I'm not a nurse, I'm the embarrassed patient

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I know this is inappropriate my registering as a member to your wonderful site and I apologize. I thank Josepha very much for contacting me and I thank you all so much for your support. I registered because I have no one else to talk to about this and I don't know why it's hit me so hard. I'm the man who was embarrassed by his physician in front of a medical student and my wife. I fear so much that nothing will come of this and my feelings will be dismissed. It's almost 4 a.m. and I have to be up by 7:30 , I've been drinking and agonizing again this evening after everyone's gone to sleep. I don't know why it's hit me so hard, so many other things going on. It's just the straw that broke the camel's back. I really don't know what to say except thank you for all the nice things you've said.

I guess I do have more to say because I'm still typing!... I feel like I'm intruding because I'm not in the medical profession but I've had so many good experiences with nurses and assistance that I feel comfortable talking to you. Is it okay for me to be here?

My mother was forced into a nursing home last year by my brother who holds power of attorney over her health money and is executor of her will. I guess I'm the black sheep of the family... he's moved to Utah, my mother is in a nursing home to the very end. I've tried many times to take her home with us but she is combative and my wife has had enough and it's tearing me apart.

impotence a four year headache confidence failing...Oh woe is me. And that's it, enough of me.

The nurses, administrators and so many other people in the medical profession are so wonderful. So many nice people with hearts of gold like yours. I just want to say thank you so much.

Why has this hit me so hard! When I went back to the doctor (after waiting weeks for a reply) I asked the nurse if she would weigh me because I knew I had lost weight and I'm looking pretty trim! Started smoking again after four years... why has this hit me so hard?

I'm going to a new doctor on Monday, a woman and I have high hopes because I feel terrible. My wife is telling me I should ask if she could put me on antidepressants and also wants me to see a counselor which I will do. This shouldn't bother me so much, I know my feelings aren't right but I'm feeling them anyway. I've told a few friends and I found out I don't have any close enough so I laid the burden on my wife.it must be embarrassing for her to have her man fall down for such a trivial thing.

I read all the messages that you've posted and I thank you very much and I know I'm beginning to not make sense so I should go. I really like your web site and I wish you all the best! Thank you so much.

Larry

P.S.. If I can't stay I made my email available in my profile if anybody would like to e-mail me... I feel like such a weak puppy somebody slap me.

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Hi Larry,

I'm sure sorry you've been having a difficult time of it, and to be embarrassed by your physician is definately not a good thing. I can understand you coming here for advice and support, and I'm happy you have enough confidence in nurses to turn to us.

I just don't understand the incident, so it is pretty hard to give advice on what to do about it. Are you interested in an apology from the doc, or just venting, or ???

Anyway, just remember you always have the option to change physicians, and you can certainly tell the doc what it was that he did that embarrassed you so. I personally think more people should speak up to doctors so they are aware of their impact on a person's life.

Hope 2006 is better for you.

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Specializes in Acute Care Psych, DNP Student.

I find this odd. My radar is going off.

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Specializes in Med-Surg, Trauma, Ortho, Neuro, Cardiac.

Hi Larry. I'm sorry this has happened to you.

The best idea for you right now is what your wife is encouraging: a new doctor and counseling. Drinking, smoking, loosing sleep and not eating are definate signs of ineffective coping and depression and you need some professional help. That's o.k. because many of us, if not all of us get to a point like that sometimes in our life.

This could be the bottom and a major turning point for a better and new life. Time to move forward and onward, not living in the past, and not destroying yourself. Take care of yourself. Good luck.

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hi larry,

like some of the other nurses, i'm not exactly sure what is going on. i am new to this website, so if there were any prior posts, i have to apologize because i have missed them. i'm not quite exactly sure what was said or done that embarassed you so infront of your wife. however, i'm not exactly sure what is frustrating you either...is it the fact that your dr. had embarassed you infront of your wife, or the fact that your mother is in a nursing home. was it something that the dr. said to you because you're having the blues about your mother being in a nursing home? it's hard to give any advice or guidence when we're kind of confused to what exactly the problem(s) is/are.

it's obvious that you are extremely upset about your mother being in a nursing home. i can tell you this, maybe that will help you find some comfort with the situation of your mother. i was a nursing assistant for 15 years and worked in 5 different nursing homes. the residents in the nursing homes where i worked were very well taken care of, of course i can't speak for every nursing home out there.

if you find the nursing home ordeal a major issue...all i can pretty much tell you is it's probably something that you need to speak to your brother about and perhaps have in-home nursing care for your mother if the funding is available to do that.

whatever the problems may be, or how trying certain situations are, they usually work themselves out. if you feel you need to see a dr. because of depression thats great that you can recognize that.

i wish you the best of luck with everything that you have going on in your life.

take care and god bless,

rhy:melody:

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I remember the post abut what happened to you and I was FLOORED! What a JERK that MD was. I am very glad you decided to go to a different MD. If I were you I would lodge a complaint with the Board of Medical Examiners. Honestly, it may not go anywhere but may make you fell a little better.

I have to tell you that I agree with your wife that you should get on some anti-depressants as (although I do not have a medical degree) it sounds like you do suffer with depression. There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with admitting to this, especially given what you have ben through. I was on them for far too long though (7 years) and recently went off on my own (DO NOT recommend that, BTW). I feel I was able to go off cold turkey because I had not been depressed for years and was only dependent on them to sleep.

I hope you continue to come here and share your progress with us. Take care.

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Hi Larry. I read that original post also.

You most certainly should be screened for depression. Ask your new doc for a referral to a psychiatrist or psychologist. They're the experts with these things. They are the experts with mental health issues. Unfortunately most family practicioners and internists just don't have the in-depth knowledge about mental health and can't follow up as well as a specialist can.

Good luck to you.

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O.K. - now I'm really confused. This is Larry's first post, yet you two know all about the incident. :confused:

Anyway, hope you get it all straightened out Larry.

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O.K. - now I'm really confused. This is Larry's first post, yet you two know all about the incident. :confused:

Anyway, hope you get it all straightened out Larry.

A nurse here posted about a patient who had difficulty. This is the patient who is posting now.

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I am confussed also. Could someone post the link to the original post?

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I am confussed also. Could someone post the link to the original post?

https://allnurses.com/forums/f8/whose-resposibility-ask-patient-135250.html

Here is the original thread.

Welcome Larry. I'm glad you chose to see a different doctor, hopefully one that is more sensitive towards patients. Take care and may the new year be a blessed one.

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Specializes in Telemetry & Obs.

Does anyone else think joeyrush and larry are one and the same??

:confused:

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