A Mother AND a student???? - page 3
I will be a first year Nursing student Starting Sept. 3. So how come I have this big lump in my throat and tears welling in my eyes? I have a 3 year old and a 17 month old. They've never been in a... Read More
Aug 19, '02Occupation: ADON-LTC Specialty: 19 year(s) of experience in LTC, ER, ICU, ; Joined: Feb '01; Posts: 5,856; Likes: 36welcome, sarah and all the best to you.
Aug 20, '02Occupation: surgical technologist Joined: Apr '02; Posts: 47I had separation anxiety too. I took my 15-month-old son to daycare for the first time today. I have been home with him since the day he was born and honestly, I had a big empty hole in my heart the whole time I was away from him ... I missed him so much and was only away from him for 4 hours. I'm sure I'll get used to this daycare thing though! He did absolutely fine and had a very fun-filled day playing with the other children his age. I think I was really lucky to find a good daycare and as well, I know a lot of people who take their children to the same place.
Aug 20, '02Joined: Aug '02; Posts: 42I think many of us have been in your shoes. I was a stay-at-home mom until we moved back to the States from overseas when my son was around 20 months old. I decided then that I didn't want to put off nursing school any longer so I'd better apply to school and get a job to make some money in the meantime.
I think I cried every day for the first two weeks when I dropped my son off at daycare but oddly enough, I was the only one shedding tears. He was running off into school to play with his friends, smiling, laughing and having a grand 'ol time. Kids are so darn adaptable!
Now, one year later, I have no regrets. I've got a great job making decent money with lots of flexibility and I start the nursing program in one week. As for my son, he is happy as a lark going to school. He starts the pre-K program in two weeks.
Everything works out in the end but it is so normal to be ambivalent and scared when you are undergoing a big life change. Isn't it nice to know you are not alone?
Aug 21, '02Occupation: Full time MOM and Student Joined: Feb '02; Posts: 141HI there! My daugther is 3 1/2. Today is her 1st day of Pre-school. She is ready. I think I am too. We'll see today when I drop her off how we do. I know I cried when my son started Kindergarden. He didn't go to pre-school. I know I'm looking forward to have some time by myself.(I'm going to buy my books today and eat lunch w/ a friend.
Have a great day you guys.
Aug 21, '02Occupation: Nurse Joined: Oct '01; Posts: 12,715; Likes: 2Originally posted by AnaH
HI there! My daugther is 3 1/2. Today is her 1st day of Pre-school. She is ready. I think I am too. We'll see today when I drop her off how we do. I know I cried when my son started Kindergarden. He didn't go to pre-school. I know I'm looking forward to have some time by myself.(I'm going to buy my books today and eat lunch w/ a friend.
Have a great day you guys.
Sep 1, '02Joined: Aug '02; Posts: 11Try not to feel guilty about leaving your kids. ( i Have to remind myself this same thing all of the time)
You are making yourself stronger ,which in the end will help you kids be strong too. I too am a mom (except I ama single mom)w/a full time day job and I am an evening weekend Nursing student as well. When school is in session I have very little time for my six year old daughter. Yes the first few months was an adjustment but now she is very proud of me and tells anyone she can that i am going to be a Nurse. I think it is good for them to see us studying. They will learn from this. My daughter grew up in daycare as i had to work and had no choice. As a result, she is very outgoing and confident. She can handle herself well with other people. I also moved back home with my mother when I went back to school(I don't need a babysitter for my eve/weekend classes because she is there to help. Let other people help you if you can. I was never good at asking for help ,but let me tell you, There is nothing like a good support network of friends or family. I am still very close to a few of the moms from the daycare days and we know that we can always count on each other.
don't feel guilty. You are doing this for your kids future as well as your own. You have every right to be happy and make your self stronger.
Sep 2, '02Occupation: ICU Specialty: ICU ; Joined: Jun '02; Posts: 91; Likes: 72I also was very committed to being a SAHM. I even worked nights part time in order to make sure there was always a parent home for my sons. My oldest is 5 , my youngest is 3 and this year I was burnt out. If I made chocolate milk one more time I was gonna scream. (Stupid, I know). I was burnt out because I wasn't pursuing anything for me. I felt like my brain was turning into mush. The kids were getting on my nerves.So this summer when I got into a daytime cna class I decided that they could go to preschool. They love it. They did a ton of fun things that mommy never let them do (NO YOU CANNOT PLAY WITH PLAYDOH, DO YOU KNOW HOW MESSY THAT IS??? lol) I felt bad about it. I couldn't drop them off the first week, I felt so quilty. As this summer has passed and I got through the cna class, and taking my prerequisite classes, I feel so much better. I get along with the kids well. So well my oldest says he wants to be a nurse when he grows up. I love my kids and I am glad I stayed home with them when I did. But I am so glad that I did something for myself. They are happy and I am happy and that makes for a happy home life.
Sep 2, '02Joined: Aug '02; Posts: 11Hi Kiwi!
It is hard sometimes to know what to do. Just remember that you are going to school to make life better for you and your kids. It is great that your dad supports you. Don't let anyone put you down for not being with your kids 100%
Sep 3, '02Occupation: Work 4-5 days as a Practice Nurse to a GP and 1 night in a birthing unit in a small rural hospital. Specialty: Practice Nursing, Postnatal Nursing ; From: NZ ; Joined: Aug '01; Posts: 51; Likes: 1Thanks cawsn, things seem to be cruising along nicely now. I go away for 4 days a week for 5 weeks starting on Monday, my Dad (who is 74) is going to stay with the three children. I feel guilty cos when I go away, I stay in the nurses home (its a 2 1/2 hr drive to this hospital) and I love the peace and quiet, and no dishes/kids fighting/meals to cook/cleaning etc - I can just go back to my room after the clinical practical and study. I'm doing the surgical block, 4 shifts a week.
Sep 3, '02Joined: Aug '02; Posts: 11It is very helpful to hear everones stories.
One of the things that my first Nursing instructor said on our first day of class last year (and prob one of the most important was" Be kind to each other and help each other out because NO ONE else will really understand what you are going through except each other n NO ONe not even your close family"
It is very supportive to have this web site and I am really glad that I found It.
THANK YOU to all of you! Have a great Day!
Sep 3, '02Joined: Jul '02; Posts: 223; Likes: 9Sarah,
I am a mother of two & I don't feel guilty at all for going to school. I know in the long run my education will benefit my whole family and mainly my kids. Don't feel like you are being a "bad mom." Sad for seeing them go to daycare for the first time is understandable, but don't feel guily for giving yourself an education.
Sep 6, '02Occupation: student Joined: Sep '02; Posts: 64; Likes: 7Sarah....
I know where you are coming from. I have a 16 month old and have just started school again myself. I wish I could be home with him but...another story huh!
I'll be honest with you though...Your kids will be fine. Little ones adjust really well...if I had my choice I'd rather be home for my children during junior high/high school age when they are REALLY vulnerable and REALLY need a parent at home after school...*grins* my humble opinion....
Sep 6, '02Occupation: ADON-LTC Specialty: 19 year(s) of experience in LTC, ER, ICU, ; Joined: Feb '01; Posts: 5,856; Likes: 36welcome to all the new comers!