I think it is perfectly fine to go to viewings, funeral, or memorials. I have gone to many, when you work with someone over an extended period of time, they become just like family. We are only human and we feel the loss too. It is always special knowing the family understands the difference you tried to make, such as like frannybee stated, being mentioned in the service, or being left a treasured item that the resident knew you liked. I have even been stunned when receiving papers that I have been left in wills. But what it comes down to is that we do our job in a way we can live with it, giving the best we can, trying to make a difference, and if that gives us a small trinket in the end to remember them by, then that is just considered a thank you from their loving hearts. I always try to get pictures of the ones I really love, and I have collected quite a few. They are always such treasured memories cause when we take the pictures they usually get ornery on me, and do something funny that flips me out when I look at the picture later, that is a priceless treasure. (You can only take their picture if they are alert and oriented or you have family consent) Franybee, you sound a lot like me, I'm a big sucker for a sweet little face and always will be. I think I fall in love everyday.