Originally posted by DARN MOM 128
Idon't know how much of this is me feeling overwhelmed as a new nurse, her being a bully or maybe I have poor interpersonal skills. I feel she is trying to prove something and I really want to work this out!
Hi DARN MOM 128! I quoted only this last part of your post because it's what I wanted to focus on most, since it's the crux of your dilemna, in my opinion.
First I'll say that you have a lot on your plate with the 8-11 pts. on your own and being a new nurse on Med/Surg. You are trying your best to keep your head above water, and succeeding from what I can tell from your writing. It sounds like you *DO* have your priorities straight, whether your aide thinks so or not.
I have found one of the hardest aspects of nursing to be the interpersonal relations, stemming from my own background of problems dealing with conflict and expressing assertiveness. I have run into a few aides (~AND~ unit clerks ~AND~ RN's ~AND~ IV nurses, ~AND~ LPN's, etc. etc.
)in the past who had a need for power and abused others to get the power. In fact, there's a long-time aide on our Med/Surg floor who has had many run-ins with nurses because she thought she knew best and more than the nurses (and frankly, sometimes she DID!). An 11-7 RN told me of a conflict between him and this aide, and he finally told her, "When you go to nursing school and get your RN, then you can tell me what I should do!", and she backed off. You don't have to be mean about it, but you will probably have to take her aside before a shift begins and have a little talk with her about her attitude and what you need/expect. It's not easy, but it's easier than dealing with the stress and build-up of anger that comes from not dealing with it night after night. Believe me; I've been there. :stone Hopefully, they eventually will respect you for speaking up and you will have a good working relationship where the patients will benefit and you both will be able to focus on your work.