How many of you married doctors? - page 4

Hi all! I'm currently a student at Johns Hopkins SON, just starting, and I'm wondering how hard it will be to meet and date some of the male med students here to seek out future husbands. Don't... Read More

  1. by   Sleepyeyes
    "And, JMHO, please please please drop nursing. Go be a model, an actress, whatever....
    but (I never thought I'd hear myself say this, but there ya go) PLEASE
    please---anything but nursing"

    I think you have a lot of nerve. How dare you make a judgement call like that and then sign off with a quote from the bible???! Kinda hypocritical don't you think? I'm not a Christian, but I do believe that somewhere in the bible it says "judge not lest ye be judged". oh, something like that.

    Anyway, I think that's terrible that someone would ask a person to not consider nursing just because they consider their question shallow. First of all, who doesn't have a shallow side to them? Someone's doctor-husband/wife might be your Dolce and Gabanna shoes- it's all relative!

    You guys might think the question is beneath you, you might be appalled that someone would even think that way, but please get off your moral soapbox(es). Life is not that serious.

    Love you all (really!)

    Yes, you're entirely correct. I do have a lot of nerve, don't I?

    So does anyone who thinks that nursing is all about finding the right man, or that Christianity is not about truth.
  2. by   TCW
    sleepyeyes, yeah, we all do have a shallow side to us and yes, some people were generalizing about doctors, but marrying someone for money and buying dolce and gabbana shoes are 2 totally different things. The point I was trying to make (and I speak only for me) is that marriage should not be to elevate one's place in society. Not nowadays when women can be and do whatever we d@!# well please!!!

    Someone said it best, although the name escapes me at the moment "marriage should be a union of the minds not a means of support"

  3. by   LasVegasRN
    Originally posted by Sleepyeyes
    Yes, you're entirely correct. I do have a lot of nerve, don't I?
    So does anyone who thinks that nursing is all about finding the right man, or that Christianity is not about truth.
    You've got a lot of nerve having a lot of nerve and being nervy on this thread.
    Sleepeyes - you rock, girl!
  4. by   Albirdie
    I think that a woman who is looking to find a doc with a lot of money should instead find a "therapist", you know the kind that do counseling because you may have some esteem issues. You should never look for someone because of money. My husband is I guess what you would call a "blue collar" and is the best husband, daddy, and provider a woman could ask for. He is putting me through nursing school and as I am writing this bathing our children while I am typing away. You, I am afraid are looking for the wrong things in a person to be your partner.
  5. by   nursegoodguy
    Now there are other ways of living in NYC... I'll tell you how I did it for a year back in the 80's...
    Well I met this girl named Jackie. She invited me to join the religious cult that she was a member of and I thought, "Hey I'm open for a new experience..." (plus I really wanted to live in NYC) Well after 3 months at "camp" I was ready for the BIG CITY! I became a "fund raiser"... Yeah, yeah that was me trying to sell you flowers at the airport! So there I am, a little guy barely 120lbs, not even of age yet, in a white oxford shirt wearing a think black tie, hair neatly combed over, and very timid! (Just got through 3 months of cultcamp)
    Well it wasn't a very good day for flower sales, but I notice out of the corner of my eye this woman staring at me... She was a kind of an older red haired robust woman wearing those little pointy high heals and carying a "purse", (she sort of looked like the mama in throw mama from the train...) Well I thought maybe she wanted a flower so I go up to her and ask, "Excuse me ma'am, would you like a flower?" Well she looked at me with these beady eyes then stood straight up and started calling me, "Why you dirty rotten little, EDIT EDIT EDIT!" I started backing up as she was coming towards me and now she was swinging her purse in the air, round and round her voice getting louder and louder! She scared the heck outta me and I fell backwards over my flower bucket and she was still coming so I threw the flowers outta my hand, jumped up and ran for the exit just as fast as I could! I thought I was safe but as I turned around I see those little pointy high heals running right behind me still cussing and still swinging that purse in the air!
    Okay maybe the doctor thing is not such a bad idea afterall?
    I'm still trying to think of a 15 letter word!
    Seriously though, only you know what you think the right reasons are to get married... Just keep in mind, we never end up with the type of person we think we want to find when we are young... And that's not always a bad thing...
  6. by   Sleepyeyes
    Originally posted by LasVegasRN

    You've got a lot of nerve having a lot of nerve and being nervy on this thread.
    Sleepeyes - you rock, girl!
    Awww shucks, LV, tweren't nuttin. You know how I'm always flaming the newbies and tellin' 'em to get outta the profession.

