This is just me, not saying to its a good thing or not.....I don't put up with no mess. Either you are going to support me and be in my corner, or you can bounce
. We support them, cook, clean, have $ex (which is a chore), take care of their kids..and everything else under the sun. Of course I am not advising you to leave your spouse, but as WOMEN, we need to stop thinking about everyone else and do for US. We do so much for them (and don't get me wrong, there are soooo many good men out there as well), it is time that we take out time to do something for us. He needs to understand that this is only temporary. .
I'm sure that things we get better. Just tell him how you feel. Then tell him if 'you' were NikNik, he would be out the door, LOL. Good Luck to you and never, ever, give up.