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So, I work in a facility where it's not uncommon to have patients who are confused and aggressive - out of psych issues or other diagnoses where aggression is an expected stage of their disease process. Sometimes, they're cranky or aggressive because they're seekers and you're not getting them their much needed "pain" med.
However, this latest patient is a whole new ballgame for many of us on the unit. Quadriplegic - so completely dependent for all activities of daily care. BUT, he is verbally abusive ... you F'n nurse, hurry your F'n ass in here when I call, F you! (racial slur here and there), and he goes on for 45 minutes that he eats up of your time "fixing" his position because he dictates every minute detail. I'm at a loss as to how to deal with this .. if it's coming from a confused patient, that's one thing but this is draining when it is coming from someone who is completely oriented and knows exactly what he is doing! 45 minutes each time repositioning is required is also a problem because it takes me away from my other patients who can go downhill very quickly but I wouldn't know it.
The charges, nurse manager, supervisors, head nursing office, all know about this patient because he calls them incessantly when things don't go his way. BUT he is allowed to continue this behavior. I'm dreading the next time I go in and find that I'm assigned to him!
He's a quad. He can't knock anything around.
missmollie I really admire you for taking care of these difficult patients and you have certainly given us food for thought. I have a question though, would bringing in personal electronics for a patient's use cross some sort of boundary? In acute care I think it would but how about long term care?
I wonder if it would help if you got a Psych Clinical Nurse Specialist to come work with this gentleman on a daily basis for a while. They are experts at letting clients vent and progress to working with the emotional issues and trauma, yet insisting on firm behavioral boundaries with clients toward them and toward other staff who work with clients. This might work or it might not, but it's another avenue to explore.
missmollie I really admire you for taking care of these difficult patients and you have certainly given us food for thought. I have a question though, would bringing in personal electronics for a patient's use cross some sort of boundary? In acute care I think it would but how about long term care?
I don't think so. I often use my cell phone to play music for patients during baths, I've watched depressed patient's perk up when being able to watch movies of their choosing using my ipad. I work in progressive care which means the majority of our brain and spinal patients are there for a while. You're either doing great and in acute care, or poorly and in ICU. If the patient is on progressive care, they have a long road ahead of them. Little things like this add value to their stay, even if the hospital doesn't provide it. I also accept full responsibility that the electronic may get broken or stolen, and I am okay with that.
I believe it's a personal decision, but this is also how I was raised. I never considered if it was crossing boundaries, and I will have to think about this before deciding if I will change what I do. Often family will not be present, and these patients are so alone.
I would love to see the hospital provide the ability to check out electronics that can be voice controlled, but with budget restraints I don't see that happening. You've given me something to consider.
You should start with a formal complaint to your manager cc HR re the racial slurs. This is a form of discrimination which is a federal offense. Your employee is legally required to protect you.
This patient is out of control and it is the place of management to have a meeting with him to set reasonable boundaries. Once your formal written compliant for racial discrimination is on the table I have a feel management will be very interested in dealing with his behavior.
What about a psych consult? Maybe push for psych NP or CNS to see him. Is his paralysis new onset or long standing? Does he have a family? They should be involved too if possible.
Before the days of "customer service," our manager went in to rooms of offensive patients and laid down the law about appropriate behavior. Most who received a visit, straightened out. We had one nurse file a police report about a vulgar speaking groper in his 40's. These days the manager and administration would probably discipline the nurse. Our manager's response was basically, "He wouldn't go to the mall and talk to people like that. Too bad for him." It is sad this man has lost much of his function, but it is not the fault of your staff.
Kooky Korky, BSN, RN
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OP is not whining. She understands all the severe losses this pt has endured and is enduring and will continue to endure. She doesn't need to get over herself. She just needs the pt to know that it is not acceptable to maltreat others just because he has a horrible situation. Not only is it not ok to be ugly to other people, but being ugly makes his situation many times worse because it drives people away from him.
It's hard to see that you apparently do not grasp this fact.