Giving my Resignation in 2 hrs...and want to puke

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I am 2 hrs away from resigning my nursing position. It was my first job after graduating and I have not been there a full year. I have typed my resignation letter keeping it short, sweet, professional, and to the point. I know my boss is going to be angry- the invested time and $ into my training but I am the furthest thing from happy. After going back to school for my BSN I knew I'd have rough days and it would be no where close to glamorous, but I never thought I would leave everyday feeling defeated and questinoing my new career path. I get low man on the totem pole but I have been abused on the schedule (its actually absurd, yet they refused to make me perm nights/weekends due. to the additional 28 cents they would have to pay me yet I've worked every weekend night shift since day one.) A pt complained about nursing care and instead of asking for the nurses name my boss assumed since I was new it was me- letter in my employee file, meeting, and forced to 'make nice' with the patient only to find out a week later my boss got it wrong and it was a nurse from a different floor- she said 'sorry.'

I dont want to go in there with anything other than appreciation for all they have done for me and my career but what do i do if she starts prying????

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If she starts prying, you can tell her the truth and be sorry you did so, or stick with your story. You know that they are well aware of how they have treated you and they also know that they need not look any further than that behavior to find your reason for leaving. I just hope you are not making a big mistake by going. Hope you have another job to go to. Good luck.

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I was offered my 5 year goal dream job about a week ago which makes my decision much easier, yet still difficult. I truly appreciate the skills I have learned but feel like I will continue to feel dread if I stay and not grow as a nurse

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If you're not happy with what you're doing, it will be best to leave. I strongly suggest, however, you try to part ways in good terms with your boss. Never burn any bridges as much as possible.

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So my boss REFUSED my resignation saying she'd rather look for an internal position comparable to the new one and allow me to have another option.....and then told me if I gave any notice it would have to be a month- the 3 wks I was giving was not enough. Policy states I must give equal to my accrued vacation- at this point thats a wopping 36 hrs...she said I have to give what my yearly vacation accrual would be. Does this sound right/fair/normal to anyone?

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It sounds as if she is messing with you one last time. I think your relationship with her is not salvageable. Just concentrate on your starting date with your new job. You have presumably given the original of your letter to HR so they are aware you are resigning and what your last day will be. Good luck.

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So my boss REFUSED my resignation saying she'd rather look for an internal position comparable to the new one and allow me to have another option.....and then told me if I gave any notice it would have to be a month- the 3 wks I was giving was not enough. Policy states I must give equal to my accrued vacation- at this point thats a wopping 36 hrs...she said I have to give what my yearly vacation accrual would be. Does this sound right/fair/normal to anyone?

she is attempting to bully you, submit your resignation to HR, with the explanation that your NM wouldnt take it.

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Hey there , yea to come to resignation is a big step, i m sure u have already thought about the pros and cons, It sounds like to me at this stage you have made up your mind as to leave.

Tell me why so many nurses are bit........ > Yea we al know nursing is very hard work both emotionally and physically too. at the end of your shift u often walk away thinking what was all that is it worth it at all especially for the wages?

hope you find your dream job too.

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So my boss REFUSED my resignation saying she'd rather look for an internal position comparable to the new one and allow me to have another option.....and then told me if I gave any notice it would have to be a month- the 3 wks I was giving was not enough. Policy states I must give equal to my accrued vacation- at this point thats a wopping 36 hrs...she said I have to give what my yearly vacation accrual would be. Does this sound right/fair/normal to anyone?

I would get in touch with the HR department, and contact the Labour department for clarification on those points. Pronto. To be honest, the vacation portion sounds about right. The mandatory month sounds like a lot of HR BS, when, technically, you could jolly well march right out. Wouldn't recommend it, however. :)

Next, contact the hiring manager for the new position, accept it on condition that they delay the start date as you would like to give (your) current employer ample time for transition, training, (blah blah blah) as per policy and would like to defer them the respect as (you) would any employer.

Seriously, you're boss - yeah, I said boss and not leader - sounds like balls. Pardon my Latin.

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Next, contact the hiring manager for the new position, accept it on condition that they delay the start date as you would like to give (your) current employer ample time for transition, training, (blah blah blah) as per policy and would like to defer them the respect as (you) would any employer.

I think the above is good advice. I believe most new employers will understand that you have to give proper notice before leaving a position. This can reflect your work ethic and professionalism. It also lets the new employer know that you will hopefully provide them with the same respect if/when the time comes that you leave them.

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I know im almost a year late, but I'm curious to know the outcome. I am in a similar situation and when searching for advice I came across this thread.

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