Quote from jov
well, I guess by now you are putting two and two together and figuring out that leadership **often** isn't really fun, now is it? I would agree that a leader naturally evolves out of a group... ...
Well, that's certainly a thoughtful response to my post. Thanks
I really should give you more details about the situation, though. Let's start with a review of what happened. I entered this group to make a positive contribution, and did so professionally and politely. Then, I offered my unique, thoughtful, problem-solving/analytical approach to the job and communicated it effectively; I was able to offer a rational, logical solution to a problem and deliver it in such a way as to help the group and give it direction. While this is going on, however, there are two group members -- with a history of talking over others, putting down other's points of view, and stonewalling people who get in their way -- that insist on being unprofessional, who then go on to make negative insinuations, give dirty looks, and bring down the group morale...
Now, I'll give you a summary of my part in the group's process, and show how I exemplified successful teambuilding and leadership.
First, I broke the ice with friendliness and a positive attitude, and invited active participation. I established our goals and set priorites, taking into account personal issues by telling people what I think, responding to others, and involving everyone. Then, I determined our roles and responsibilities, organizing my ideas and collaborating with others to decide who would be doing what. I used strategies to accomplish this, and did so by listening to others, tolerating differences, being open and flexible, and managing my emotions by expressing myself assertively and respectfully, while still managing to be sensitive to others. Then, I followed up and followed through, offering support to the other group members and taking on individual responsibility.
Now, back to my original question: how do you maintain a leadership role in the face of obstinacy and bad attitudes? What paths can someone take to ensure that they maintain professionalism and a positive attitude when their ideas are met with disrespect and unconstructive criticism? Being aware of group dynamics -- as a means for becoming leaders in nursing -- and engaging in productive exercises is something I'm sure everyone on this board can benefit from, which is my goal for this topic.