Nursing & website is depressing!!! - page 3

i've noticed a trend on this board. nurses on this board dont like being nurses and it is very sad and discouraging. everyday i check out this board to see what people are talking about. there are... Read More

  1. by   Katnip
    Keep in ming that this board is a safe place for nurses to vent about problems unique to nursing. Most other people who are not in the business can't understand the problems, so where else would you go but to other nurses who've been there?

    Yes, nursing is tough. So are many other industries, and people need to vent, to bounce ideas off one another. That doesn't mean all nurses have a bad day every time they go to work. We just don't always post about the majority of the time when work is just ordinary. That would be boring.

    Sometimes it just takes a bit of job hopping to find just the right niche.

    And I agree...don't answer the phone on your days off. Or get caller ID.
  2. by   oldiebutgoodie
    This is my second career, and frankly, I wish I hadn't done it. I wish I had done X-ray school or med tech or something.

    But it seems that a lot of the problems in nursing boil down to this:

    1. Pt-nurse ratios
    2. Schedules
    3. Horizontal violence

    At least nurse managers could directly address the schedule problem. For example, why do so many hospitals still have rotating shifts? People hate them, research shows that changing sleep patterns frequently is detrimental, and patient safety can be at stake. Yet so many hospitals still use rotating schedules.

    And it is so easy to address weekend staffing by creating weekender positions that pay more. Yet these common-sense solutions don't seem to be implemented more. I would imagine they would be cost-effective, as well, due to reduced turnover/sick days.

    I think that our national nursing organizations need to directly address the horizontal violence issue. I have never experienced such negativity, cattiness, "tattling", and disrespect as in nursing. Read the "First Year in Nursing" boards and see how new nurses are treated. No wonder there is a nursing shortage.

    Somehow, we need to raise awareness of this problem, and nurse managers need to be trained to nip it in the bud, protect newer nurses, and foster positive environments.

    Pt nurse ratios will have to be addressed on a state or national level by legislation.

    Just some thoughts,

  3. by   htrn
    l think one word we as nurses need to learn how to say, and say with conviction, is NO. It should be taught in nursing school and reenforced in the NCLEX and during orientation. If we do not take care of ourselves, we cannot take care of anyone else.

    One thing I noticed from the OP was the very high turnover rate at the facility. That was one of the first questions I asked when I applied/interviewed for a job. I am very happy where I work for the most part. People stay at this hospital for over 40 years - many people stay for that long. People retire and come back to work casual. I have been there 5 years and am still considered one of the new kids.
  4. by   NurseCherlove
    Quote from potatomasher
    this is the "honeymoon" syndrome.

    LOL!! Too funny! (and sadly, too true).
  5. by   muffie
    no is the most freeing word anyone can learn to use
  6. by   JBudd
    Quote from SeanyRN
    I've noticed a trend on this board. Nurses on this board dont like being nurses and it is very sad and discouraging.
    Okay, here you go. I like nursing. I like my job 80-90% of the time. I've been at it 25 years. I am on my second employment with this hospital, going on 14 years this time, left the first time for family reasons. Went on stike once, helped make things a lot better. I am proud of my work, my coworkers, and the things I do. I grumble and mumble when we don't have enough staff, or be able to get patients out of the ER onto the floors or in the unit, but I do get paid time and a half when that happens to compensate for doing extra work. Through nursing I've gotten to work overseas, spend the summer at camp, learn several different specialties, and make a difference in people's lives. I have people I don't even recognise come up to me and thank me for something I've done for them or a family member, I don't remember the details but they do. My kids brag about me (well, I brag about them too ). When I go home, I've done what I could to make my part of the world a little bit better.

