Quit nursing school due to head games. - page 3

As some of you know, I had a strange clinical instructor the semester. If you don't know my situation, see post in the general discussion area from 1-18-03. Yesterday, I met with the instructor to... Read More

  1. by   2banurse
    Originally posted by suzielee
    Hi Im so sorry you dropped out but I totally understand why. Im about to finnish but this has been the most abusive experience of my life. Wheel chairs thrown at me (left a beauty bruise) verbal insults screamed down the hallways of the ward I was co-oping on, interviews that were an act of public humiliation. Ive struggled so hard to get thru my program without going postal. At 40 years old I walked away from a marriage, a house, a boat and my life saving to attain this goal and at every step Ive encountered a psychotic nut as a teacher (although some were good) The expression "nurses eat their young" was engrained into me from the very beginning. All I can tell you is that if you want something bad enough-hold your head high and screw them all-this is for you @#&%$! them!!!!!!! The one thing that scares me though is that these people are licensed to care for the vulnerable patients we deal with-this is terrifying!!! Should they not have a personality test or review to determine that the insane are not allowed to nurse or teach? I empathize with people that are sociopathic and narcisistic but I dont think that nursing is a profession they belong in!!!!!!
    This was all done by a nursing instructor? That is too sick to even contemplate.

  2. by   MishlB
    I have found that there are "old school" nurses, who believe in these scare tactics to see if you have got what it takes. Who is benefitting if you quit? Nobody, that's who. You need to reconsider, and get on with it. Don't feel sorry for yourself and FINISH!!! You can do it. After all, these nasty haggy people are not laying awake at night planning your demise...you know this don't you??
  3. by   delirium
    I wonder if Bio is even hanging around to read any of this encouragement?

  4. by   BioRN
    Hey, all I still read your wonderfully supportive letters and I thank you. Now that I left my job for nursing school and I quit school. I have very little to do until my resumes get to thoses in charge of hiring. Thank you for your encouragement.

    Bio (RN never to be)
  5. by   mona b RN
    There is no way I will make it in nursing school if things like what's described in the posts happen to nursing students. Wheelchairs thrown at them and verbal abuse and the general physcological abuse that's being described. Why on earth would you put up with that. First, anybody throws a wheelchair at me is gonna get sued. Second, anybody talks to me like an idiot is gonna get it right back. Third, anybody who wants to play head games is gonna get it right back and sued.

    For cryin out loud, what is going on here. We've got to stick up for ourselves. This just isn't right. If this is what's happening in nursing school everywhere then it's no wonder things are the way they are.

    mon b
  6. by   MishlB
    The horror stories are by no means typical. I have had WONDERFUL clinical instructors! It's too bad Bio didn't hang in there. Is there more to the story than was told?? Why quit over one person?? Hmmm.......
  7. by   mattsmom81
    Please don't let one bad person control you to the point you give up on a dream. I have only ran into 2 or 3 really evil, control freak people like her in my life...and they are very destructive. Luckily the good way outweigh the bad.

    I hope you reconsider your goals and go for what you WANT.
  8. by   jude11142

    Been there, sure know how you feel.........I had an instuctor say similiar things to others and boy did it feel great to prove her wrong! During graduation, would you believe that when we recieved our diploma/certificate and shook hands with all of the instructor, this one completely snubbed me. As my name was called, she actually during facing the other direction as I walked up and past her. What a you know what! I murmured under my breath something to the effect of **** you. I know not very mature but I felt so angry and I have to say that it felt good to say it. Keep up the great work and don't let anyone tell you that you won't make it. I still don't understand why certain instructors are like this......Get this, 6 months after graduating everyone gets in the mail a survey and check out this question........"do you believe that this program prepared you to: interact with individuals through appropriate verbal and nonverbal communication?" and "do you believe that the program demostrated a commitment to the developement of professional behavior?"..........NO WAY!!!!! They treated most of us as children, continually put down students in front of peers and others, verbally abused some etc............why, I don't know....Know that I am out, I have reported this and I pray that these instructors get fired or further teaching on how to interact with adult students with respect. I for one, am so glad that I didn't allow their treatment of me, keep me from finishing school and becoming a nurse which as been my lifelong dream. I find it so sad that in my case, just because I befriended another student who was having some sort of "personality clash?", I was all of the sudden(at the last 6-8 weeks of school)on the sh**list......prior to that all of my clinical training was excellent, test grades high..........so go figure.

