They were in bed together. - page 3

I'm currently completing my med surg clinicals and yesterday was my last day. While going in to check if my client needed anything, I walked in on him and his girlfriend(I'm assuming because I hadn't... Read More

  1. by   Kooky Korky
    Quote from saskrn
    Since he had some dementia and you didn't actually know who the woman was, I would have reported it for safety reasons. When it comes to nursing I never assume, especially where safety is involved.

    I've (unfortunately) found many patients in sexual situations. Some were completely appropriate, some were not. The inappropriate instances included a minor and her boyfriend, a drug seeker who was looking for "some Valium and a really good time", and a 30 year old masturbating cancer patient. The cancer patient wouldn't have been a problem, but he used to masturbate only when specific nursing students were doing clinical, and he used to try and lure them into his room.

    I really can't imagine why anyone would want to have sex in a hospital.
    Perhaps it helps people feel more normal, relieves sexual tension, helps keep the partner happy. Remember - you get to go home, the patient is still there.
  2. by   Kooky Korky
    Quote from KelRN215
    When I worked in the hospital, a colleague once walked in on an infant patient's parents (who were 16 years old, btw) having sex.
    Great. Just what the world needs - another baby for this couple.
  3. by   Ruby Vee
    Quote from hherrn
    You are assuming this actually happened, and that the poster is real.

    First and only post, no response to responding posts.....

    Also, I would assume anybody smart enough to turn on a computer would have the intelligence to ask her supervising nurse or instructor, rather then The World Wide Web.
    I'm assuming it's real. I've encountered it a few times. In the setting of dementia, though, I would wonder about consent. Was the woman his spouse or longtime partner or was she some other dementia patient who might also have consent issues? (I've seen both. I have also seen -- and this disgusts me to no end, but I've seen it with at least three different individuals in three different hospitals in two different states -- a male nurse having sex with the patient or a family member. I also walked in on a 30 year old female nurse making out with her 17 year old patient.

    I think it's a perfect topic of conversation for a post-conference or class discussion. There are plenty of ethical dilemmas all wrapped up in one neat little post.
  4. by   Avid reader
    He would have forgotten about it by now so don't be bringing anything up
  5. by   canadawali
    Very Shocking!! Who was giving the BJs? I hope it was not any hospital staff..
  6. by   Been there,done that
    Privacy is a mandated requirement . Why did you just walk in?
  7. by   Penelope_Pitstop
    Quote from KelRN215
    When I worked in the hospital, a colleague once walked in on an infant patient's parents (who were 16 years old, btw) having sex.
    My best friend revealed to me, after a lot of wine, that she and her husband got busy at their daughter's hospital bedside when she was an infant years earlier.

  8. by   Ruby Vee
    Maybe because, in the absence of permission, the OP feared the patient was unable to grant it. Perhaps it's my long history of cardiac nursing, but I would have gone in to make sure my patient wasn't seizing or unconscious or compromised in some other fashion.