graduating in may, getting married

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So I graduate in May and plan to take boards asap and find a job. I am getting married next October also. I have had several people tell me DO NOT tell them in the interview that I am getting married in October and wait till I have an offer to tell them...however I have also had people tell me to go ahead and tell the interviewer I am getting married in October. So my question is, do I wait till I have an offer to tell them or do I tell while going through the interview process? Also has anyone had to ask off time as a new nurse for the wedding and honeymoon and how did that go? Moving the wedding date is not an option (already made deposit!) Thanks for all the replies!

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Specializes in ER.

I don't see why your wedding plans should come up, unless you have a specific day you need off. As far as your honeymoon, you may have to defer a lengthy honeymoon if you are not eligible for time off yet. In any case, I wouldn't bring up that you need your wedding day off until after a job offer.

I think the fact that you will be a stable, married woman (hopefully) would be a positive. Sometimes unmarried women have a lot of drama in their lives, breakups, late night partying.

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I would only tell them if your wedding & honeymoon would interfere with the orientation time. For example, if you start your job in September and know that you have a 2 month orientation, you have to tell them that you're getting married in October. Some employers won't allow you to interrupt an orientation and could possible arrange for you to start work after the event.

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I think the fact that you will be a stable, married woman (hopefully) would be a positive. Sometimes unmarried women have a lot of drama in their lives, breakups, late night partying.

Huh? :facepalm:

OP, get offered the job first. There are people who are pregnant that wait to be offered a job before letting their employer know. However, I do agree with other PP, you'll have to mention to potential employers if it interferes with orientation. And if you can't get the time off for honeymoon, but your employer allows self scheduling, try to schedule yourself to have a few days off consecutively. A 2 week honeymoon may not be possible.

Good luck!

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Thanks for the quick replies! I have a contract with my local hospital that I'll come work for them once I graduate (they are giving me a scholarship) so I know I'm pretty much going there to work. Orientation time is about 2-2.5 months there so I'm hoping to be out of orientation by then.I know I would have to tell them since I would need those specific dates off just wasn't sure when I would need to tell! Thanks again!

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I would definitely not tell them any details. If you have a specific day(s) needed off, based off my experiences, there is usually a time before or after getting hired where you can specify what future dates you will not be available.

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Wait till after they offer you the job. say "I accept the job, but I must let you know that I am getting married in October" I did the exact same thing.

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Mention the wedding when the schedule is being made up. Be prepared to forego a lengthy honeymoon depending on hospital policy.

When I got married in the October after graduation during my first job, I got the weekend plus a couple of days off for the wedding and a weekend honeymoon close to home. That left a year to plan, save up for, and have time off to plan a week long, fabulous anniversary trip.

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I think the fact that you will be a stable, married woman (hopefully) would be a positive. Sometimes unmarried women have a lot of drama in their lives, breakups, late night partying.

Newlyweds, middle weds and long time weds have drama. It's called the human condition.

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I would not discuss requesting time off at a job interview.

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Newlyweds, middle weds and long time weds have drama. It's called the human condition.

Lol true:D

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LOL! Divorce and custody issues make for a lot more drama than breaking up with your boyfriend.

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