When someone 'superior' says "DUH!" to you - page 2
We have one MD who practices intellectual snobbery, and he has a small cult of RNs who try to parrot him and stroke his already huge ego. These nurses also act holier-than-thou and speak as though... Read More
Jul 9, '02Occupation: Utilization Review, prior Intake Mgr Home Care Specialty: 40 year(s) of experience in Home Care, Vents, Telemetry, Home infusion ; From: PA, US ; Joined: Oct '00; Posts: 27,548; Likes: 13,755KEVIN....great responses as always.
Willing to work with you anyday. Have to remember these responses. :roll
Jul 9, '02Occupation: LPN/staff nurse - LTC facility Specialty: Geriatrics ; From: US ; Joined: Feb '00; Posts: 2,602; Likes: 21How about telling them that you know they have said it for years, but you didn't believe them because they use words such as "duh".
Jul 9, '02Joined: Jan '02; Posts: 5,673; Likes: 159Good responses all...thought of another as I read the original thoughts of the thread starter:
When they say , "I've told you this before... DUHHHH...." say ' I have a hard time taking adoloscent-speak seriously...so why don't we ALL talk like adults now and get on the same page?"
Jerks...don't let 'em get to ya. If you have others who feel as you do, you might start referring to this jerky group as the 'DUHHHH Club'...maybe it will get their goat.
Jul 9, '02Occupation: RN Joined: Feb '01; Posts: 1,840; Likes: 218Originally posted by andrewsgranny
I think I would say in my sutle b_ _ chy way.....
"oh it sounds like somone has been eating razor soup today"
It'll take them a few hours to realize that you were being a bi_ch.
Then they will have to figure out that "razor soup" means someone has a very sharp tongue. Try it, it works.
I thought this was a great one andrewsgranny!
Jul 10, '02Joined: Nov '01; Posts: 765; Likes: 14Throw it back in their snobby little faces I say.
Jul 10, '02Occupation: RN Joined: Dec '00; Posts: 826; Likes: 16What does your manager say about the insulting, unprofessional behavior of your health care team? I would never put up with such disrespectful behavior. Next time you are "duh'd" -- address it immediately. You do not have to put up with this -- I'd make it short & to the point. I wouldn't even waste my time with an insulting comeback -- but I would tell each and every individual never to to speak to me in such an insulting way again. Each and every time. If this does not resolve in a very short time, you need to bring it to a higher level. Not exactly a positive work environment. Very unprofessional. I imagine the insulting, superior attitude these co-workers display are also projected on your patients (although perhaps not with an acutal "duh") I imagine patients being talked "down to" also. You don't have to take this -- it is HARASSMENT AND IT IS ILLEGAL.
Best of luck to you. Hang in there. Don't be afraid -- the law is on your side. SueLast edit by susanmary on Jul 10, '02
Jul 10, '02Joined: Sep '01; Posts: 16,606; Likes: 680Originally posted by kmchugh
Sorry, but sometimes folks like these need a little return of their own medicine before they realize the "jokes" aren't appreciated. A few of my favorites:
"I see SOMEONE had an extra bowl of bi*** flakes this morning."
"I've heard many put own a super ego act to make up for a 'shortage' elsewhere. Guess I know more about your anatomy than I ever wanted to know." (Particularly effective with males.)
"Hmmmm. 3 million sperm in each ejaculation, and you are the best your daddy could come up with?"
Jul 10, '02Joined: May '02; Posts: 979; Likes: 11I have told physicians like this that I am as much of a professional as they are, and I deserve to be treated as such. If that doesn't work, ask if he had to practice to become this annoying, or is it a natural talent.
Jul 10, '02Occupation: Worrywort Joined: Jul '01; Posts: 1,349; Likes: 16I would have simply said back "that's not a very professional way to address me"
It's true, and at the core of this problem.
What could they possibly say?
"If you can't handle criticism,you don't belong".........?
Then you would say..................."How do your comments constitute criticism,which should be constructive in a professional enviroment?"
They have no answer:imbar
If you would then like to rub the puppies face in it,if you were so inclined you could say.........
"Silence becomes you"
"Silence is the province of the ignorant"
Then enjoy the "province of the ignorant" for quite some time to come
Jul 10, '02Joined: Oct '00; Posts: 10,236; Likes: 64Originally posted by Peeps Mcarthur
"Silence becomes you"
*puts that it her memory bank*
Jul 10, '02Joined: Jan '02; Posts: 5,673; Likes: 159"Silence becomes you".
SUPERB, succinct comeback to anyone who runs their mouth for any reason!!!
Jul 10, '02Occupation: med-surg Joined: Sep '01; Posts: 603; Likes: 96Although snappy comebacks have a satisfying air to them, in these situations I feel SOMEONE has to behave like a grownup!!
Call these bad boys and girls on their behavior every time, just like you do your own kids.
"That was rude."
"That was unprofessional"
"That was insulting"
"Do not use that tone,...language, with me in a professional setting",
then take charge, ...redirect the question or report.
I think a professional, mature tone wins everytime, even if the jerks are louder. I will not play the "rude" game with them ....no more, no how!!
besides,............I can never think of the good comebacks till later!!!!
Jul 11, '02Occupation: RN Joined: Aug '01; Posts: 60; Likes: 12Gracing the offending party with a blank look then carrying on the conversation with the rest of the group will quickly take the wind out of their sails. No reaction is often the best one and I'm sure will be well supported by your peers who are also tired of this behaviour!
I do love all the comebacks, though, but I tend to get tongue tied so whatever I said would probably come out backward!