Nursing & website is depressing!!!

[SeanyRN]

i've noticed a trend on this board. nurses on this board dont like being nurses and it is very sad and discouraging. everyday i check out this board to see what people are talking about. there are always threads about "quitting 4 months into nursing, why are they all leaving, what career would you have chosen if you werent a nurse, help new job and miserable already, anyone quit a job to go into nursing and then regretted making the decision, etc,etc,etc. i read these threads and it makes me very scared about the future of nursing. something has to be done!! i've been a nurse for 8 months. and im starting to feel the same way. when people say wow you have your bsn. i think to myself who cares, nurses get treated like crap. today i had to call about 8 different doctors, a dialysis nurse, case manager who had no clue what to do, and inform them on the care of the patient. this is why so many people leave nursing. i hate having to say "im going back to school next year to be a crna or maybe med school" depending on how i feel. why do we get treated soooo bad.

another thing im upset about. i wasnt suppose to work today. management begged me to come in on my b-day to work only a half day and another nurse would do 1p -7p. you guessed it at 1 pm there was no nurse to relieve me. i stayed until 7 pm on my b-day when i wasnt even suppose to come in. management all of a sudden couldnt be reached! i felt so used and disrepected. has this ever happen to anyone. oh yeah the nurse who was scheduled to finish the day was still on orientation and couldnt come in. what should i do about this situation?????

[angelcharm]

no is the most freeing word anyone can learn to use

right.. but if u have a patient left behind. u have to consider

responsiblity and compassion before u say anything..

my first post..hehe.. and my first time to be here.

sorry im just learning this stuff..

i havent found anything depressing here yet.

[DDRN4me]

to the op: happy birthday ..belated now!!

please do not confuse people's frustration with thier jobs with frustration with nursing!!!! the great thing about being a nurse is that there are many many different career opportunities that can be found. some with patient care, some with out; some with many co workers, some with few.

sounds like one of your larger problems is your place of employment...maybe you do need a change. many of us come here to vent, hence the number of negative posts....but many of us love what we do ... we may not write about it , but there are great moments for most, if not all of us.

saying no is a great piece of advice, one i still have trouble doing, my dh says that i am my own worst enemy!!!

good luck to you, i hope things work out!!! mary

[Tweety, BSN, RN]

thanks all of you for your reassuring words!

i am a nursing student and have also seen the negativity on allnurses.

it can be discouraging. it is indeed sad and depressing some of the situations nurses are in.

i try to keep things in perspective. it's a message board where people vent and it's always been skewed to the negative. most of the posts are actually neutral with people asking questions and asking for advice.

there are many positive posts and testimonials. one shouldn't negate them when you read a negative post.

nursing is tough, demanding and only the strong survive. but most of us are trudging along day to day doing the best that we can and aren't depressed or negative.

but it's best to know what your getting into for sure.

[bearsnurse]

all nurses has given me comfort it is reassuring to know that i am not alone. nurses care for other people but who cares for our nurses? this web site has helped me a lot with information and the experiences shared here may it be positive or negative has given me insights of this noble profession that we chose to be. i think it boils down to as nurses we are our worst critics but this is good too for we as a profession find ways to develop and improve on our practices.

[SeanyRN]

Thankyou all my fellow nurses for making me feel better. I have to learn to say "NO!" in a nice way. Everyone on this board is so responsive and helpful. thanx.

[PANurseRN1]

right.. but if u have a patient left behind. u have to consider

responsiblity and compassion before u say anything..

my first post..hehe.. and my first time to be here.

sorry im just learning this stuff..

i havent found anything depressing here yet.

and if you run yourself into the ground constantly "giving," you won't be able to take care of many more patients.

this "martyr mary" attitude drives me nuts. it does all of us a disservice, because those few nurses who give, give, give all the time with no thought to themselves are held up by mgmt. as examples to those of us who dare to say "no" on occasion.