I will talk, you just listen - page 2

Nursing school was the goal, discovering who I am and the qualities I possess is what I received on the journey. When I got out of high school, I went into college bright eyed and bushy tailed,... Read More

  1. by   mglynn3210
    i have reccently returned to LTC after working in primary care the last nine years the nurses who orientated me said "You don't have to talk to them" but I do and I will continue do so that is what is important thanks
  2. by   Newfie Lover
    I am outraged that a nurse would tell you "you don't have to talk to them." How horrible it must be to be patients in that facility! Hopefully, there are a lot more nurses like you there, than like the heartless, or burned out nurse, who you described. That person should be reported!
  3. by   achot chavi
    In hebrew we say that words that emanate from the heart, will enter the heart, you did an amazing and beautiful thing. You might have been the last person to treat the patient like a human being.
    In nursing the first rule is do no harm, and the second is to try and leave the patient better off that when you came- which you did!!
    Way to go!!
  4. by   snapper1960
    I appreciate that you shared this with us. It is important to "feel" and remember that we are all human. I had a similar experience when I attended the harvesting of organs from a young woman who was a patient of mine when I did case management. She had a successful aneurysmectomy, only to have a catastropic event causing her ICP to rise, and herniate her brainstem. I followed the process from the donor nurse coming to assess her, to the calling of various teams from around the country for organ procurement. She donated heart, lungs, liver, kidneys, eye, skin, and bone. It was very intense, and for some reason, I kept thinking we might be able to "save" her. When her heart was removed, the anesthesiologist turned off the monitors, extubated her, and there was nothing but sudden silence in the room. I had so many thoughts and emotions, and wondered at what point her soul actually left her body, and thoughts along those lines. This was many years ago, yet, I will always remember her, and remember the way I felt and the new respect I found for life and death and the human body and spirit.
  5. by   Hawaj
    I had always felt that talking to unresponsive pt. will make us as stupeds but now I realized that It makes us as humans.
    thanks for sharing with us your feelings and experiences.
    God help you all.
  6. by   Susie Nurse
    that was beautiful. thank you soo much for sharing. i always talk to my patients too, whether they just listen, or respond. ur awesome.
  7. by   Wendy_Leebov
    I'm so glad you chose to go into nursing. You sound very committed to people's well being, and it sounds liek you have a lot of compassion. best wishes.....
    Wendy Leebov
  8. by   rn5350
    I have only been a nurse for 3 years, but always have known this is what I wanted. In my first year as a new grad, there was a patient that was on the verge of dying, no family was present at the time. We put him on tele, DNR, everyone in the room was kinda just starring, not talking. I had seen his heart go into vtach/vfib from the nurses station, although he was not my patient, I walked in, held his hand, leaned over and said to him, " It's ok sir, don't worry, I'm here with you, soon you won't be suffering anymore, your family is on the way. It's ok to let go." He passed in the next few moments. I guess that just came naturally to me. The CNA next to me, pulled me aside when it was all over, "Jen, that was so beautiful, I wish I had had the courage to do that."

    I often find myself a little more attached to my patients than the nurses around me. Sometimes coworkers criticize me for being, "TOO NICE." As one said not long ago, " We will have to work on changing you." I laughed and said, " I don't want to be anyone other than who I AM!"

    I had an ALS patient not long ago as well, at times he was on the call light every other minute, for simple, sometimes annoying things like... turn the fan, fix my pillow, open the curtain, I have an itch on my forhead. It did not really bother me to tend to his calls, he was my only patient that time, but those around me kept saying, " OMG he is so annoying, I am glad he isn't my patient." I wouldn't answer the call lights, only if the VENT isn't going off, he can wait!" I said to this person, " You know, if i couldn't move my hands, head, barely my legs and couldn't talk, I would hope someone would treat me with kindness and compassion. This is his only way of controlling what goes on around him. I can only imagine how you would respond in his situation."

    I think it goes without saying that we take everything we do for granted. From scratching and itch, to pulling up your blanket when your cold. To go from being and independant person, 5 months later, bed bound. Please remember to treat others the way you would want to be treated! And don't let anyone try to change you, that is what makes you a good nurse!!!
  9. by   puppyrules
    thank you for your compassion and kindness and wisdom. i want to be the kind of nurse -- scratch that -- the kind of human being that you are...
  10. by   CBsMommy
    Thank you for sharing. I remember my AHA moment in my last clinical of CNA class that I knew nursing was meant for me. I was working in LTC, it was after breakfast so we were wheeling the residents into the TV room to relax. I heard one of the residents, with dementia, screaming. It turns out they were trying to take her slipper off her foot to examine a wound and she was fighting them. I remember a few days before that the only time she would quiet down was if she was next to a radio. I walked into the room and out of nowhere I started singing. Not only were the other techs and LPN able to take off her slipper and sock but the resident started singing with me! She looked up with tears in her eyes and in a moment of proudness for herself let me know that she could count to five. It was one of the most beautiful and awe-inspiring moments of my life and I cannot wait to touch more people's lives like I touched her's.

    Way to go!
  11. by   tracyd77
    Thanks for sharing... reminds me of a career-confirming moment of my own. I was visiting my best friend in the hospital after her gall bladder surgery and she was in a semi-private room with an elderly patient who was in a coma. We were already sad for the lady b/c she didn't have any visitors the whole time we were there. Then bathing time came and this tech came in with a nurse and administered a bed bath... he kept complaining OUTLOUD about how bad she stunk and that he didn't sign up for this type of job and he couldn't wait until he no longer had to do this dirty work, etc. We were FLOORED that he was saying all of that WHILE bathing the patient. It made me sick! They had the curtain drawn and maybe didn't realize we were on the other side of the curtain, but definitely had no shame in what he was saying. I just knew that the patient could hear him. It broke my heart how inconsiderate he was to her feelings and wanted to stand up to him so badly, but was afraid that my friend's quality of care would suffer if I did. That to me was a light-bulb moment that reminded me what kind of nurse I want to be... total opposite of that jack@$$!!
  12. by   TuTonka
    Quote from eriksoln
    Great story. I needed a break from all the bitter threads, to hear something about nurses wanting to help people again. Thanks.
    Many posts may sound bitter but they often are just venting frustration and a way to disprove something to themselves. Nurses often do not have a venting group so they use this one, and yes they all need breaks. Thanks for the post.

    As for the story it was very heart touching and I Thank-you all for the posting. Retired too soon I pray your health improves by leaps and bounds . I am pulling for you. Good Luck