I'm a FNP in my 2nd year of practice. My first year should have been great, but it was hell! Looking back on it, what really did me in was the lack of support I had, an unstable manager who was totally unprofessional, a colleague who stopped mentoring me and was the owner's pet as well as the managers buddy- all of them back stabbers... I just got fed up. I was constantly bringing work home and always felt like I had this "thing" hanging over my head. I never slept well, I constantly woke multiple times during the night, I couldn't get to sleep, and then I would wake up early and unrested. It eventually got to the point near the end where I would go to work with this tightness and heaviness in my chest, feeling short of breath, and like I wanted to punch anyone in the throat. I just became a monster.
I was 8 months into my first year when I started looking for a new job on the advice of a very close friend, and it took me 5 months to find it. I was so scared to tell my boss that I was leaving, but what really woke me up was when she said to me at my 1 year review, "you're going to go home, take care of your kids, put them to bed, and then put on your big girl panties and go back to work." As in, sign in and get my charts done. I just remember thinking, "you are sick."
I'm not a mom yet, but I'm getting ready to be one and I sure as hell will never put work ahead of my family. When I'm home, I should be home, not mentally attached to the day that just went down and the thought of all the crap that still needs to get done. I want to be a great wife, a great mom, and a good friend.
I reflected on the life my bosses had and had a moment of looking into my crystal ball and said no way! My former boss was pretty much an absent mother who has a dysfunctional marriage. My other boss was just as bad and I didn't want to be either of them in 20 years so I quit.
I'm now working in a retail clinic and I have my life back. I've since finished 3 books since leaving, something I was never able to do, I have more sex with my husband, I'm more rested, I sleep in, I nap, I play with my dogs, I take care of ME, and I'm happy. Best part is that now I'm making more money doing less work and I never bring a thing home. My friends all comment on how happy I look and it's true! Now I'm going to be starting a family and have all of those precious moments to look forward to.
Point is: don't get stuck! Don't think that what you're doing is "it." You may have an amazing job and have struck that balance in your life, but that's just it- you need balance! We all need balance. How can we take care of people when we can't even do the same for ourselves?! You can't even do a good job like that!
I hope this inspires you to look at your situation and think of where you're going to be in 5, 10, 20 years or more. Look at others around you if you're not sure. Are they happy? Do they have balance? How did they find it? If they're miserable, they don't have it and it should be a BIG wake up call to move on. This is how I looked at it: if I could be fired at any moment and for no reason, no matter how much of myself I gave, then why the hell should I care about leaving?
Take your life back. Be happy. Find balance.