Public Breastfeeding - page 15

In a discussion I had with my brother in law today (who is a future nurse!), I learned he is uncomfortable with public breastfeeding unless there is a blanket involved. I know some folks wouldn't... Read More

  1. by   mercyteapot
    Quote from Q.
    Absolutely. However, are we talking TV or real life here? I thought the issue was BFing women IN PUBLIC, not on TV. So I'm sorry to me, your post makes absolutely no sense.

    Okay, when I posted I was in a "mood" a playful one at that. It's obvious that my comment was taken waaaaaayyyyyyyy out of proportion when it was meant to be tongue in cheek. No different than this from 12 pages or so back from someone OTHER than me:

    So for those I offended, I apologize.
    As far as your conclusion that I have a problem with BFing in public, again, that makes absolutely no sense when I have BF in public myself. My "hang up" as you described, is not BFing per se but women who are INdiscreet. Period. If that's my hang up, then so be it. I'll live with it. But guess what? I can support BFing and do it myself but be discreet about it. Those two concepts CAN coexist.

    That's my story and I'm sticking to it.
    That Speedo comment was made by me, and I really don't see the wisdom in quoting it when you're trying to explain a tongue in cheek remark you made. My remark wasn't tongue in cheek at all. I really think it's disgusting to look at overweight men who have themselves crammed into a swimsuit that looks like it's 2 sizes too small. I also don't think for one second that I should be able to tell these men to be more discreet and wear a suit that looks better on their body type. (And yes, I also think it's ridiculous when overweight women wear bikinis or walk around with the midriff showing. Just...yuck) The point's the same, these things are my problem, not their's. Just a couple of the many things that outrage my sensibilities on a daily basis.
  2. by   Marie_LPN, RN
    I think the big difference in that scenario and the OT is that BF serves a purpose of feeding children. Some speedo-wearing dude is not quite as comparable.
  3. by   gypsyatheart
    Well, Q., I was talking about real life, as well as TV (although every time I turn on the "boob tube"....get it ,LOL, anymore, it seems like I'm seeing more and more nudity). Seriously, in real life, you see people scantily dressed, and yeah, sometimes it is offensive, to me, but what the heck, I just thank the Lord it's not me dressed that way (cause to tell you the truth, they often don't look that great ).
    I figured you were commenting partly in humor, so it's all good....I just don't see the big deal w/bf'ing, period, public or not. I really don't think I've ever seen anyone not being discreet, but even if I did, well, to each their own, kwim?
  4. by   mercyteapot
    Quote from Marie_LPN
    I think the big difference in that scenario and the OT is that BF serves a purpose of feeding children. Some speedo-wearing dude is not quite as comparable.
    It isn't exactly meant to be a comparison, just a parallel as to the fact that all of us have something that we're not comfortable seeing. I once had a patient complain that a teenager in the waiting room had "grotesque" acne. Yeah, why don't I go out there and tell him to leave. You know, they're all just basically too bad for us, when it comes right down to it. It is very unreasonable to actually believe that because you (in general, not you specifically) don't want to see something, it should just disappear.
  5. by   babynurse2001

    So we're not the only ones that argue about this topic...
  6. by   Q.
    From the article:
    Laws may be in place to protect the rights of those mothers, and it's not as if there is an anti-breast-feeding lobby. But moms will tell you the practice is still not fully accepted by the general public, and self-proclaimed "lactivists" are taking their fight to the streets and the Internet to protest breast-feeding restrictions and negative attitudes.
    This is where I think a line may exist. Laws ARE in place ~ in essence, breastfeeding mothers are protected from being forcibly removed from a public place, etc. The law is clearly on their side. However, individual public perception is something that may not EVER change, and I think taking on an activist (lactivist) attitude might actually prove to be a disservice to everyone. People who have problems with BFing in public don't need it shoved down their throat when clearly, the public spoke and laws were enacted to protect BFing women. I think by simply going about your business and nursing when needed, without trying to further an activist agenda is the best way to get the message across that you simply want to breastfeed, not push your ideas onto someone else.

    Breastfeeding should be about respecting someone's choice to do so, and about feeding and bonding with your baby. If I happen to think breastfeeding is disgusting and choose to bottle feed, I shouldn't have lactivists at my door or workplace trying to force my acceptance. If the law wasn't on their side, I could see the point. But because it is, I DON'T see the point. You aren't going to change everyone's opinion. The best way for society to accept breastfeeding openly in public is just to do so discreetly and like a woman - not like a politician with an agenda.
    Last edit by Q. on Dec 20, '05
  7. by   prinsessa
    I just want to know where are these women with both breasts hanging out are. I have only seen women bfing in public a few times and everytime they were covered up (usually by the baby's head). And for anyone who thinks women should put a blanket over a baby's head while bfing....have you ever tried that? I did that the first couple of times I bf my son in public, but he wouldn't put up with it after he got older. I wouldn't want to eat under a blanket either. Luckily I have never had anyone make a negative comment about me bfing in pubic. We should support women bfing...not make them feel ashamed of it.
  8. by   Marie_LPN, RN
    Ok, about the "nurse-in". BF in public is one thing, but i REALLY have a problem when someone is BF as a demonstration (refering to the ABC newslink) and not out of nutrition for their child
  9. by   Spidey's mom
    Quote from mercyteapot
    I don't get the vagina analogy at all. We are talking about the necessity of exposing a bit of the breast for a specific reason, that being to nourish a child. What, exactly, essential function would we be fulfilling if we were to expose our entire vagina by pulling off our underwear?

    I haven't read the last three pages of this thread - BUT I just had to respond to this and heartily agree. What the heck does a vagina have to do with breastfeeding? That analogy does not make a bit of sense.

  10. by   Spidey's mom
    There was an organized public breastfeeding event in our county a few years ago to specifically combat some of the attitudes found on this thread that public breastfeeding is disgusting and wrong.

    Some of my good friends attended. People who discreetly breastfed their infants in public but just got sincerely tired of being treated like second class citizens.

    The Hooters comments and the photos are excellent examples of a the double standard in America. I told this story on another b/fing thread a few years ago so forgive me for repeating, those who have heard it.

    This was 25 years ago - I was at my boyfriend's house and his sister had a friend come by to visit who had recently had a baby. The baby almost immediately became fussy and was hungry and instead of being comfortable enough to b/f the baby in someone's home, she left. I questioned why she had to leave and my bf's father said "I don't want my boys to see someone breastfeed a baby!". He had 3 sons, 19, 17 and 14. What was so funny is that a few minutes laters, the Dallas Cowboy football game came on and the cheerleaders were being shown and dad yelled for his sons to come and watch specifically the cheerleaders. I, being a smart a$$ said "oh, so it is ok to look at cheerleaders bouncing around on tv but it isn't ok to be in the same room with a woman breastfeeding an infant?". He just glared at me.

    It is simply a food delivery system. It has nothing to do with urination or vaginas or sex.

  11. by   prinsessa
    Quote from stevielynn

    It is simply a food delivery system. It has nothing to do with urination or vaginas or sex.


    Thank you!!! I'm so sick of people compairing bfing to urination.
  12. by   Spidey's mom
    Quote from prinsessa

    Thank you!!! I'm so sick of people compairing bfing to urination.
    Obviously, me too.

  13. by   jnette
    Quote from stevielynn
    Obviously, me too.

    We're SO open about sex, etc., flaunting everything everywhere , but when it comes to basic, natural b'feeding, all of a sudden, this is soooooooo "discomforting"...

    I just don't get it. :stone