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Hi everyone,
I was just wondering if anyone else is having some relationship problems. My husband is a good guy, but lately, the last couple of years our relationship has just been getting farther and farther apart. (Since I really got serious about school) Now, it's gotten so far apart that I just recently found out he has been talking to and seeing a woman "friend" in another state. (He drives truck) He says it's not a physical thing (and I DO believe him) however, it's still an emotional thing because he talks to her about alot of things that he is obviously NOT sharing with ME!
When I found out, he said the biggest reason is that he can't talk to me anymore, he feels resentful of me going to school fulltime and not being able to contribute financially and that I am CHANGING as a person. I don't see myself changing at all! I will admit, that I have made new friends..but that does not change who I am. I now share the same interests with these people, something he has made clear that he does NOT. That's also one of the biggest reasons I come here, so that I can share with others who are in the same/similar situations and who actually WANT to hear about my clinical "experiences".
He has been trying hard to be a better husband, and he has ended the relationship with her, but we have a long way to go. (Trust issues obviously) I asked if he wanted me to quit school and he was adamant that I NOT. He said even if he has to drag me there and chain me to a desk all week I am going. I have another 22 months of nursing school to go and this could be a VERY long haul. I guess I am fearful that he will put me through school and then when I can financially stand on my own, he will say that our marriage is over. He says that he has no intention of that happening...but right now I don't know if I believe him.
Anyone else ever been in a similar situation? Thanks for letting me relieve a little anxiety, I know that he loves me and he realizes that I am doing this for the good of the family down the line, but it can be hard to see that light at the end of the tunnel, especially when you feel the tunnel is closing in on you. As I am sure that is how he feels.