    Anyways, good luck,
    Originally posted by KELLYGIRL
    I have been a victim of an overbearing instructor. I am still being bullied by her. This is my last semester of nursing school of which she isn't teaching any of the classes I am taking. I just think she has a hunger for eating her young. I now hear from one instructor that "they" don't think I will make it. Guess who the "they" is? HER... I am going to make it...I am going to prove her wrong and anyone else who thinks I won't make it.
    If you have the chance, PLEASE go back... or at least go to another school. If this is what you really want, don't give up. Only you know what you want out of your life.
  9. by   yms yms rn

    Why would you quit nursing school over one person? I firmly believe that nurses are born nurses, requiring only the official training to allow them to fulfill their calling. Don't ever let someone else tell you that you shouldn't do something, when you know in your heart that they are wrong!
    I hope that you persevere in your pursuit of a career in nursing. I was able to get thru nursing despite many obstacles and have never regretted it. In fact, I am now 1/2 way thru my graduate work to become a Nurse Practitioner.
    Some people just have to give you a hard time in order to feel justified in their positions. I can only add my voice to those above when I say "Don't let the b*st*rds get you down"

    yms yms
  10. by   mattsmom81
    Originally posted by yms yms rn

    Some people just have to give you a hard time in order to feel justified in their positions. I can only add my voice to those above when I say "Don't let the b*st*rds get you down"

    yms yms
    So very true. Unfortunately the abuse doesn't end with the nursing license. Nurses are abused by arrogant docs and administrators. Patients will abuse their nurses...I have been seriously injured twice by patients..when I was trying to help them..

    We have to learn how to handle these things and not be overcome by them. I know it's difficult. Hang in there all...this BB is great cuz we can vent here. :kiss
  11. by   opiatesrus
    Sorry to hear you had such a bad experience Bjorn, and anyone else in the same situation. I am a 'survivor' (if thats the right word!) of a similar experience. I had a mentor( as we call em in the uk) on a clinical placement whos sole aim during my placement was to make my life hell and get me kicked off the course. She told me bad things so often I got to believing them and believing I didnt have what it takes to nurse. The outcome of it was I came away from the placement in a real state, having had no one heed my pleas for help and intervention with this problem and looking very likely to get booted from the course because no one would take my word against hers. I actually went into my personal tutor and said I quit! He then spent the next 2 hours talking me out of it and handing me tissues. I stayed with the course and with the support of my peers and a couple of wonderful tutors I turned that experience around, vowing I wouldnt let the actions of one person ruin my dream. Guess what? im 18 months down the line now and doing great! I just said a tearfull farewell the the staff on my latest clinical placement and came away with a glowing report, having also been told "your a natural, because you care and we wish you well"
    The Moral?? yes, there are bad people out there, even in nursing, but dont let them drag you down. Use the experience to become stronger and rise above such mindless behavior. They obviously dont care and get off on the power trip of hurting you....and always remember the saying WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND. What better justice than for that person to see what a damn fine nurse you get to be? so go all out to prove em wrong. It worked for me.
    I wish all you folk out there who suffer at the hands of these bullies all the best AND STICK AT IT!!
  12. by   mario_ragucci
    It can get you down. I am in a similiar situation. Some instructors try to have fun off you with the alleged intent of illiciting your best by tearing you down first. There is a way to do that, but some instructors abuse their position in this regard. And when you assume they are going to instruct you, you don't want to put them in check right away, which enables their behavior.
    There are instructors who know what hate is and feel empowered by controling your stress.
    I can't help but remember there was some guy in TX or AZ who murdered three or four of his instructors, then himself.
    Perhaps some nursing instructors chose to leave PT care because they hated having to be caring. I notice there are some nurses that are very mean and they tend to be working alone, because I feel they are hesitant of the same people seeing them be so mean. It's embarrassing for me as a health care worker to see unchecked mental illness amongst my own ranks, and it is taboo to even mention this. When a person, nurse, instructor is out of whack and allowed to lead and interact with students, most folks say "don't let it get you down", or "you have to develop a thick skin." I don't go for it. I am a loving and caring person right to my osteocytes and RBC's, and there is no way I can pretend to be a hateful and mean person to "back down" a sneaky and mean personality dsorder.
    My outflowing love is what makes me a wonderful person and beautiful nurse someday (2004). If I can get through this quarters clinical instructor, next quarter i will ask my next clinical instructor to have a pre-clinical meeting with me and discuss her communication ability. I want to let them all know, from now on, that i am a feeling person, and can sense this hatred and meaness right away, and I will warn them up front that I will not go for any bit of it. They can be mean to me, if it will help them with their own problems, if they let me know upfront they are mentally unstable and feel like unloading an a person like me, who will feel everything, because i am totally alive, and can not ever assume a blunted affect look in order to fit in. Just because I have a personality some people feel they have to attack it, because they don't know how to love it. I love you. I love all people because we are all unique and it's that which makes us human. Some people just been raised to hate other people, or maybe were punished for having a unique personality. Though I feel their pain, and want to love them, I require respect. Sorry to go off.
    Dead end nursing instructors need to be helped and not circulated amongst new students. Hungry, hateful nursing instructors should be restrained and put on TPN, and not allowed to eat on nursing students.
  13. by   mona b RN
    I love all people because we are all unique and it's that which makes us human. Some people just been raised to hate other people, or maybe were punished for having a unique personality
    Well said Mario, this is what the world could use alot more of.

    mona b