On a positive note: Pediatric home care/private duty can be very rewarding. One-to-one nurse patient ratio, ability to work with the same kid/parents over time so tha tyou can really feel that you are helping. All of the kids I've worked with need remediation of some kind and have special learning needs, most are enrolled in the special ed classes within their school district.
Ventilator dependent kids have a right to go to school, they just have to be accompanied by a nurse. I've been on many case that need a nurse to accompany the kid to school, working usually from 7am to 4 or so, Mon-Fri. Sometimes weekends are required, but believe me, the stress is nowhere near working in a hospital or a classroom full of kids.
Now, to get you there. Nursing school is difficult no matter where you go. LPN programs are not easy, they just try to cram into a 12 month technical program what the rest of us take 4-5 years to do. ADN programs are no piece of cake. BSN programs try to shove doctoral education down undergraduate throats. Nursing school can be an enjoyable learning experience. Pace yourself, find your own rate and rhythm for learning. Since you already have at least a bachelor's degree, go to only a BSN or MSN program. There are accelerated BSN programs (Creighton University in Iowa was one of the first to offer this about 10 years ago, check out web sites of these places). Many options exist nowadays. You can take a lot of course work over the internet, especially the traditional lecture courses (sociology, psychology, etc). Course work that doesn't lend itself to the internet can be done at a local college and then transfered in to the school that you will be obtaining your degree from. Early on, consult with a faculty member to help you plan your curriculum, review the course content of hours that you intend to transfer, develop a time frame, etc. Go to the library and fing out about the recommendations/accreditations made by the American Association of Colleges of Nursing (they accredit bachelors and higher degree programs), the National League of Nursing (they are the oldest accrediting body for nursing ed programs. Again, on the internet, go to your state board of nursing web site and print out a copy of your state's nursing practice act and study it thoroughly. Is this what you really want to get into? Don't listen to hospital staff nurse too much. Very few of them are happy, hospital working conditions are horrible.
Good luck. Edward. IL