Where would you go for two family suicide attempts?

  1. One is a brother, who is hanging on a thread in the middle of nowhere with no other family around.

    The other is a son who is fine and is with someone not family?
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  3. by   gitterbug
    Don't understand the question.
  4. by   TazziRN
    Me neither. Are you asking where to go for help? Or where to send them? If you're looking for help for them, call the suicide hotline in there areas if you have addresses for the relatives. They will call the cops to do welfare checks and possibly commitals.
  5. by   NRSKarenRN
    Last edit by NRSKarenRN on Dec 24, '06
  6. by   redwinggirlie
    Sorry, it's been a long week. My question deals with the fact that two members of my family have attempted suicide. I don't live near either of them. My son is fine, but is being distant. My brother is still in ICU and is lucky to be alive.
    So, where should I be? I'm near my brother now and he is alone. My son has his dad where he lives and is staying with a friend.
    Me? I just can't be everywhere....
  7. by   GardenDove
    You don't give many details, such as how old is your son? I wouldn't consider your son 'fine' if he attempted his own life. I think your first priority should be to go to your son and let other family members be by your brothers bedside, if that is your question.
  8. by   redwinggirlie
    My son is 26. I learned about his attempt moments before boarding the plane to come to support my brother. I didn't mean fine like woo hoo! I meant he is alive and not in the hospital. Both need support. I'm just feeling crappy that I'm not near my son, instead.
    Right now, I'm with my brother, 34. My son's father lives near him. I'm trying to contact him, but haven't been successful yet. My son is staying with his boss. One of my other brothers was here and left when I arrived, our other brother is coming later this week. My son's ordeal came in the middle of this and I'm just plain torn.
    I thank you all for reading and responding. Again, it's been a long week.
  9. by   sirI
    Hello, redwinggirl. I am so very sorry this is happening to your son and your brother. And, I totally understand how your feel........when you talk about your brother. I, too, have experienced this with my own brother.

    But, since you've asked for opinions on where we (I) would be, hands down, I'd be with my child. I cannot imagine how that would feel to be far away from my child at a time like this.

    Bless you and may this ordeal be resolved and they both be well. Major ((((HUGS)))) to you. I shall keep you, your son, and your brother in my prayers.
  10. by   leslie :-D
    redwinggirlie, i'm sorry you're dealing with such traumatic issues.
    without a doubt, i'd be with my child and try and get him the help he needs.
    you can always write your brother a love letter, so to speak.
    i wish you all strength, peace and faith.

  11. by   Katnip
    I suggest going to be with your son, hands down.

    He's staying with his boss, and you said you haven't gotten in touch with his father yet.

    You're in a difficult situation right now, but I'd still follow up with your son. Your brother is in the hospital with 24/7 staff watching him. Your son is out on his own.

    Just don't forget to look after yourself too.
  12. by   redwinggirlie
    My family thinks otherwise. They say I should stay put. I wish I'd not posted this question as I knew I would receive these answers and all would say to be with my son. There's no easy answer. No easy solution. I know where I should be.... I'm just not there.
  13. by   GardenDove
    You are correct, the internet is a poor place to get advise on complex family situations. There's no way that we can get enough info on everything here to give you good counsel. Good luck, I have 4 sons myself who are all in their 20's. God Bless.
  14. by   JBudd
    Honey, you've answered your own question, "I know where I should be". Ultimately, you are the one you have to satisfy, it isn't anyone else's decision. Follow your heart. God Bless and keep you.