What rules have you broken to help a patient? - page 3

We have a rule where I work about no pets being allowed. Last summer I had a young female patient, vented and going to die while waiting for a lung transplant and she was completely with it. I took... Read More

  1. by   traumaRUs
    You guys are absolutely the best!!!! What inspiration. I want all of you working with me at AllNurses Hospital!! There wouldn't be a nursing shortage at that hospital!!!
  2. by   BadBird
    One time when I was working Er a neighbor kid carried his cat in and asked for help, fortunately the coolest ER doc was on and we snuck the cat in to the treatment room for stitches, the kid brought the cat back a few days later for stitch removal and all went well.
  3. by   Maureen007
    In my day-a big no, no was to sit ona bed-godforbid a family member. Many a time I saw families hugging their loved one and closed the curtains so they would have privacy-let parents sleep beside their kids-not allowed then.pizza from outside a no/no and in school tackled the problem of repeater headlice infestation with Principals OK but not parent, cut them off and shampooed his head. Oh-I'm sure there's a lot more but the memory is going-old nurse.
  4. by   lakesidenana1
    Enjoyed reading through the posted messages. It does my heart good to know there are so many "rule breakers" out there. Seems to me that rule breaker should be synonomous with caring, dedicated nurse.
    I have also broken many rules, sneaked a dog in in a basket to visit with his dying master. The wife was afraid, because he was such a yipper, but it was night shift & we gave it a try. The wife said she had a heart to heart talk w/the dog about being quiet & even the dog(miniature poodle went crazy jumping all over the pt he never made a sound. Many diet rules, visiting, sleeping in emtpy bed, etc.
    But, the one I think I am most proud of (because I had only been a nurse for a few years & was still intimidated by rules & regs) was when I worked in the nursery in 1970. The rule then was that only the mother could enter the sanctum of the nursery to feed a preemie. Their was a 16yr old married couple who had preemie twin girls. The father was very attentive to both his wife & to visiting the girls through the glass. I watched the daddy try to ooze through the wire meshed glass as he watched his wife feed one of the twins. Each time she came she fed the alternate baby. Thank goodness I worked evening shift. One night after visiting hours I went out & asked the daddy if he would like to feed the other baby!!!! He grinned like the Cheshire cat & hugged me. I had learned that even though they were only 16 that they had their own home & would be the main ones responsible for caring for those babies. He cheerfully did the scrubbing & put on his gown & head cover. I set up the screen we used to provide privacy for procedures etc. . Somehow the supervisors found out & called me on the carpet. I told them we were failing in our duty to the babies if we allowed them to go home with an untrained parent & what could they point out to me that was out of line. Of course there was nothing except some buearacrats rule. :chuckle They magnanimously allowed the daddy to continue with the feedings until the girls went home.
  5. by   SaturnGirl
    I am so in tears here, after reading your stories. Now I KNOW I've made the right decision when I enrolled in college last month for nursing. Thanks for making my day.
  6. by   lakesidenana1
    Hi SaturnGirl,
    Congratulations on choosing nursing. I have been nursing for 33yrs. I have seen good & not so good nurses & trends in healthcare. I have tried to provide the type of care that I would want one of my family members to receive. Not always easy with time & money constraints that now plague many areas of healthcare. But this is the area that I have controll over & with come many memorable moment.
    Keep the faith & don't let anyone tell you this is not the greatest calling in the world. There are things about the "job" that have developed over the years that I don't like, but the real work of nursing is wonderful.
  7. by   zudy
    Well said, Lakesidenana1 !!!! She is right Saturngirl, it's atough job but I can't imagine doing anything else. It will break your heart some days, but some days you come home with another great stories!:roll :roll Hang in there!!!
  8. by   boggle
    i thank the role models i had on my first job that showed me how important it was to individualize patient care!!

    this was many years ago, when patients stays were so much longer. these great nurses would bring in food, help families to sneak in kids and pets through the back entrance, even conspired and arranged a "conjugal vist" for one of our long stay ortho patients.

    their inspiration lives on!!
  9. by   micro
    have I broken any...........for the patient's rights and sake.........
    well, maybe a few'................

    but I will only break a rule if it benefits the patient and in with total regard with the patient condition and physician understanding and most times getting an order from physician anyway.............I will look out for the patient because they come first........and come on, use your common sense people...........

    please don't quote rules and orders to someone whose prognosis is less than.....?????

    sometimes you have to be knowledgeably human and brave enough to be...........and to most surprise.......a majority of doc's are also this way...............

    but I am but micro............

    and if asked to testify..........I take the fifth
  10. by   SaturnGirl
    Dottie, Thank you for the good wishes. I already know how hard it's going to be, but I feel like I've wanted this all my life already. I just had to take the right road to get here, and I finally have. My friend, Julie, and I were discussing how we know--at 29 and 36 years of age--that THIS is what we need to be doing. I told her to look back at her life and see the common thread to so many of her memories and life-paths (both attempted and completed). She and I are so alike: there's a pattern of medical running through our pasts like a river. I finally realized that that pattern is a message, like opportunity knocking on one's door. I FINALLY decided to answer it, and I feel relatively calm. For now. hahahah

    Take care!

  11. by   sandstormsdust
    Not to long ago when I was in hospital... the nurse permitted my sister to come in with her two children...

    I was so lonely and tired of being tired it really cheered me up... my sis brought me some candy (a BIG nono) and lip balm.... i told her (in a daze) "no candy" the nurse comes in and say's - "yeah right... take and enjoy....." that I did indeed.... along with the two nephews.... they where the best candies I ever had....
  12. by   deespoohbear
    The rules I have bent usually deal with dietary or children visiting. My philosophy is if a patient is 95 years old and has heart disease what are we going to solve by not letting them enjoy their favorite foods. My grandmother is 83 and battling CHF. My aunts are almost fanatical about her diet sometimes. While I don't think Grandma should be chowing down Big Macs three times a day, what difference is 2 sausage links dly once in a while going to make?

    I remember when my other Grandma was very sick in the hospital in 1983 with liver cancer. We knew her time was short. My sister, brother, and I hadn't seen Grandma for over 10 days (we lived next door) since she went in the hospital. My Mom talked to her nurse and asked if we could come see her. Getting me in wasn't a big deal because I was 14, but sister was only 10 and my brother 5. This darling nurse agreed to let my siblings come and see Grandma. It was the last time any of us saw her alive. I am thankful to that nurse for giving us the opportunity to spend some time with Grandma.

    Rules are made to be broken sometimes.
  13. by   Grace Oz
    A few years ago, I nursed a darling old man who was dying. He & his lady love had been planning to marry, much against the wishes of his greedy, money grabbing children.These selfish children
    ( adult)even tried to get the doc to declare the patient incompetent!?!...These two dear old souls had been in a relationship for many years & it was their wish to be married. Sadly though, his health took a turn for the worse & he was going downhill very fast. Since the 'children' were being such ass*****, I came up with the idea of a ceremony involving a blessing on their relationship. While it wouldn't be the same as a legal marriage, it would mean so much to the couple. They were thrilled to bits about this idea & so, without the knowledge of the greedy brats, we set about arranging a "wedding". I organised a minister to perform the blessing & a couple of my colleagues & I bought flowers & other nice bits 'n 'pieces & decorated the patients room. We arranged the ceremony for later in the evening when I knew the brats would not be anywhere in sight ( ie; after visiting hours)The lady had her children present & a couple of close friends. The ceremony/ blessing went off beautifully & the patient & his lady were SO happy. We even managed to have a small supper to celebrate afterwards. He died the next day.
    Those brats might have ended up with his money, but his lady love had his heart. I have a great memory!...