive family (drugs, very violent mother, etc) and she turned into the mother for her siblings. At 10 yrs old she did the best she could, but what 10 yr old really knows how to be a parent? After years of abuse, the state finally took the kids and she was able to be a child also.
Either way, my prayers go out to this child and the other children living in that household. Hopefully the state will come in and help this poor inocent kids from their worthless mom. Thank you for being concerned about this child and showing her some compassion in her life. You are a wonderful person and nurse to care about her.