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I'm 15 months out of school and have only work in a doctors office setting. I took a job in November that, while still an office, is part of a hospital setting. I fought tooth and nail to get this job and get into a hospital affiliation. My hopes is that after a year (my contract to stay in this position) I will have made some connections and can transfer into a med/surg floor.

Here's my dilemma....i HATE my job! Literally every day i go in there i feel like i am wasting my life. I am working 40 hours a week and i miss my kids, and feel like I'm not even making a difference/helping patients or respected by anyone. I feel like at times I am putting my license at risk and do not have the support that i need to do my job.

I sent out my resume to a few places and was offered a job in another office setting, but this one is not affiliated with a hospital, BUT its 20 hours a week and much more flexible.

I guess I'm just trying to weigh my priorities. I WANT to be home more with my kids, and i WANT to work on an inpatient floor, and i WANT to love my job. I realize that right now all of these may not be possible...but at this point none of these are happening. Do i stick it out for another 9 months in hopes that i'm actually able to get a hospital job? Do i talk to my manager about maybe cutting down my hours already (I mean i just started 4 months ago)?

Thoughts?

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Specializes in Med surg, LTC, Administration.

You should leave and take the twenty hour position. Your family is important to you and you will not be happy being out of the house much more than that. I always worked 16-24 hours when my kids were small and don't regret it. Now I work 40 hours and love it. It is all about where you are in your life. Everything is for a season...luckily in nursing, we have much flexibility. Peace!

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Take the 20 hr. a week job. That way you can be with your kids and hopefully you eill like this new job better:) You can always get a new job at a hospital later.

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Specializes in Home health was tops, 2nd was L&D.

I agree take the 20 hr job..kids will only be kids once..hospital will still be there in yrs to come. Enjoy your life as a mother.

I was single mom and worked very hard to "provide" the way I thought was needed. All 3 children , after they grew up when we were taking about the tough times said to me ( now they were not together and in no way collaberated their stories). They thanked me for working so hard but really wished I had worked less and spent more time with them. They all 3 admitted they wished they had not asked for so many things.

Now I am grandmother and my son with 2 grand kids lives local, my oldest with 2 lives in S. FL and youngest with one lives in Hawaii..I have no chance to recover any of that lost time cause once time is gone it gone forever. I spend tons of time with the 2 local grand kids but as they get older they want time with friends not so much with me.

So be with them now.. you will have plenty of time for working more soon enough.

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I'm 15 months out of school and have only work in a doctors office setting. I took a job in November that, while still an office, is part of a hospital setting. I fought tooth and nail to get this job and get into a hospital affiliation. My hopes is that after a year (my contract to stay in this position) I will have made some connections and can transfer into a med/surg floor.

Here's my dilemma....i HATE my job! Literally every day i go in there i feel like i am wasting my life. I am working 40 hours a week and i miss my kids, and feel like I'm not even making a difference/helping patients or respected by anyone. I feel like at times I am putting my license at risk and do not have the support that i need to do my job.

I sent out my resume to a few places and was offered a job in another office setting, but this one is not affiliated with a hospital, BUT its 20 hours a week and much more flexible.

I guess I'm just trying to weigh my priorities. I WANT to be home more with my kids, and i WANT to work on an inpatient floor, and i WANT to love my job. I realize that right now all of these may not be possible...but at this point none of these are happening. Do i stick it out for another 9 months in hopes that i'm actually able to get a hospital job? Do i talk to my manager about maybe cutting down my hours already (I mean i just started 4 months ago)?

Thoughts?

You do what is right for YOU! Be happpy with your growing family. As others have said on this forum, the jobs will always be there...your kids will be gone (to college, an apartment) in a heartbeat. Good luck!

P.S. There are no PERFECT JOBS! But find one eventually you do like. Life is sooooo short.....Just my :twocents:!

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Specializes in Home Health/Hospice.

Okay for me family comes first. I would take the other job offer and go down in my hours and be with my family. When you're on your deathbed are you going to remember all the times you worked? Or will you remember the times you spent with your family?

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