Everyone Won't Succeed. And That's Okay!

Not everyone succeeds in the realm of higher education. This is not necessarily a bad thing because our society still needs people whose occupations do not require any college education. Some people stumble in the race to success due to a lack of effort, whereas other individuals seem to have the odds perpetually stacked against them. Nursing Students General Students Article

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Everyone is capable of academic success, but some people arrive at the table better prepared than others.

The controversial truth is that not all people will succeed in school, no matter how badly some individuals may want it. And, in my opinion, this is perfectly okay. For instance, if everyone in our society becomes a surgeon, then the prestige and excellent pay that characterize this occupation would drop. It's the same story with nursing: if all 200 million+ adults in the United States had chosen to become nurses, then the status and solid middle-income pay associated with nursing would plummet.

We actually need ditch diggers, convenience store clerks, janitors, sanitation workers and other types of employees whose positions do not require education and training at the collegiate level. These workers are absolutely vital to our economy and I don't know what we'd do without them.

In addition, many young adults are being stirred toward college with a lack of direction when they would thrive better in a focused apprenticeship or trade school environment. Most of us have used the services of plumbers, mechanics, electricians and HVAC technicians. Workers in these fields earn decent money, too.

Moreover, parental stimulation and social class can be major influences in a person's success or failure in the realm of higher education. For example, a 12-year-old boy named Ernie wants to be a doctor someday. Ernie is being brought up in a poor household where his parents live from paycheck to paycheck. His mother is a seamstress who barely graduated from high school, reads at a 6th grade level, and does not know how to do math beyond basic arithmetic. His father is an illiterate short order cook who knows basic arithmetic and dropped out of school in the 9th grade.

Even though Ernie has four younger siblings, there are no books anywhere in their cramped apartment, and his parents are unable to assist with their children's homework assignments because they do not always understand the work their kids bring home. Financial stress exists in the household, and sometimes the electricity is disconnected for weeks at a time due to non-payment.

Ernie's parents have experienced nothing but personal failures with the educational system, and they do not discuss school with any of their kids. The parents are present-oriented, live in survival mode, remain totally focused on the 'here and now,' and do not ever discuss occasions that might dot their children's futures such as career planning and possible college attendance.

Most of us are cognizant that a future doctor must have a remarkably solid background in science and math, combined with exceptional reading comprehension and critical thinking skills. Ernie's parents were not able to inculcate any of these things into him at home. Moreover, even the best teachers in the public school system can do only so much with unprepared students. No matter how passionately Ernie wants to be a doctor, the cumulative effects of his disadvantaged background are helping to obstruct his ambitious dreams. If he fails to become a doctor, too many people would be quick to blame his personal failings when greater forces were working against him since birth.

People need to be oriented toward education well before they reach those formative preschool years. A disadvantaged child enters the school system with a diminished vocabulary, academic skills that are not up to par, and more distractions in the household than their more advantaged classmates. In other words, some individuals start horribly behind in the trek to success.

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The only issue that I have with this article is that it implies that one must be a college grad to be "successful" and that its okay to "settle" for a job that doesn't require skill or a degree because those jobs are needed. It also seems as if the author expects Earnie to fail because of his background.

Maybe it's me, but I think that there will ALWAYS a need for skilled jobs; that doesn't mean "failure" to be; I will need that plumber; I want skilled worker to help keep infrastructure intact and maintained; when I want to enjoy a vacation or a nice night out, I want someone to give me excellent service; a human touch in whatever they are doing...I think that Commuter touched in that pretty well.

There are many populations in this country with the cards stacked against them, and it gets higher when you put in the mix of redlining, preconceived ideologies about the poor, politics, and bureaucracy. That's is a reality that cannot be ignored. :no:

Eveyone has a place in society, whether a "skilled" professional or a "technical" professional; meaning, whether skilled, art, or scientist, one should be able to succeed and thrive-unfortunately, it's just not happening. :no:

In response to the original post.......sounds to me like erin is going to grow up and become a great doctor someday! these are the children who are under priviledged and have a disadvantage from the start, and once this is realized, these are the students who will work twice as hard to acheive their goals. I know i did!

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The only issue that I have with this article is that it implies that one must be a college grad to be "successful" and that its okay to "settle" for a job that doesn't require skill or a degree because those jobs are needed.
Not exactly. A person can thrive and succeed without a college education. Many small business owners and skilled tradesmen are successful without having ever attended college.
It also seems as if the author expects Earnie to fail because of his background.
Your perception of the article is your reality, and that's okay. By the way, I'm the author. I should also mention that I'm an African-American female who comes from a lower working-class background. I succeeded in spite of dysfunction in the household (parental drug abuse, occasional domestic violence issues, etc.).

However, many people would not consider me a success story with my LVN diploma and associate of science in nursing. To some people, anything less than a baccalaureate degree is ineffectual. To others, anything less than a graduate degree is ineffectual.

Yes, you are correct :) Yes, cell phones and other material goods should be included.

Many high skill blue collar positions earn more in income than a number of college degree holders.

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So how exactly does one become a plumber? I'm from Boston, where the trades are a closed shop. If you want to earn decent money or work on any government projects, you need to join the union, which requires family connections. Otherwise, you're competing with illegal immigrants, who will work under the table very cheap.

Learning a blue collar trade is not the panacea people think it is.

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Very nice. If only politicians and educational leaders cam get a read at this. Maybe they'd stop shoving college down everyone's throats.

Just a note: Just because you fail at something doesn't mean you can't try again. Success comes with many failures. Nothing brings you closer to success than failure does. Failure teaches you what doesn't work. So just adjust and change accordingly.

As a college grad, you are correct. :)

Yes, the world needs tradesman. But let me tell you my ex who is a HVAC guy with his own business has a 2-year degree in it and makes much more money than probably 85% of the people in this country. He sacrificed everything for his business. We had a paid for home, a paid for summer home, 3 paid for cars, and lots of money in the bank. I didn't work and I could spend whatever I wanted, when I wanted. Did money make us happy? The answer is no. Behind the perfect life, lay a life of disarray. Now, he's lost his family, and losing half of his fortune. Now, I will have to worry about money for the first time in a long time, and you know what? I've never been happier. Success is measured differently by different people. My ex valued money, I value security and happiness.

You say your ex lost his family and half his fortune. How come?

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However, many people would not consider me a success story with my LVN diploma and associate of science in nursing. To some people, anything less than a baccalaureate degree is ineffectual. To others, anything less than a graduate degree is ineffectual.

This is the mentality that irks me so much lately, the college = success mentality. Yes, commuter, you are a success. And yes, I agree, that the world is full of very necessary jobs that do not require a college degree. With the cost, competition and rigor of a college education these days, it is just not a feasible option for everyone. I am frustrated with the current wave of the "I can be anything I want to be" attitude. No, you cannot be anything you want, sorry. There I said it. Wanting it is not enough. Good grades are not enough. A bachelors degree is not even good enough. While an education is never wasted, in my opinion, it is not the end-all be-all measure of success.

Signed, the PhD student who will never make as much money as some people I know with no college degree.

Yes, you are correct, the mantra of college equals success is alot of B.S. . Yes, I have been to grad school.