Yeah, I am a student nurse, I sit on my lazy but eatting bon bons alllll day long!!!

[HeartsOpenWide]

If I hear my husband use the phrase, "Well when you work 40 hours a week!...."

I just stopped asking my husband for any help. I tried to get him to help out around the house since I have started nursing school. No. okay, understandable, I got this student nurse thing a little bit better under control now...could you at least do the dishes you get dirty when I am not home? no. Could you put your clothes in the hamper instead of on the living room floor? no. (when I am lucky he soaks the dishes). okay maybe I am not at a job that pays, but nursing school is work, and I am at it 7 days a week! I never see my friends, all I do is go to class and study; literally. I am not complaining, this is what I want to do and I feel privileged to do it, but can I get a little credit? I am working my a$$ off here! It took me forever to talk my husband into letting me go back to school (lets not get started on that subject) and I still get scorn every once and awhile. (He got a new job that was paying the same amount more an hour as I was making as a medical assistant so there was no exuse to not let me go back).

[pagandeva2000, LPN]

I have to say my husband is great. I didn't actually believe in marriage until I met him. He is really excited and proud about me going back to school. We both hate housework so we are good about splitting it (or both procrastinating). He likes cooking more than I do and so he does it more often than me. One compromise, we bought a dishwasher, that was the only thing we used to both get stressed about.

What we tend to do is that who ever is the one at home does what needs to be done. I have a few days off during the week so if he is out of clean t-shirts I'll do laundry. On the weekends when I'm in school if the house needs cleaning he is the one at home so he does it.

Since he is supporting me through school, whenever he gets stressed about money I remind him about how I'll be making 2x what I used to make soon, and eventually after grad school will make about as much as he makes. At that point he can quit work to do whatever he wants to do and I'll support him! The important thing is that we are partners, and are in this together. What's a couple years of stress when it will lead to many more years of increased comfort?

I love the idea of the school that invites SO's to orientation! What a great idea!

I think that the schools invites significant others because that will be the last time you'll see them until you graduate -just kidding- but, on the real side of it, your husband sounds alot like mine, and I just love my chubby hubby to death. He was so supportive through nursing school, and I am glad to have him. I am happy that you have the same sort of husband.

[lpnhell]

BOY DO i FEEL YOUR PAIN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!MY HUSBAND DOES NOTHING AROUND THE HOUSE AND WE HAVE A 2 YEAR OLD. i GET HOME AND AM SO OVERWHELMED WITH HOUSEWORK, THAT IT TAKES FOREVER TO GET TO MY HOMEWORK!!!!!!!i NEED TO JUST LET THINGS GO SOMETIMES, BUT THE KITCHEN AND BATHROOMS NEED TO BE CLEANED, THERE IS NO GETTING AROUND THAT OR LAUNDRY.... :madface: :madface:

[Michelle123]

I have been managing nursing school and 2 casual jobs, and a 3 yr old and my husband has been working fulltime and studying part time via distance education. I basically had a breakdown! So I left one of my jobs, and now we eat a lot of frozen meals, pies, nuggets, weight watchers meals, chips, etc. Not very healthy I know...the house isn't clean at the moment and the laundry is a mess. But we are taking some time off when I finish exams (last one next thursday!!) and will work out a very no fuss system that we can both do to get though the next 18 months. I do feel guilty that I am not doing more around the house becuase he is the one that we rely on for the money and he is also studying, but when I finish and am working as an RN we have talked about him leaving work to concentrate on his degree fulltime. We are in this together, a partnership to work towards our goals together. It isn't about, my goals and his goals, but what we want as a family. We have been married for almost 6 years and it has taken us a while to get to that stage though :)

But you do what you can to make your life easier. If that means only vacuuming the middle of the floor once a week then so be it, lower your standards!!

There is also a site http://www.flylady.com which covers basic stuff which might help you, it is all about getting it done in less time, doing the basic stuff, that hardly takes any time.

[celery]

I went to school all day, all week, studying like crazy when not there. I have done almost every single dish (no dishwasher) and cleaned, folded, and put away almost every single peice of laundry, collected and took out almost every piece of trash in the house, arranged all the daycare, swept all the floors, vacuumed all the rugs, cleaned all the cars (inside and out), prepared most meals, etc, etc, etc....for 5 years, and I accept that i will for the rest of my life. I am grateful for every single cent my wife has earned for our entire marriage. I am ready to not only do all that I always have, but to start helping with the bills too.

one of those bills might be a helper around the house, lol.