    I come here to see what is going on with other nurses, and when I can, offer a word of sympathy. I get a lot of good laughs too, plenty of funny threads. This is a place to share, commiserate, laugh, rejoice, and connect. Not a lot of people outside of nursing can truly understand what we share here.umpiron:
  7. by   fiveofpeep
    thanks all of you for your reassuring words!
    i am a nursing student and have also seen the negativity on allnurses.

    i know that when it comes to communication think of relationships.

    most of the time i only talk about my boyfriend to my girlfriends when i am really pissed off. i need their support. that does not neccessarily mean that there arent times where he makes me incredibly happy too.

    it feels good to know that alot of you do enjoy your jobs. i could not imagine being anything else than a nurse when i grow up. helping people when they are scared, bringing new life into the world, or just doing the boring day-to-day stuff--i hope i will be able to see positivity in most things.

    i definately dont want to go through all of that and experience a burnout so soon either.

    good luck and i am so sorry you had to work on your birthday. that is very poor management.
  8. by   santhony44
    As others have said, this is a place to complain and vent.

    Personally, I don't know anyone in any job or profession who does not have complaints at times, and that includes the self-employed.

    Some threads on the board, too, like "what would you do if you weren't a nurse" as as much fun and fantasy as anything else.

    None of us have our every talent, ability, and love expressed in nursing. We all have other aspects of our "selves" that need other outlets and some of these threads express those.
  9. by   nursemike
    My experience has been that anything that's all fun, all the time, costs me money. But I love my stupid job.

    Sometimes you have to read between the lines. For example, when my CN overheard my remark to myself when my card key wouldn't open the med room door for like the umpeenth time the other night, I simply pointed out to her that what I said could literally mean a puppy, and who in the world could be offended by a puppY?
    Man, I hope they get that SOB fixed, soon.
  10. by   CseMgr1
    Quite frankly, I don't know what I would do without this website.

    As a previous poster stated, Allnurses provides a safe haven for us in a world in which very few seem to care about or understand the unique problems of nurses. The only person who ever really cared or understood the problems I was having both personally and professionally was my Mother, and she passed away in 1998. We used to talk every day, and I found myself still reaching for the phone to call her for weeks after she died. My sister does not want to hear about my problems, for she has too many of her own. My best friend who I have known since the age of 12 moved out of state years ago after her husband was transferred. And my son, who is tied up with a demanding job, three kids and a bratty wife, is too busy to talk to me. So, here I am. And I can't think of a better place in which to come to every day.
    Last edit by CseMgr1 on Nov 6, '06
  11. by   angelcharm
    Quote from muffie
    no is the most freeing word anyone can learn to use
    right.. but if u have a patient left behind. u have to consider
    responsiblity and compassion before u say anything..

    my first post..hehe.. and my first time to be here.
    sorry im just learning this stuff..
    i havent found anything depressing here yet.
  12. by   DDRN4me
    to the op: happy birthday ..belated now!!

    please do not confuse people's frustration with thier jobs with frustration with nursing!!!! the great thing about being a nurse is that there are many many different career opportunities that can be found. some with patient care, some with out; some with many co workers, some with few.

    sounds like one of your larger problems is your place of employment...maybe you do need a change. many of us come here to vent, hence the number of negative posts....but many of us love what we do ... we may not write about it , but there are great moments for most, if not all of us.

    saying no is a great piece of advice, one i still have trouble doing, my dh says that i am my own worst enemy!!!

    good luck to you, i hope things work out!!! mary
  13. by   Tweety
    Quote from maggiofliore
    thanks all of you for your reassuring words!
    i am a nursing student and have also seen the negativity on allnurses.

    it can be discouraging. it is indeed sad and depressing some of the situations nurses are in.

    i try to keep things in perspective. it's a message board where people vent and it's always been skewed to the negative. most of the posts are actually neutral with people asking questions and asking for advice.

    there are many positive posts and testimonials. one shouldn't negate them when you read a negative post.

    nursing is tough, demanding and only the strong survive. but most of us are trudging along day to day doing the best that we can and aren't depressed or negative.

    but it's best to know what your getting into for sure.