    My silly shallow sleepy (swollen-footed) self thanks you... :kiss
    Hehehehehehehehehe @ bagging the MD........:chuckle

    Maybe when she realises in the real world after all those back to back shifts, double shifts etc that she really will be way too tired to slather on those lashing of seductive mascara and glossy lips, the 'sculptured' cheekbones that could slice butter and tend to that just 'left the hairdressers kinda hairdo'......

    And I am sure she will tire of setting the alarm 2 hours before shift starts to enable her to ready herself for the seriously flirting shift hehehehehe........ ...and then theres the matter of keeping it all just purrrrrrrrrrfect for the entire shift.....must really concentrate more on looking good than actually sweating it out in the trenches.........lets hope she learns fast andele andele andele!.....
  8. by   fedupnurse
    I honestly can't think of any docs I know that I would even date let alone marry! 95% are like health care execs: worried only about the bottom line rather than about their patients. I agree that marriage should be a union of mutual love and respect and not a way to elevate one's place in society. I still don't understand why docs get the blanket respect they do. I have maybe one doc from each specialty that I trust with my life. That's a pretty sad statement when you work in a large teaching hospital that has hundreds of docs on staff.
    And working nights I can tell you, they aren't at the hospital at night, most of the time, when they say they are. I love it when their wives call up looking for them. Sorry but I am not paid enough to make you look good OR to lie for you to your spouse!!!
  9. by   nursegoodguy
    On second thought, I see a linen closet in someone's future...
  10. by   jayna
    Originally posted by JHUnurse
    Hi all!

    I'm currently a student at Johns Hopkins SON, just starting, and I'm wondering how hard it will be to meet and date some of the male med students here to seek out future husbands. Don't get me wrong, marrying a doctor is NOT the reason I want to be a nurse, it's just an added benefit. Let's face it, my nursing salary will not be enough to live in NYC, where I want to live, AND support a family.

    So how many of you managed to score doctor husbands, and how'd you do it? Any suggestions on how I can meet some of them?

    Is this somekind of a research you are doing?

    I dated doctors, it's fun but but never thought of marrying one.

  11. by   OrthoNutter
    Urgh...I will never date a doc again. I was living with one up until a year ago and he was sooo demanding, not to mention, we worked at the same hospital and he was always wanting to talk about cases at home. He didn't understand why I didn't want to relive every torturous moment of my shift at home. lol The other thing that bugged me was that he was allowed to do as many hours overtime as he liked but if I was a few hours late home or I hadn't cooked anything because I just got home myself, he'd storm out of the house and get takeaway.

    Never again would I date someone I work with....except the physios and resp techs....hehe...I could be swayed on them.
  12. by   marci3335
    Originally posted by tcolleen
    As for me, I recommend finding a nice engineer. I married one and he is stable, funny, intelligent and will make a very good father. I have also met many of his friends, and they are not nearly as boring as the stereotype will have you believe.

    Ah yes, an engineer. My hubby's an engineer and a great father to boot! Makes breakfast for the kids and is home by 5!! I wouldn't want it any other way!


    Last edit by marci3335 on Jul 7, '02
  13. by   hapeewendy
    heres a wacky little idear..
    how bout you try to acheive your goals like living in NYC on your own merit?
    instead of trying to score with a dr
    that is so 1950's
    *shaking head in disbelief that young women today still think this way*
    I'm in my 20's and I cant imagine wanting to compromise the happiness of a marriage just so that I can live in the right city or have all the comforts that I dont currently have.
    I demand being able to see , spend time with, have meals with, watch movies with, make love with any partner or future husband of mine
    so yah guess that takes any doctor out of the running for me.
    but then again what do I know about anything?
    I'm just some young naive thing trying to make her way in this world and find true love of her own while making her own living and dreams come true
    *takes a moment to rethink the whole scoring a dr thing, could probably do it......nahhhh wont compromise my entire being for that, sorry!*