What do you think about people calling you "honey"? - page 8

I am in my forties, but a lot of people (such as waitresses, sales clerks, cashiers) call me "honey" and "sweetheart" all the time. I think this is fine, when the person is older than me, but I get... Read More

  1. by   Jo Dirt
    When a little old lady in the nursing home calls me honey it's just fine, but when some 17 year old behind the register at Mcdonald's calls me honey I'm like, back up, kid!

    Yea, I've got a real problem with teenagers calling me cutesy names.

    It isn't as insulting as what happened to my sister's mother-in-law, though. She has been single for some years and is in her early 70's. She's still active and gets around good, still dates and considers herself attractive... every year they take a big family trip with my sis & her husband and all, and one year they went to Cancun. Well, one evening they were at some club thing, and there were these young guys out dancing and my sis's MIL was out there and dancing and they started flirting with her and she was flirting back and eating up the attention until one of them said, well, I'd better go, thanks for the dance, Grandma!
    Grandma! Boy, that took all the romance out of that evening!
  2. by   labvampire
    i have that habit of honey and sweetie and in nursing school we were taught not to do that. i work in the er and when someone comes in who is in pain, sick, or injured, it's natural for a woman's maternal instincts to kick in and want to nurture these patients as if they are your own kids.
    i think the "mom" thing kicks in on auto and sometimes you don't even realize you are doing it!
    i'm 40 and hate to be called ma'am. i work with another nurse who is the same age as me and she calls me honey. it's not so much the label, it's that you have a close relationship with those you work with and they think of you on a more personal basis, or at least that's my case.
  3. by   AR_RN
    I'm in Arkansas and like everyone else has said, honey, hon, darlin' and even sweetie are everyday occurances here. I've got one I run across fairly often though that I've not seen mentioned. Since I've moved back here I've been called "sis" more often than I have in my whole life. My brother and parents call me that, but these were people that couldn't possibly know that. It's kind of a cultural thing around here too. I agree that it's familiar, but it's typically intended as warm and friendly and I'd much rather than that people be all stiff and distant around me. Of course you can be friendly by using my name, but around here, that's often just not the way it is. I don't mind it and it kind of feels like home now.
  4. by   Peppermintmocha
    Quote from lilcajunnurse
    I'm from the South and we call people "honey" all the time. So, I have no problems with being called "honey" by anyone.
    I totally agree. I'm from Tennessee. It is a southern thing. I don't get offended at all! I guess if you aren't from the south it would seem a little weird but here it is perfectly normal. Many of my patients call me honey, men and women.
  5. by   GLORIAmunchkin72
    I think it's, well, "sweet"...Honestly, I don't care as long they're just saying it out of habit and not meaning a whole lot by it.
  6. by   fuzzie
    you're kidding, right. maybe people should just call you . Now that might be something to complain about...or at least to wonder about!!
    Last edit by Silverdragon102 on Nov 7, '07 : Reason: please post nicely as per TOS and not use inopropriate disguse of language
  7. by   mcknis

    Thats kind of disrespectful, don't you think.
  8. by   rdnkjdi
    Quote from labcat01
    I don't care who it is or how old they are....I hate it! I think it's condescending. When the floor nurses call me "honey" (because I'm a nursing student) what it means is "I don't care enough to remember your name"- I'd rather be called "Hey you"

    Geez, don't you think you're over-reacting? I work with old ladies, (county government), and get called honey all the time. Remembering your name doesn't mean they care, it means they're good at remembering names.

    As to honey, it used to annoy me but doesn't really bother me any more as long as it's old ladies.
  9. by   FireStarterRN
    Maybe people who are from the South and use honey alot should have some cultural awareness that this is perceived as being condecending by those not familiar with this cultural tendency?

    I'm not from the South and where I live it is rare to be called 'honey' by one's age peer or less. I find it grating, and when it's someone younger I think it's disrespectful. Where I live, honey and sweetie are reserved for those near and dear to us. Just an FYI to Southerners not familiar with other regional points of view. Try to be sensitive to other cultures and aware of how they perceive the world.
  10. by   aimeeb1963
    Quote from elizabells
    If another RN calls me honey, I don't mind. They call all of us young girls "Katie" half the time, as there are so many on my unit. But if a doc called me "honey", I'd flip my lid. I occasionally get people cranky because I call everyone "ma'am" and "sir", but to me that's just respectful.

    I agree with the ma'm and sir, I wish they'd do the same! I think Honey is demeaning and in such an intimate setting as medicine, introduce yourself and let them know who you are and what you do! You deserve respect, too.
  11. by   NurseNancyNP
    I have to admit, I am from the South, born and raised, but I find it trully offensive when another person, who is not a close relative or friend, refers to me as "hon", "honey", "sweatheart", "sweetie" or any other form of endearment. I feel like it is an attempt to demean me as an adult woman. Many of the folks I work with and are friends with feel the same. This is doubly true when it comes from a subordinate or someone who is in a service position, ie server, waitstaff, bell person, etc...
  12. by   rachkar
    OK. I am a peds psych nurse. No one is ever excited to be coming in, but I treat my patients with the most compassion possible at that difficult time. Sometimes it's sweetie or honey.. It serves for reassurance and I have never had anyone object to me calling them a term of endearment (Though I did have a teenager break my balls about how much I do it.. I have 19 kids running around.. If someone is going past the nurse's station and I say, come here hon.. I need to grab them before they scamper off to the activity room..) I don't know, I'm 25.. I don't mind when people call me terms of endearment.. and I'm from Jersey (so it's not just everyone in the south or older nurses). Like someone said before, I would rather be called a term of endearment rather than some of the other names I have been called at work! Also, I would like to comment that I don't call people older than me these terms, and always address the parent by Ms., Mrs. or Mr.
  13. by   Peppermintmocha
    Quote from meownsmile
    I also was taught you dont call patients or others those "endearing" terms.
    They arent endearing they are patronizing. Unless you are my husband, mother or father it is NOT appropriate for people to call a patient or other person those names. If you look up patronize in the dictionary you will see if you arent trading with the person it means "to behave in a offensively condescending manner toward".
    Please use your patients name when speaking with them. Unless they give you permission to call them "honey" or "dear".
    I have to respectfully disagree. I don't think it is at all patronizing. It is a cultural/regional thing. I am never offended by being called honey. Nor do I feel patronized. It's a southern thing. Of course I live in the south and it is very commonplace around here. Nobody called me honey when I lived in Southern California, but they did make fun of my accent all the time.