Quote from Christie RN2006
I agree! You did everything you could, it was childrens services that screwed up. That whole system is a mess! They leave children in homes that are very dangerous. I mean I see their struggle with the whole thing of what point to take kids, but its when things like this happen that you realize just how messed up the whole system is.
If you are feeling a lot of guilt over what happened, I would recommend finding a counselor to talk to, but don't give up on your dream! Working with people, both children and adults can be very heartbreaking at times, but overall it is the most rewarding thing you will ever do. If you didn't feel any emotion, then I would be worried. I have cried over patients that have died, I have laughed with families and patients over things, and I have also rejoiced with the families whos loved ones survived something they never should have.
Then you have other children that have a home to go to, but the social worker is so ignorant and biased that they hold up the process.
A very close family friend had a chlid informally placed with her by a birth mother...the birth mother was only 27 and had 8 children. The birth mother had been in the foster care system her entire life and had been physically and emotionally and sexually abused and did not want her new baby in foster care.
So the baby went to live with my friend and the mother signed her rights away, and then a SOCIAL WORKER stepped in and HELD UP THE ADOPTION FOR FIVE YEARS! The biological father stepped in 2 1/2 years into the process, trying to get custody...never mind he had an extensive criminal record, was drug addicted, unemployed and didn't have a place to live and was shacked up with some girlfriend....they actually gave the father the opportunity to clean up his entire life, allowed him visitation, held up the process another 2 1/2 years before the case finally got a new judge that put a stop to all of it and allowed the adoption to go through because the father didn't follow through on a single thing he said he would do.
The social worker's bias: My friend had a stillborn infant and she felt my friend was trying to replace her dead child.
What difference did it make??? She and her husband had a wonderful home to give a child and that child is thriving in her care (she is now 8).
Stories like that drive me nuts!