Renee, please accept my sincere condolences on the loss of your friend's sister in this tragic accident. I hope that your sister and her friend's boyfriend will recover from their injuries quickly.
I would like to address a couple of your quotes, if I may:
Quote from renee2004
When we got to the hospital after 2am, all 3 were in the ER.
we were informed she had passed away at night, some time after 2am.
Is it at all possible that she passed away before you got to the hospital?
In any case, you asked for nurses to help you understand what happened, and I would like to try.
The three were brought to the hospital. Your sister's best friend was placed in a trauma room and the doctor, several nurses, and other staff were frantically giving medications and doing treatments in an effort to keep her alive.
We have expertise, education, and practice, but what drives us to be better, get faster, and try harder is not that we can brag about how good we are in a trauma. It's because we have sisters who have best friends. We have moms and dads and children of our own. It's because we have thoughts like, "My God, this could be my child here," or "She's just too young to die," that we hold the hand of the dying, that we keep doing CPR long after it's sensible. We don't do it out of professional pride. We save lives because we value life. A stranger's life is as our own. We give our patients what we would want our family to have.
I might not express it very well here, but you need to know that when your sister's friend died in that trauma room, she was not alone at all, but the center of intense activity. Someone was giving medications, someone was giving oxygen, someone was searching for vital signs.
I can assure you that someone was
at that bedside who cared, someone was
holding her hand, someone was
urging her to live despite the great injury she sustained.
But at some point, they knew that she was gone, and that she had been gone for awhile. At some point, they had to stop. They had to let go.
They've had a very short, intense relationship with this person, yet it was hard, extremely hard, to let go.
There were tears in the eyes of those nurses for a woman who was not their
family, not their
friend....but who might have been. There were prayers going up for you and your sister, her friend, boyfriend and family that you might not have heard--but they were said. There were people who were in that room who will never forget how hard they fought for her life.
Because they cared.
I hope you will accept this in the spirit in which it is offered. No, it's not the best system in the world. You're right, it still sucked that laws stood in the way of what would seem to be common human decency.
But please know, she did not die alone in a crowd of uncaring people.
Please know that.