Single in nursing school

abundantjoy07, RN · Feb 9, 2005

At my school most girls get engaged their Freshman or Sophomore year and are married by the time they graduate. If you are at a Christian univerisity like me then it's pretty much the norm. So I can understand. However, I don't think you should let it bother you. My first priority is school. Marriage should wait. But if you want to get married it's up to you! I just don't think it's something you should stress over.

abundantjoy07, RN · Feb 9, 2005

At my school most girls get engaged their Freshman or Sophomore year and are married by the time they graduate. If you are at a Christian univerisity like me then it's pretty much the norm. So I can understand. However, I don't think you should let it bother you. My first priority is school. Marriage should wait. But if you want to get married it's up to you! I just don't think it's something you should stress over.

YoungWiseWoman · Feb 9, 2005

I understand completely how you feel. I am 26 and I am in the 1st semester of my BSN program. I broke up with my boyfriend in October and now I am regretting it. He sucked as a boyfriend, but I started to think it would be nice to have someone there to talk to about ALL my tests and my day as a whole. At least someone there to say "good job baby" when I get an A, but unfortunately that is not the case. Like I said before, he sucked as a boyfriend so he would be more of a headache, than a relief. I have learned that personally, I don't need to be in a relationship during this ordeal. School is already stressfull enough, PLUS if that person upsets you that is like triple stress. I have found that if I am upset with my boyfriend I can't concentrate on what I am trying to do because I am worried about what he is doing. So the best thing is maybe to be single until almost the end, because it works out better for sanity's sake. I was like you when I was 22, but now I appreciate being single and only having to worry about me.:roll Don't get me wrong I want marriage, kids and all that, but it can wait. So don't feel bad, try to roll with it and know that you will have the extras in the future.

OK I have to go now...Health Assessment and PATHO exams are tomorrow and they are calling me name.... :scrying: :eek:

Tweety, BSN, RN · Feb 9, 2005

Don't judge yourself through someone elses eyes.

I spent most of my 20s and half of my thirties alone. Lived alone for most of that time too. It was what it was. There were advantages and disadvantages depending on my focus at the time.

Life is what you make it, alone or married. Some of the most miserable people I know are married. Being married does not bring happiness and bliss. Being single does not bring loneliness and sadness.

Good luck in school.

SarasotaRN2b · Feb 10, 2005

there is absolutely nothing wrong with being single at the age of 22, or while in nursing school!!!

there is nothing wrong with being single at any age!!! i'm 40, about to embark on my bsn program, and unless i meet someone who will understand the limitations of time that i will have, i'll be happy to stay single.

kris

NeoNurseTX, RN · Feb 10, 2005

I'm 20 and single in nursing school. Yeah, it does seem like everyone is either married or engaged or something.. but I'm young and have many years ahead of me [hopefully!!] Nursing school isn't the best place to meet guys, though.

Tony35NYC · Feb 16, 2005

I always wanted to get married and have children but I'm afraid it's not going to happen in the future.

How do you know its not going to happen? Take it from a person who is married with children, family life is not always a happy, rosy, wonderful thing. Sometimes its VERY stressful, especially when you're in school and trying to concentrate on 10 chapters for an exam---then one of the kids suddenly gets sick...

You're only 22, and even if you were 32 you'd still have plenty of time for marriage and children later on. I encourage you to continue with school and get your career going first. Being single is not a bad thing. It means you have the freedom to decide how you'll use your time. Most married people and parents with young children don't have that luxury. Just because your peers are either married or in relationships doesn't necessarily mean they're any happier or better off than you. And, with a divorce rate pushing near 60% these days, it makes sense to be patient and wait 'til you meet the right person for you. If you feel lonely and don't like it, join some social groups to meet other single people.

Keep your eyes on the prize, girl. There's no man out there who's more important than your education and career, and you'll always have that in your corner whether there's a man in your life or not.

sunnyjohn · Feb 18, 2005

Oh to be 22 again..... I'm only 32.. and I'm still not married, though I am engaged. It will happen. Like my mummy used to say, "Books and Boys shouldn't mix!"

betsy2006 · Feb 18, 2005

Futureisblue,

I just wanted to tell you that I too am single in nursing school. Im 21 and I know it is hard to be around people who are in relationships/getting/already are married-most of my classmates/friends are too. I was in a four year relationship that ended not too long ago, and its been really hard for me since that happened. BUT-I'm not giving up hope that I will find someone who is right for me, it just hasn't happened yet. It was great to have someone to talk to about school with and to "get away" from school with at the same time. It does give me more time to spend on studying, which is something I can really use! Don't get down in the dumps though! You are not the only one to be single! Us single girls have to stick together!